Why Saying Nice Guys finish Last is the wrong mortally!

[Lemia]

A anonymous user posted a my take a few days ago saying Instead of being nice to people you should play dirty and treat people like dirt. I understand they were hurt having a relationship in ruins, but you can't blame your lack of experience and your rush to get married on the entire female race, It's true not all nice guys get the girl or get friends but you shouldn't tell other to change who they are because it didn't work for you. It's true I haven't always been treated with respect and dignity by people but I didn't change how I treated others and advently I found a group of friends and a girlfriend.

The Moral of the story is Never tell people to change because you might like be a pompous idiot but others might like being nice.

[SkyLXVIV]

Being Nice to people comes with a price, you almost never receive that kindness back. Or at least never the way you want it.

[Lemia]

You got a lot to learn if you believe that.

[Hunter7754]

He's got a point. The old adage holds true "No good deed goes unpunished"

[Lemia]

Who got a point me or sky? Granted thier are jerks that won't but most people treat you with respect if you nice to them

[Hunter7754]

Sky has a point. Its better to remain distant than to be kind. Kindness often is exploited.

[Lemia]

Depends on the way you look at it but each his own.

[SkyLXVIV]

This turned into a full on argument really fast lol

[Lemia]

Its not really agrumemt we just have diffence of a opioin on the subject

[SkyLXVIV]

Fair enough

[DorkVader]

Kindness comes at a cost for sure. You have to be willing to give more than you receive, because the world isn't kind back. However, you have to have balance and know when to advocate for yourself and set boundaries

[justcurious2019]

well said

[justcurious2019]

Thanks for mho

[Insomnia72]

I took notice of a crowd of guys on the internet called mgtows (men going their own way) and anti-feminists who spout this kind of immaturity. I got banned constantly on Reddit going there trying to set them straight, to see that the flaw is with their point of view, not women. I gave up. I don't go on Reddit anymore, just a bunch of boys who think women just want money. Everyone wants money, even guys. But money brings entertainment, therefore more expanse to passion, and that is the aim... passion; excitement. Find a way to bypass what money you don't have and enjoy life and entertain others.

[Lemia]

Ok I'm not sure how this relates to my take

[Insomnia72]

Sorry. I was just brainstorming, a kind of thunder storm, again. Insomnia. My brain is malfunctioning.

[Lemia]

Fair enough

[Stingray444]

Exactly.. Well, why should anyone be Other than nice?

It makes me upset when people say things like "Nice guys don't win"... Maybe I should just go around slapping people on the face then, figuratively and/or literally to just be considered "bad". Will I get the girls then? 🤦‍♂️

[Lemia]

@Stingray444 Thanks for the Follow but Not sure why you followed?

[Doctor_Strix]

I’m seeing a lot of confusion here. And a popular thought, “Being nice means I get nothing in return”. Here is a thought, “Be kind and respectful to others.” Full stop.. Why is there a belief you should get anything in return? Why expect it? Being nice isn’t a service with an expectation of compensation. Be humble that you have that opportunity to put a smile on somebody’s face. And leave it at that. Otherwise, you’re just as dark as the ones that are douches in the open.

[JayParris]

The problem is in the semantic definition of "nice". I recognize two distinct types of nice. There's cordial, polite nice, and there's foolish doormat nice.

You can be cordial, charming, and polite while looking still looking out for yourself and being dominantly assertive. That type of man will almost always get what he wants.

The foolish doormat type just lets himself get used over and over.

[Wildmanjohn]

People should treat others the way they want and expect to be treated.

[Lemia]

Too True

[CoolHoney]

I get It but toke a poo past relationships e. g. past ex boyfriend did cheat on me and other went other with new girls part from one, but he turns to be coward. I was cheated on more than once with past ex bfs I was the one that been loyal but it never paid in the end.

[kespethdude]

The guy was a scumbag. Pay no attention to his opinions. Hopefully he's in a prison cell with Big Bubba right now.

[NerdInDenial]

Don't trust anyone; they have the ability to hurt you and often times, they do. You have to take care of yourself. Sometimes, that includes playing dirty.

[hellacray]

I have a better idea why don't you just treat people how you want to be treated.

It's been working for me for a long time.

[LemiaOfChampions]

Its a common trop that gurls likes bad boys

[Hawthorn18]

No it's just the truth

[edwilliams580]

Nice guys do finish last and that is the truth