I saw the tinder app on my boyfriends phone, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday I was out with my boyfriend of a year and his friend when I caught a glance at my BF's phone and saw the tinder app. I immediately got upset & he knew it so when we got back to his house I broke down and confronted him. Last week he had to go to Indiana for work & he claims he downloaded it because he was bored and it was for entertainment. He seemed very sorry and also upset that he hurt me. He kept telling me that he swears on his life and his family that he has never cheated on me, never thought of cheating and never will. He also said he would never do anything to hurt me and that I'm all he wants and I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him. He also said he was stupid and it was his fault for downloading it in the first place. He immediately deleted it. I know he's not cheating because we literally are with each other every single day after we both get off work. I trust him & don't want this to ruin things. Is this harmless and nothing to worry about? What would you do in this situation? Have you been in this situation and what was the outcome? Any advice would be appreciated!

[c0stell0]

i wouldn't trust him... he wasn't just bored. i've been in this situation before. i turned into Sherlock fucking Holmes and found soooo much more. he never physically cheated and he claims that he had no intention to, he just wanted to know if other people found him attractive because he had no experience before me. and all this was true, for my situation. if i was on the outside looking in, i would say break up with him. in my situation, i didn't... and i know how gullible it sounds... but we've been together for 5 1/2 years now and we are closer than we have ever been... in most situations like this, i would say that its NOT going to work out well. You know him better than we do... does he deserve your trust? can you ever be fully sure that he isn't cheating on you?

[anon1232]

I am in the exact same situation except for me this is the second time! it is something to worry about, my boyfriend did the same as yours and I've just found out he's using it again!

[RationalLioness]

Did he have it before? If so, it doesn't mean anything. If not, that's something I would be talking to him about instead of asking on GaG.

[QooLipBite]

He downloaded tinder and he's a boy.

That's nothing sweety!

It's FAR from cheating.

Many guys do have the app for entertainment and for scoping (looking at) girls. The thing is, he was honest with you and it sounds like he loves you dearly.

He's a boy, some boys have the need to have some of these kinds of entertainment once in a while.

Not a big deal.

[MrCryptic]

I guess it depends on what he was using it as entertainment for. If it was to make fun of the girls and guys on there or something then it's not a big deal but if it was to see what else is out there and eyeballing other girls then it's not cool.

[sjoes006]

I don't know that's pretty crappy. If he travels a lot for work I would be concerned.

I really can't think of a reasonable explanation for him to have the app. But it doesn't sound like he was overly concerned with hiding it from you like you would expect if he was cheating.

It's like window shopping eventually you are going to buy something. Playing with fire.

[Blondiee2014]

I don't know if this is the correct thing to do but I know if I saw that on my girlfriends phone I'd ditch her immediately.
Wether she cheated or not she is seeking to find some sort of emotional thrill from other dudes. I can do better.

[zombiebabe]

this^

[zombiebabe]

a dating app for entertainment? really?
just be careful with him

[genericname85]

it´s just swiping left and right, not sex with another girl :D maybe he´s just curious while not planing anything with those girls at all.

[psychomonkey]

Do not overreact to this!!! He's probably trying to make new friends.

[Anonymous]

I'd let it go but keep an eye out for any other strange behaviour. He's probably telling the truth but it can't hurt to be cautious

[OrdinaryGentleman]

"bored". I don't buy it. Not one bit, I would make sure that it becomes a very important relationship determiner for you.

[Anonymous]

He should delete it from his phone as a sign of confidence

[Anonymous]

So, you were spying on his phone. That's invasion of privacy

[Anonymous Asker]

We decided to not eat where we originally wanted to so since we were holding hands I was pretty close to him so when he pulled out his phone, I could clearly see everything if I glanced down which I did (not with the intentions of "spying")

[smahala1991]

definitely confront him about it