My girlfriend thinks I need adult diapers for a bladder problem. I'm not sure if this is the best way to deal with it. Is it?

[Anonymous]

So basically I am in my early 20's and this horrible problem started about half a year ago. Out of nowhere I'll get the worst urge to urinate. If I'm not right near a toilet I usually do not end up making it. Sometimes I even lose control as soon as the urge hits. It's really ruining my life.

I regularly see a urologist for this now and it took a few tries to find one who even seemed interested in really helping. I have also been to a neurologist and psychologist. I've had plenty of awful tests done and tried a lot of medications for nothing so far. It seems the problems gotten slightly worse actually.

Anyway I have had my girlfriend for 4 years now and she is amazing to me, but this problem is starting to cause fighting. She has asked me to try wearing adult diapers several times, but I can't stand the thought of it. I feel like I'd lose any dignity I have left. And I'm scared the problem might become worse quicker this way.

Last night I had an accident on her couch and although I cleaned it best as I could this led to a huge fight. She went out and bought a bag of depends diapers and told me she'd give me a few days to think about wearing them. If not she said she would have to think about "us". I don't want to lose her. I am humiliated just thinking of wearing diapers though. My urologist didn't seem too keen on it either. Any ideas or advice or opinions would help a lot. This was hard for me to post so please dont make fun.

[poopedmypantsagain]

Take it from a guy who wears not only diapers but also rubber pants everyday, although my problem is a bit different then yours, but it is not the end of the world by wearing them and your girlfriend is being kind to you by asking you to wear them at times, they are only a form of underwear and they come in many very comfortable shapes and sizes both cloth ones and disposable ones.. I do lots of things outdoors including playing golf and working to name a couple.. and being in them 24/7 for me is not a big deal what so ever.. I still even date the sweet ladies while in diapers and if you are honest to the women in your circles like I am as to why I wear them most if not all do not make a big fuss over this.. I have been on some dates where the women to my surprise was wearing the same as I do because she too was in a bad fall one day.. honesty is the key word here at least it is for me, there are many many people in this world that wear diapers and plastic pants both young males, young, females. and older of both sexes.. and like I stated it is not a big deal to be in them and it is for sure not a deal breaker.. your girlfriend truly wants to help you with this and to me it sounds like she would not have any problems staying in your life even while you were diapered around her.. you should do what she asks.. I hope everything works out for both you and her.. as long as you are both happy in the relationship.. wearing diapers are not ever a problem

[ELGRECO]

Are there no other options? Like a bag to catch the urine when it happens, like a stoma or whats it called.

[Asker]

Well there are surgeries that could do that for me but those are sort of extreme and irreversible. Id like to try every other avenue of medical approaches before doing a surgery like that.

[xXiTacoXx]

Dude just wear the diapers no one's judging you because you have a medical condition and people will understand that. You won't lose any dignity by wearing them, you'll only lose it if you keep being stupid and not wear them at all. She's not going to leave you if you have them on so stop acting like a giant pussy, and put the damn things on. Peeing on other peoples property and in public is wayyyyy worse than wearing adult diapers. If you keep up all of this stupidity over something you need, then I won't blame her if she leaves you because you keep being stubborn and fail to see that she'll love you even if you do wear them. Is your stupid pride seriously worth losing someone who cares for you to stay with you even with the diapers on? If so, then she needs to find a man whose idiotic pride won't get in the way of his feelings for her.

[Asker]

I actually appreciate the brutal honesty even though some parts could have been left out. You did make me see I was being sorta stupid. I felt like if I wore them I'd be less "manly". I had a hard time wrapping my mind around the fact that she could really love me and accept me even if I had to wear diapers. But after seeing all these responses we had a long talk and I agreed to start wearing them for now at least. You're right, my pride was getting in the way of me seeing that I do kind of need them. My girlfriend pointed out I never go out anymore which I didn't exactly realize. At least with the things on I cam go out in public without being scared of humilating myself. Thanks for convincing me to make the right choice and letting me know people are not so judgmental about it.

[xXiTacoXx]

Glad I could smack some sense into ya'. Don't take this woman for granted.

[Fionna19]

Wow respect for u that's seems like a tough condition to have, I'd just wear them tbh if u need them for an important reason like this it's worth being embarrassed. The thought of losing ur girlfriend because of diapers is pretty bad so try and work things out by either wearing then or talking to her. Try not to think if them as diapers just as a necessary medical thing u need to wear < that was a bad example but hopefully u know what I mean.

[Asker]

Thanks for the sympathy. I really do appreciate it. It really has been hard not understanding what's going on and dealing with it in general. And thanks for the advice. My girlfriend actually said the same thing. She told me to just think of them as a band aid. I've agreed to go along with it for now because I really don't want to lose her.

[BattyBB]

They have a kind that looks like real undies.
If you feel up to it, they will help.
I hope they can find what's wrong *hugs!*
& try not to feel to bad you can not help it.

[Asker]

Thanks thats good to know. My girlfriend got me ones that actually look just like baby diapers, obviously without pictures, which is why I was super hesitant to start wearing them. We agreed I'd just wear the ones she bought tonight since I'm spending the night, but we're going to go out tomorrow and look for those ones. She said she didn't see any like that but I hope we find them. And thank you I pray every night something will be able to cure me of this problem. I appreciate the kind response. Its nice to see people aren't so judgmental as I thought.

[BattyBB]

They look like these, I know in my country we have them;
https://i57.tinypic.com/2u7lybt.jpg

I can understand and it's all good, but even if you do wear them just for now until you can find more etc.. Even asking the experts (doctors or at a chemis too if there are anything similar/close you have in your country)
& you're welcome 😊
Hopefully soon 🍀🍀
I also know how hard it is when your body isn't functioning 100%/pain/somethings wrong and you have no answer as to why or what's it's happening and if it can be fixed.
Yes most people a not and people shouldn't judge *hugs!*

[Levin]

This was posted a long time ago and not sure where you're at with this.

But I've generally found Evette Rose's book, Metaphysical anatomy, very good at finding the psychological root of any illness.

Of course, accompanying wide ranging lifestyle and dietary changes are usually necessary. And I'm not saying there are any quick fixes.

I just know how inept the medical establishment is at fixing these sorts of things, through bitter personal experience.

[Pete671]

My friend, there is no shame in wearing, you seem to have a medical need, pride will mess with your head if you let it, I think you are in a better position than some, in that your partner actively supports you, she sounds like a keeper, perhaps just try one and see how you feel then, there is a site called dailydiapers. com that would offer tons of support,,,

[VSboy69]

ok. I had a skydiving accident with 2 vertabrae burst. I did not want diapers either but it solved the problems and made life easier. I would wear the diapers, keep trying to fix the problem and be able to keep the girlfrind. Good people are hard to find and it might be a short term issue.

[Sebring1]

I would wear diapers they are comfortable do not show and it would please or comfort your girlfriend and stop any fighting after all you want to keep your girlfriend she is obviouly very understanding

[swampdonkeys]

Wish I could have borrowed a diaper from u the other weekend... I would have proudly sported that plastic so I wouldn't have had to throw away my favorite jeans (I was fond of my briefs as well)

[IamNuts]

Well you don't really seem to have a choice here.

[Asker]

I guess not. It's just been hard to accept and I didn't want to admit to myself that I do need them. I've decided to at least give it a try for now. Thanks for the input.

[Anonymous]

I am doubly incontinent and have been in adult diapers for ten years it takes some getting used to but workable goodluck