Is it disrespectful to not confirm plans until the last minute?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is disrespectful

No, it's fine

[MovesLikeJagger]

Well I think it depends on the situation and the company involved. As a man, I hate confirming anything too far in advance... well, I hate confirming things period. I like to keep my options open and remain flexible. But having this carefree approach can annoy certain people. Your close friends may be used to your odd quirks, but in more formal settings and appointments... you need to follow the accepted social norms and follow through.

[frozenhorizon]

It depends on the plans, but I find it pretty annoying when I'm the one making plans and asking people if they want to go. If they don't confirm by the day of the plans, I expect they're not going. If you try to confirm at the last minute it feels like you don't value spending time with me and it was too low of a priority to commit to until you knew there was nothing better...

[NyomiMcClinton]

Yes, this is very annoying. This is something that is one of my pet peeves. People who cancel at last minute, no show or do not confirm dates. Shows that they are a waste of time and no in use even wondering why unless they contact me afterwards to apologize. Never date men like this.

[Wonderer89]

I think so... to me it sends the message of "maybe... if nothing better comes up between now and then and I'll let you know".
Sure, making plans weeks in advance don't always work out; but i think it's polite to confirm a few days before the date/event

[RJGraveyTrain]

That's fucking awful and you'd drive me INSANE. I plan ahead, I don't go anywhere without a guarantee, time, place and all of that.

[luvstoned4him]

I don't know about disrespect but it would put them out of their way.

[CarlR]

like others said, i wouldn't say it's disrespectful, but it's definitely rude and not very considerate of the other person. Only way this wouldn't be such (IMO), is if you really didn't know until shortly before the event because of a situation outside your control and planning ability.

[KnightCross]

i think it is. people are adults. adults should know beforehand what are their priorities in their schedule. if somebody already does that to me before even meeting, i already downgrade that person in my respect scale

i bet that if your date was with Ryan Gosling you would throw in the trash all ur schedule just to meet him

[KnightCross]

thanks for the MHO

[ThisAndThat]

It can be yes especially if you back out on your plans and you have someone else involved that caused them to get hung up waiting on you. And it's icing on the cake of disrespect when someone doesn't bother to tell the other party they changed plans causing them to get stood up.

[kaylaS91]

No.
Unless you've clearly stated that you need everyone to RSVP by a certain date, I wouldn't go so far as to say it's disrespectful. Sometimes people don't know what their work schedule will be till the week before, for example.

[Levin]

A week before is fine. We're dealing with people who ring you up in the last half an hour before going somewhere :)

[Matt21]

it's definitely rude to not confirm plans until the last minute but sometimes it's cool to pull things together at the last minute.

just try and talk about things a few days in advance but try to stay open to last minute change :)

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I personally get annoyed when I don't get immediate confirmation. But I don't hold it against people unless I am pretty sure they had nothing going on

[Tdieseler]

hey... at least its confirmed... some people tend to go AWOL at the last minute... now THAT is annoying.

[AleDeEurope]

Yes. If you're leaving things in a "maybe" and wait till 30 minutes before to confirm, that's disrespectful.

[madhatters4]

it depends. sometimes you can't confirm a plan until the last minute if other things are going on.

[Dim1213]

I'm just glad if they rsvp at all. Normally my freinds just leave me waiting for them.

[Kurodo]

dunno about disrespectful but it's definitely rude af

[Browneye57]

Sure. They're just waiting to see if there's a better offer.

Are you doing this? Or your guy? Or girlfriends?

[StressedOutTeen]

If that was my boyfriend and he didn't make deffinate olans till the last minute I would turn around and tell him you know what sorry I've already made plans x

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes it's disrespectful

[reptocarl]

I wouldn't say disrespectful but rude

[SimplySuperb]

That shit annoys the hell out of me

[clampfan101]

Depends on what the plans are for.

[Alexander101]

It depends on the situation

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is disrespectful. It's false hope

[Anonymous]

Are you talking about first dates?

[Anonymous]

Yeah it is.

[Anonymous]

things come up

[Anonymous]

Its the worst.