We've been together for close to 3 years now. We have a baby, we live together, we are in debt together. My boyfriend has no romantic emotion or nurturing emotion towards our relationship. His ideal day is coming home from work, eating dinner, taking a shower, and spending the rest of the day in the bedroom playing video games (he has always been like this.) He gets mad when I try to talk to him about the issues, and says he feels there is nothing wrong and we are doing great. However, I feel like I need more. I need spontaneity, romance, alone time, long talks.. I know it is a stereotype that men aren't like this and I understand men need 'less' of this. But this is a man who has never surprised me, never tried to do anything sweet or nice, nothing. He isn't really a dick or anything, he just doesn't do ANYTHING, then get's mad at me for trying to point out the problems in the relationship. Is it wrong for me to want to talk about stupid shit and watch stupid movies on netflix just to laugh at them, or just take a long drive at night and enjoy the night? Because he has no idea why I would want to do anything other than sit at home and play video games or watch a show and go to sleep. I've tried talking to him until my lungs hurt and nothing changes. What now?
My boyfriend has no substance and I don't know how to deal with it anymore, what should I do?
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