Its because he wants all of the benefits of a relationship WITHOUT actually having any responsibility to you. Having SEX with him is not going to magically make him change his mind. He has already told you that he doesn't want a relationship with you. So now you have conveniently been demoted to friends with benefits position, a position that you are gladly fulfilling. Since he is calling the shots, and you're complying, of course he doesn't want you to sleep over...only girlfriends do that and he doesn't want you to get confused.
Guys are pretty damn simple, you get what you see. If he says he doesn't want to get back together, he DOESN'T want to get back together with you and there is no hidden psychological answer. At this point, since you are ex's he is just using you for free sex and cuddling--we all yearn for some kind of love, even if it's not in earnest.
He wants sex but does not want you to spend the night? How is the sex with him? Do you enjoy it? Does he please you?
It sounds like he wants a friends with benefits relationship where you are just friends with sex and no more. What are your thoughts on that?
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Love how people are making the guy the bad guy.
My ex screwed me over. We tried being friends and we had sex, we are attracted to each other. But I refuse to put my heart back in that position until I know without a doubt she can earn it. We had sex the first time and obviously it didn't work and sex wasn't anything more than an activity to her. So there is nothing wrong with having sex and treating it the same way.
too initimate
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