I don't argue with my girlfriend...

[Jonny_]

OK, I don't argue with my girlfriend and have never argued with anyone I've dated in the past. A lot of people say this is weird, and even unhealthy... they say its good to vent anger. But thing is I'm never angry at her, she doesn't do anything bad, no anger to vent... A lot of people have said you have to argue sometimes or she will lose respect for you, because you're a pushover and make it too easy for her... Again I am a stubborn guy, I don't change my mind and won't have my opinions questioned. But again she doesn't clash with any of this as we have the same views on everything, and she knows I'm not a pushover because she has seen me argue with people before.

So what do you think, is arguing in a relationship good or bad?

[itssarahloveee]

If you don't argue, that's not a bad thing. I didn't ever argue with quite a few of my boyfriends, and the guy I'm talking to now never makes me angry. Haha, I think sometimes you just find someone who clicks and they just don't make you angry. It's not unhealthy, it's life. If she did something you didn't like or said something you didn't agree with you'd probably call her out, right? If not, that might be unhealthy. But as long as you're happy with your relationship then that's a good thing. In my last relationship, it was way different, I alwaysss argued. Every single day whether we saw each other or not. It was ridiculous and made me really unhappy and I know it wasn't good for him either.. that's wayy more unhealthy than not argueing. I think what your friends mean is that it's unhealthy to pent up anger at one another because then you'll blow up later in the relationship from holding everything in.. but if there's no holding anything in, then there won't be a blow up :)

[Jonny_]

Well I would if she upset me, but I'm probably the hardest person in the world to upset lol Awk I don't think I could get mad at her, she's so lovable :)

[itssarahloveee]

That's so cute (: But I know what you're saying, that's how I feel about my guy(;

[cherrydarlings]

Arguing is "good" if it leads to learning about and understanding each other.

Not arguing is not "bad" if it simply means you two genuinely agree on everything.

Successful, healthy relationships can involve arguing or no arguing. It depends on how alike the partners are, how much each partner can take, etc.

I think the time that arguing gets "bad" is if one or both partners feels disrespected, offended, ignored, etc.

I could be wrong though. I'm looking to learn a few things myself.

[OutOfMyElement43]

I had a girl break up with me once; because, I didn't argue with her. She said that it meant I didn't care; I say she was a nut! I don't argue either. I just walk away until she calms herself down and we can talk like two adults. There are very few things so big that it's worth fighting about. I think you're ok; it doesn't mean you're a pushover. You and your girl just probably act like adults rather than children.

[darkphotographer42]

not a bad thing, it just means you and her are very compatible. honestly I think the people saying otherwise to you are probably just jealous of what you and your girl have. (I know I am lol)