I'm in love with my cousins ex husband and I don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

They have been divorced for 5 years, no children and originally married for military benefits (not stating that to condone my behaviour) I'm sure he feels the same way. He has said it. My cousin would feel horrible if I told her and it would be chaos for my family. So I'm choosing to stay away from him but it's so hard I see him at family functions and just keep it courgial. This would be the worst thing I have ever done in my life. I have been loyal to her more then she ever has been to me. She has another man that she lives with who she left him for. I feel so bad but I can't help my feelings so I'm here just to get some advice from random strangers. since I have nobody else to talk to. everytime I try to date another man, their he is again. He's my good friend as we'll. Any advice?

[Bombchell]

Your case is really awkward but glad your are not siblings but cousins. It is still acceptable in the eyes of people around you.

If you're cousin is already happy with her new partner, talk to her and get her consent. Then get your whole clan informed. Your family loves you, for sure they will understand.

If they don't agree and you both really love each other, run away with him. Your decision will be respected, in time.

[islands7]

Sure, advice is to change your thinking to something with a better outcome.
Usually these guys that stick in a gal's brain have FRIENDS that are even better + unattached.
Now think - how can I tap into those other friends!
Then these friends have friends until you have a "fraternity" house of choices

[Tractorbeam]

I don't see why your cousin could complain or get upset about it.
She didn't want him, and threw him away. He's free for anyone after that, and she can't say shit.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Well I think you should keep staying away from him. I don't condone man stealing, sloppy seconds eating.

[SherryTeresa]

Tell him your feelings and ask his opinion. It should be a choice made by both of you.