Do guys like intelligent women?

Question

Even if it's at the rate of the women being smarter than them?

cth96190 · Accepted Answer

I could not be interested in a woman unless she had an IQ that was significantly above average.
When I was 16 my IQ was measured and was said to be in the genius range. Add in a touch of high-functioning Asperger's syndrome (it is not obvious, unless someone has been trained to identify it) and that explained why I neither had, nor wanted, friends. I simply could not relate to my peers. Talking with them was like trying to teach calculus to a hamster.
I would be the same with a woman. I need a women whose intellect I can respect, even admire.
Then there is the biological reality of mate selection.
I have my own version of the Lebensborn programme.
I would choose a mate whose 50 per cent of the DNA contributed to the offspring would ensure that they were highly intelligent and good looking.
It would not be rational to want ugly and/or stupid children.
When, about the age of 30, I came to the painful realisation that I would not find that one special girl to love, I used my financial resources to engage the services of a suitable female who had the sort of DNA that I wanted in my children. I had the money and she wanted to pay off her house. It was a fair and rational transaction.
The result was three children (two boys, one girl) all of whom are good-looking green-eyed blonds who have IQs in the top 2 per cent of the bell curve.
It continues to be a source of wonderment to me that people will assess the genetic quality of potential mates for their cats, dogs, horses, cattle, etc, but will not engage in a similar rational selection of their own mate.

Lynx122 · Accepted Answer

I do. For me beeing able to talk to someone and soeone understanding what I'm thinking about etc. is very important. If a girl doesn't understand me as a person or things that interest me or bother me then it would just suck. So for me intelligence is important and attractive. As for a girl beeing smarter than me I don't really know. So far the girls I have been close with have been smart but not on another level. I think it would be alright with me though :) .

reixun · Accepted Answer

People like people at the same level... stupid + stupid, average + average and intelligent + intelligent. If they cross, like stupid + intelligent then one is gonna feel unworthy/like they're dating a know-it-all and the other is gonna feel a lack of brain stimulation.

danyalovettie44 · Accepted Answer

Guys can get intimidated by them. It's almost the same thing as the "nice guy" issue for girls but this time, it's directed at guys. Some guys might like the idea of a smart girl but they really don't if they're not looking for a serious relationship.

emailme · Accepted Answer

Yes... but they dont like if she is smarter. Biology dictates thst womrn bond up not down so the more skilled she is the smaller the pool to pull from. It's not pleasant being highly intelligent.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

women overestimate their brains and appearence. chances are you are not what you think... .

normalice · Answer

I like girls to be smart enough to know how absurd it would be to be selfish about their inhibitions considering the superficial consequences that result from a defensive attitude. I'd like her to be smart enough to know herself, so that when I need to know something about her, she can simply tell me honestly and completely. I want her to be smart enough to know that just because she thinks of something doesn't mean everyone else thought of it too. You'd be surprised how rare this is.

Basically, I define intelligence as "perspective," and I like it when girls have that. I don't like girls who seem to tread the line between real and imaginary, though. Yes, that takes intelligence to do, but it's irritating, not sexy.

WalterRadio · Answer

First, I have never met a woman measurably smarter than I am. I don't mean not to know more than I do in some field obviously, but in the capacity for intelligence.

I prefer extremely smart women because I don't have to dumb down my conversation.

However, having many female friends that are as smart as I am, they have long complained that the average guy is intimidated by them. I've watched it happen. As soon as she reveals her intelligence, some otherwise nice guy withers away. As relationships are concerned, they end up with equally smart guys (like other doctors and engineers) or they remain single for life.

Browneye57 · Answer

They do, but it's not like you think. What she'll do for him is far more important. And she needs to not lead or dominate - if she won't let the man lead she'll eventually lose respect and shut down. Sometimes they'll bail, sometimes they'll cheat.
Guys are pretty basic- feed them, sex them, and love/'respect them and they'll pretty much do whatever you need/want, and stay loyal. If you neglect them no one is happy.

A woman's intelligence and/or career are not what are important to a guy, and a lot of smart girls just don't get this.

AnonRom · Answer

I have never met a woman who is smarter than me (not trying to sound arrogant here just being honest) but if I did I imagine I would hate them as much as I hate myself...
But seriously I pretty much exclusively like girls who are similarly smart to me and would probably find it pretty fucking hot if she could show me up in something regarding to academia or just general knowledge. I think its usually more of trying to find a person with a similar sense of humor to me (don't ask why but smart people always have the most fucked up humor) and who has interests which I can find interesting even if my only experience with them is through her.

PagingDrTenma · Answer

Women aren't smart. But tbh, they don't even have a concept of what intelligence is. They tend to think that any guy with a pulse who can carry a conversation is "intelligent". You don't see them prowling around a college's physics or CS labs, because even though that's where the best and brightest are most likely to be found, those guys typically are ugly and girls are repulsed by them, per their solely aesthetic nature.

(Insert stuff about "social intelligence", humanities majors, etc. that I don't care to type out)

kambo_trick3y · Answer

Depends on the intelligence. Some women think that just because you've read books, it means it's okay to make dumb decisions.

Doesn't matter how smart you are, if you make stupid choices in life, you're gonna end in a world of shit, no matter how much you know.

Socket · Answer

Hell yes intelligence is a sexy thing. True attraction for me has always began with the heart and the mind. An intelligent or creative mind are the sexiest thing a woman can have along with caring a heart and a fiery soul.

tl;dr
Talk nerdy to me baby!

America1st · Answer

Three things I look for when I meet a woman is independence, intelligence and is she a strong (not muscles) woman. If she lacks one of them, I know I'm not interested. I want an equal partner, not a subordinate one. I've had some smarter than me and I have no problem with that. I like a woman who is a challenge and these are three traits always bring that. Of course there are men who look for a less intelligent women because they have the need to be superior.

Chico_brah · Answer

It would be hard to date a girl who is more intelligent than me and I think any guy who says otherwise would be lying. I'm not saying I would oppose it by any means though. Having said that, it would be a challenge considering how ego driven I can be at times. I've always dated intelligent women but have never dated someone more intelligent than me.

FakeName123 · Answer

Intelligence is highly overrated. Especially by those who lack it.

There are a whole ton of more important attributes in a possible partner as long as intelligence is high enough to be able to understand the other partner. Things such as loyalty, love, being affectionate, empathy, handling criticism, etc. all are way above in importance.

objob94 · Answer

I find smart woman so sexy as you know :)  Their emotional intelligence among other thing is irreplaceable, fact.

Anonymous · Answer

I value intelligence but only so far. Pretty much if I think your smart enough for me to trust you to raise my kids in my absence then you're intelligent enough for me to date. Beyond that it doesn't matter much. I find intelligence sexy but a PhD is like big boobs too me. It's neat and sometimes can be really arousing but I don't need a girl to have them at all.

yucel_eden · Answer

What Chico said above.

I would add though that a women more intelligent then me has always turned out to be with a defect like a mono brow or a toy boy.

Intelligence is good with a women but after a point it can take away their feminity. That's a major turn off.

I'm studying mechanical engineering and have refused to date a girl in my class for the above reason.

Stupidity=turn off=too much intelligence

Prof_Don · Answer

As long as she is pleasant to be around and he finds her attractive... yes.  This is a cold hard truth: intelligence level is a low priority trait for men in terms of selecting a female partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Smarter than me? Ha, not likely. The only thing I don't like about them is if they know more than me about one or two things and I know more than them about 30 or 40 things, they will think they are smarter and try to rub it in on those very few things she knows more about, even though I could do that constantly if I wanted, but I don't.

HungLikeAHorsefly · Answer

I prefer to be around people that are smarter than I am in general. Women and men. That way, I'm always learning something.

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

I love women who are really intelligent, educated and well-read, especially if they can debate/have discussions without getting emotional.

MrOracle · Answer

I have a minimum threshold she needs to meet, but no maximum threshold. Intelligent women can be very sexy.

capturemyheartnow · Answer

Yes , intelligence is sexy. Not all women have it. And those who have it don't use it all the time especially , when they want to develop a relationship.

oaknuggins · Answer

Fuck yes. But in the end, its really how hard they are willing to work for things rather than intelligence.

LittleSally · Answer

Sometimes... The non-arrogant intellectuals do. ... All others - nope.

Atlas67890- · Answer

I actually Googled "men hate smart women" just to see what bs women were being told... OOOOOHHHH BOY! WOW.

CalebJay18 · Answer

Yeah, intelligence is pretty sexy. And something you cherish more the older you get. Haha

Itsmeyay · Answer

It's a preference actually, but if she has an ego or thinks that she is better than everyone that's a deal breaker no question.

swashdeadlove · Answer

ya it's helpful if the guy is an average or weak student even if he's an A-grader , it gives him motivation to work hard

dolemite68 · Answer

i don't mind it as long as she's not a snob about it. Guys don't like a lot of smart girls cuz its like they constantly have to shove it down ur throat that they aren't some dumb bimbo

AngelicBrazilian · Answer

Of course, I think small minded men have a hard time dealing with it though. they may find an intelligent woman intimidating, but what intelligent woman would want to date a small minded man?

Bob3080 · Answer

Sure, to me intelligence is more about the way she thinks and expresses herself in general, for an example witty people seem and usually are way smarter. It doesn't really matter if she is highly educated or not.

somewheresomeway · Answer

yes as long as they don't even bring up "feminism" or "womens rights" bs. A good man will respect and appreciate an intelligent woman for who she is. Women who start going off on feminism are usually secretly very insecure.

SirRexington · Answer

Smart is sexy. Just don't be a bitch about it like a lot of people do. They let their egos get the better of them

ptstat · Answer

not that i'm dating anyone, either smart or stupid, but i have a gut feeling they could be more likely to cheat

mostwomenshouldstfu · Answer

Intelligence doesn't bother me so much as morals. You spend an awful lot of time talking. So intelligence is necessary. Don't know what you mean by "rate"

pavlove · Answer

if she's hot her being smart is amazing. if she's not hot but kind/brilliant i could see her being interesting but it wouldn't be quite a slam dunk in getting the guy she likes

Maxemeister · Answer

I prefer a girl who is somewhere between the levels of a little less intelligent than me to the level of much more intelligent than me. So on a 1-5 intelligence scale if I'm 3 she would be 2-5

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I love intelligent women. If she's smarter and intelligent than me I don't see the problem. Actually I can benefit from her intelligence in terms of learning new things for fee.😜

jacquesvol · Answer

I can't answer for other guys but I DO PREFER intelligent women.

Krab_the_large_woo · Answer

I certainly love intelligent women. Why would anybody want a stupid woman unless they wanted to control her easier.

Djaaaay · Answer

I'll stick with smart and with common sense instead.

Anonymous · Answer

All women are intelligent. Even the kind that act dumb aren't really dumb, they have all mastered the art of fucking a guy over. Maybe not immediately, but eventually the day will come.

Anonymous · Answer

It's up to the individual of course, but I'd like to think intelligent men and women like that aspect in each other.

ogutbomb · Answer

Yes, very much so. Even if it happens that she is smarter than I am; it is still fine.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Yes please. I'd get bored if she was as sharp as a doorknob.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

Yes I do... Even nerdy is okay. Actually they are better...

Anonymous · Answer

I'll take it one step further, I only like intelligent women. That filters out 99% of the "guys must pay for me because daddy told me so" type of women.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, as long as the attitude of "I'm better than you" doesn't come with it.

jestingdemon · Answer

It depends on if they let it get in the way of them enjoying time together and having fun

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

Only if they are smart enough to stfu when I am talking/thinking

Liisjak · Answer

Beautiful and intelligent, sounds like a recipe for a manipulator.

PhoenixItalian · Answer

absolutely, I won't be serious with a girl unless she is arguably intellectual to an extent.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course, dumbasses attract dumbasses and geniuses attract geniuses

BronzedAdonis · Answer

yeah so long as the intelligence gap isn't too great

Anonymous · Answer

In most cases... Intelligent - Yes. Nerdy - No. But it depends on the guy.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely, as long as they get my sense of humour :P

Sara413 · Answer

Mature ones do. Insecure ones don't.

Anonymous · Answer

I love being around them, love being their friend. I can even have romantic feelings for them. But I have no desire to fuck them.

FaithfulGuardian · Answer

as long as she has some common sense, that's all i am asking for.

Tohoshinki · Answer

She can be very attractive, and also very horrible and she will be your worst nightmare.

Anonymous · Answer

some don't like so smart ones as they know everything n they can't lie to them

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah it's hot, but they are more likely to control you and cheat :(

emmy374 · Answer

I would say that guys like intelligent women.

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