Why two guys had called me gullible?

[Anonymous]

So two guys have called me gullible. one was my friends with benefits he told me I'm very gullible. And the other guy is a guy I'm dating , he told me I'm gullible that I shouldn't believe everythung people tell me that some people lie and others don't that I can't trust just anyone. he called me gullible when we were hanging out because he kept teasing and tricking me and I kept falling for his tricks. I'm offended because I got called gullible. Should I feel this way?

[Anonymous]

It's natural to feel offended, but don't dwell on that. Instead of remaining upset, think about whether or not there's some truth to what they say, and take it as an opportunity to watch out for those tricks and not trust too easily. Honestly, most of us could benefit from being more cautious about what we believe, and getting the facts and evidence on something instead of just blindly trusting/believing. It's an area almost everyone can use work on.

In the end, finding a way to improve is a better use of time than staying offended. Who knows, you could get better than either of them at evading people's tricks if you put your mind to it. Then perhaps they'll be the gullible ones. ;)

[SilenRose]

Based on what you wrote and your response to Tommy it seems to be true. However, this shows the little respect they have for you. You don't seem to respect yourself either. Dating someone while also having a FWB? WTF? Also your friends with benefits is using you.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

why are you dating a guy and have a guy with benefits? and because you're probably gullible. it's not an insult if it's true.

[Asker]

Well I have friends with benefits because I don't know how to get rid of him. He's a good friend and I help him out when he needs sex because I feel bad for him also when I try to brake off things he always comes back and convinces me to stay with this arrangement.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

that's still pretty fucked up. you gotta get rid of him. just tell him you're dating and think it's serious. be like, "sorry bruh, i'm taken now, catch ya on the flipside! bye felicia!" and then proceed to leave.

[Asker]

Do I text him that? Or wait for him to text me

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

what? no. tell him in person.

[Nick_D]

well , if I were you I wouldn't get upset, but would wise up and would not let them lie to me or trick me, and would be very suspicious of everything they say. Until they stop thinking of you that way

[Anonymous]

They're playing you. Sad. :(