Do you believe love is based on money and status?

[jennifer_bloom]

All of my cousins have dated Ivy League guys / girls or millionaires other than 2 guys, one refuses to marry cause he does not want to risk half his assets in a divorce and the other has two kids with an ex husband but she is a millionaire even if she is not married to one. I always cared more about love, but I got rejected by guys I liked for not having enough of my own money. And my friends and family who became rich, had attractive people with Ivy League millions chasing them and being nice to them.

[Middleman]

For me real love is not based on money and certainly not status, but on mutual respect for one another and shared values and commitment. You could live a life without lots of money and still experience real love. The only issue when one of the parties is unhappy with the other with things such as money (or how much they have). If you are basing your love or marriage on how much the other has I can say you are setting yourself up for a whole load of disappointment.

My own parents are a great example of this. Married for more than 40 years they had known each other as childhood sweethearts and are still together this day. For me they are a great example of real commitment. They've been through so much together that neither will think of having anyone else in their life. That for me is what (is) real love.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

That’s not love

[Pinay_ako]

That’s not love. It’s called business

[savagewolf22]

Love is great business... no?

[Pinay_ako]

@savagewolf22 😂 yes and no. Love can be mixed with business. Yes. If you do love them, even better. But if you are with someone for their status, that’s business!

[savagewolf22]

Love & business combination protect & secure future...

What to do with love if no money in the pocket?

[Pinay_ako]

@savagewolf22 you get your ass up and find a job!

[savagewolf22]

Lol.
If I do job than when I get time for love? Than again dialogue shoot up

"You're change after marriage"

😜😜😜

[Pinay_ako]

@savagewolf22 🤣 wow so a job stops you from loving someone?

[Pinay_ako]

That’s a lame and lazy excuse to not work 🤣 wwwwow

[savagewolf22]

😜😜😜 it's true...

[Qdbrown]

When you're young, it's not about the money.

When you're old and broke, it's all about the money.

When you're young, you have the best relationships.

When you're old, you begin to realize there are about four types of people, and if you're going to risks and waste time with one, they better be worth it.

Now with guys. It's bilogical to want to serve his woman. He will want to protect her. He will want her to be the center of his universe.

Now after many failed relationships and all kinds of good advice on the Internet about female ways, you can tell women are programed to be with her best option. Looks start to go out of the window after sometime after 40. And too many guys, me included, have been on dates where she checks out your job, status in life, if you options and a 401(k) without asking directly.

If a woman gets you in a date, and starts talking about how much she enjoys the idea of her career, ambitions at work, she is hoping you go crazy. She is checking you out hard to see if you are in the inside,. or just another smuck.

[Wubs3000]

Tbf when you get past like 30 in the dating scene I think people will expect you to have dreams and have started along your career and are financially stable. At that point they don't want to support you

[Qdbrown]

@Wubs3000 Thats the 30 crowd. We are not talking job. We are talking hooked up with a solid good paying career that can afford a home and cars. Vacations and fun date nights.

[DenizLikesTennis]

You can be broke and still fall madly in love and run a relationship because it is a chemistry between personalities. If you are successful, you can take it to the next level which is marriage/wedding. That my dear requires lots of money. What I mean with lots of money is just a solid income.

Otherwise communication

[Weapon77]

It has nothing to do with love. It definitely is connected to attraction but not love. And attraction can just be sexual or platonic or financial without being about romantic live at all. Sadly, the more money one has, the more likely people (especially attractive young women) want to yake advantage of that. It makes it hard for men with money to trust anyone. If you really love a guy with money, maybe offer to sign a prenup so he will know you love HIM and not his money?

[ChiTown33]

No. I do believe most women today erroneously equate money with love. But I blame pop culture and bad upbringing for that. I always tell any women who will listen focus on a guy's character not his income. A guy can can lose a good job, a economic downturn can happen, a guy can get sick. But a guy with character will ALWAYS persevere through it all.

[VistasV2]

Really it depends, I’m not wealthy but happy and built it myself with more work to go, my answer and people in my particular category… no it’s not. Now if I was say wealthier maybe it would change because it’s a different mentality maybe? But I’ve never considered wealth or status.

[Avicenna]

Love isn't, but cold, hard calculated self-interest is definitely based on those things

[maximumpower]

I have NO doubt that some people's definition of love is based in part upon money and status.
Guy unwilling to marry bc he doesn't want to lose his assets is spot-on.

[Anonymous]

I believe love is based on who you are willing to do anything for without a second thought. Not just money or how high up in position/power. Or how famous they might be. But if your heart pumps and your chest feels like it's on fire when you're talking to them or your near them.

[Wubs3000]

No. I have no money and no job, I'm not super duper popular in school but I still have a partner. Actual love isn't based off of money or status.

[tony_love_girls]

Maybe. If your family looking for you a boy they will definitley look his job and family background, money, habits.

They think in future my daughter don't want to beg for money, My daughter must get a good life.. etc

[bobby_bush_eater]

The modern version of the old school marriage I suppose. It used to be uniting family for both wealth and power as well as peace cows, this is a "modern" approach.

[ROBOH70]

No.

For me, money and status do not enter into it.

[Bubbles16]

No because I'm with my current boyfriend because he always makes me laugh and is one of the sweetest people i know I couldn't care less about how much money he has

[DryGermanGuy]

That’s a sad and cynical approach to life!!! ☹️👎

[MrTaboo]

For women it is. Men it's looks, loyalty and motherhood

[Zolly99999]

Nope not at all

[dailyoctopus94]

Love? No.

But lots of marriages are.

[Sonorous]

That can be a pathway.

[davner]

honestly i pray to god that it isn't