Yup it sucks big time. You get to know the person and you think there the one you want to be with... Then Nope they arnt then you have to start all over. All that time wasted but hey thats dating.
Exactly! Thank God im not the only person on this planet that feels that way. It's like once you have put say 2 months into a person and it all go's to crap and you know you should probably try to find a new person and move on, at that point your emotional energy is gone. I know exactly how you fell.
Yes! Like if I think about I've clocked in god knows how many hours with these guys over the last months... getting to know each other, getting closer... then... kapooey. it sucks so bad.
Yup totally sucks. But you know what sucks the most of all? Is when you date someone for like 3 weeks and everything is perfect, she takes you to meet there parents and family then one night you go over to that persons place and its a great night, you two kiss, hug and such then you get a text that's says oh I'm so sorry but things are going to fast and I also forgot to mention that I just got out of a serious relatinship only 4 monthes ago... So I'm not ready for us. Wtf!! To me that sucks the most.
Actually I think that starting over is very good and also part of life. I don't mean it's pleasant, but it's a process that we really cannot skip, principally when relationships are involved.
On the contrary I like the constant fresh start. After a while when people become to familiar sometimes you get to know them well enough that you realize you don't want to spend any time in their company
Someone new is supposed to be fun, an adventure IF things click and if they don't, he joins the heap of rejections that are only wasting my time, wearing me down until I become their bitch, then I become on the rejection heap.
What I hate more is people desperately clenching to someone who they no longer love just so they don't have to start from scratch [or because they're afraid of ending up alone]... - now that's just sad. :/
If I've made up my mind to look for new women then I wouldn't feel upset over it, the decision has been made and I'm too stubborn to stick to a woman I'm not getting attached to, it's as exhausting as you make it.
If its the right person, getting to know them is full of excitement and new memories. But if you don't like them that much, it can be boring and feel like a chore.
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Starting from scratch can be frustrating, but it is absolutely necessary. If you say you can't stand being alone, then you obviously need someone you can trust, confide in, etc., but that can't happen unless you do 'the bad stuff' first. It always gets worse before it gets better. There's a rainbow after the rain. Other mushy feel-good sayings...
... But hey, that's just my two cents
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I would give you a hug but I am slathered in fried onions. I thrive with change and new experiences. I once dated (down south at the time) a few dozen women a few summers ago and got it down to three of four and then eventually one and still picked the wrong one. I don't hate dating. The game is fun but I do hate wasting time with someone to find out I am sexually incompatible or they are not who they showed themselves to be.
Starting from scratch with someone new is exciting and intoxicating, and usually leads to positive lifestyle changes. It's just a letdown if things don't work and you have to part ways.
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Yup it sucks big time. You get to know the person and you think there the one you want to be with... Then Nope they arnt then you have to start all over. All that time wasted but hey thats dating.
Ik and it sucks cuz getting to know someone new takes so much emotional energy
Exactly! Thank God im not the only person on this planet that feels that way. It's like once you have put say 2 months into a person and it all go's to crap and you know you should probably try to find a new person and move on, at that point your emotional energy is gone. I know exactly how you fell.
Yes! Like if I think about I've clocked in god knows how many hours with these guys over the last months... getting to know each other, getting closer... then... kapooey. it sucks so bad.
Yup totally sucks. But you know what sucks the most of all? Is when you date someone for like 3 weeks and everything is perfect, she takes you to meet there parents and family then one night you go over to that persons place and its a great night, you two kiss, hug and such then you get a text that's says oh I'm so sorry but things are going to fast and I also forgot to mention that I just got out of a serious relatinship only 4 monthes ago... So I'm not ready for us. Wtf!! To me that sucks the most.
Actually I think that starting over is very good and also part of life. I don't mean it's pleasant, but it's a process that we really cannot skip, principally when relationships are involved.
On the contrary I like the constant fresh start. After a while when people become to familiar sometimes you get to know them well enough that you realize you don't want to spend any time in their company
Someone new is supposed to be fun, an adventure IF things click and if they don't, he joins the heap of rejections that are only wasting my time, wearing me down until I become their bitch, then I become on the rejection heap.
Yes, but that's life, I guess...
What I hate more is people desperately clenching to someone who they no longer love just so they don't have to start from scratch [or because they're afraid of ending up alone]... - now that's just sad. :/
If I've made up my mind to look for new women then I wouldn't feel upset over it, the decision has been made and I'm too stubborn to stick to a woman I'm not getting attached to, it's as exhausting as you make it.
If its the right person, getting to know them is full of excitement and new memories. But if you don't like them that much, it can be boring and feel like a chore.
Starting from scratch can be frustrating, but it is absolutely necessary. If you say you can't stand being alone, then you obviously need someone you can trust, confide in, etc., but that can't happen unless you do 'the bad stuff' first. It always gets worse before it gets better. There's a rainbow after the rain. Other mushy feel-good sayings...
... But hey, that's just my two cents
I would give you a hug but I am slathered in fried onions. I thrive with change and new experiences. I once dated (down south at the time) a few dozen women a few summers ago and got it down to three of four and then eventually one and still picked the wrong one. I don't hate dating. The game is fun but I do hate wasting time with someone to find out I am sexually incompatible or they are not who they showed themselves to be.
Starting from scratch with someone new is exciting and intoxicating, and usually leads to positive lifestyle changes. It's just a letdown if things don't work and you have to part ways.
Not at all, when I was single, I just thought I had recovered my freedom when I was unattached again!
I hate it. I hate first dates. I am ready to get back out of the loop with one guy for a while, but darned if I can find him whoever he is.
Yeah. Starting from scratch seems terrible. Even more when you realize that all that effort may go in vain.
Dating more tan one people at a time is why it's called DATING. It's what grown folk do. Anyway, good luck dear.
Yeah, I get you. I do this from time to time, I delete all the phone numbers of girls in my phone and start again. I believe it makes you stronger.
Everyday lol. Yeah I hate starting New and when your hurt trying again petrified of it
Yeah I hate it sometimes I thinks it better to just be alone
sigh YES. an ex once told me "lts easier to start new". no.. it definitely isn't.
No I think it's fun to learn and discover things about someone new
Yes!! I HATE starting over. It's the worst feeling especially after you've gotten to know somebody so well.