My boyfriend just called me "average looking" 😭😭... Could you be with someone that only thinks your average?

[Anonymous]

I don't wanna sound conceited but I don't know what kind of fucked up scale he's dealing with. Average is like calling somebody plain. I used to model & I get a ton of male attention every day

We've been together for over a year. He always called me attractive, sexy, pretty, hot, etc. During a conversation tonight, he informs me that he thinks that I'm average looking but that that is still better than him because he thinks he's below average. He said that he's attracted to me... yeah right, who's attracted to "average"? Then he proceeds to name all of my features that he likes - which was practically all of them. I ask him what makes me "average" then? He said he doesn't know. Makes so much sense, right?

I'm so pissed off. I feel like I've been lied to for our whole relationship. And don't tell me how personality is what counts. I know but I still don't want to be with someone that thinks I'm mediocre!! He bout to be single. I'm gonna leave him for one of those guys that thinks that I'm "hot". Let's see him do better than me, like apparently he thinks he can!!

So pissed!! 😠😢😠😢

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"I like everything about you physically" - yet that equals up to average? What? If that's how he feels, I wish he never would've gotten involved with me. Everything's been a lie. I'm gonna ghost his ass. Almost 2 years of my life for nothing smh

[MikaC98]

Uuh, wow. It might have been a mistake on his part you know? And to be honest, all guys say their girlfriends are the most beautiful in the world till they think they don't have to say it anymore. And that's later in the relationship because you should know how beautiful you are. It doesn't mean you have to break up with him, you just have to talk to him about it. Give it to him straight, that being called average hurt your feelings. Honey, you aren't mediocre, and he didn't lie to you. I'm sure you're a very beautiful woman. He meant those things, and he probably made a mistake. Try not to be so upset and talk to him about it :) The key to a relationship is communication. (coming from an 18 year old, I'm sorry, I wanna help)

[CheshireCat89]

You can be "average" when judged by conventional beauty standards and still be ravishing to your partner.

I love my partner, but he isn't conventionally handsome. He thinks he needs to loose weight. I think I would break him during "sexy time" if he were the weight he would like. He has one thin lip and one plump one, but that doesn't make me want to kiss him less.

The goal in a relationship is to find someone who can love your faults as much as your gifts. If he loves every part of you, it sounds like you've found a good one.

[Poppykate]

I agree! No one likes to be called average! I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think I am average on a good day. But some guys I have dated, look at me like I am a goddess. I think I could have a beautiful celebrity walk into the room naked with these guys, and they would still be making eyes with me. One guy I throw up on, had snort on my face from a cold, and he still called me beautiful. I couldn't help but laugh. Men are just weird!

[Asker]

Exactly, I'm not saying I'm the world's most beautiful person but to him I should be!!

[Poppykate]

I agree! 👍🏻

[Poppykate]

Thanks for the MHgirl cheers! 🍻

[Silverware]

When you are with someone then they should automatically look at you as the most beautiful woman around because they know who you are inside and out. To be called average looking is insulting not only to your external appearance, but your character as well. You have every right to be pissed. ... I don't know how he'll be able to dig himself out of this one.

[Caaarl]

It think it's kind of mean but if you love the guy please try and over look this and be happy. As long as the guy treats you right you can overcome this kind of thing.

[Nandor]

Its alla about if you are attractive or not it doesn't matter if u look good or not

[Asker]

That made no sense

[Amy_Theo]

sure it does. someone can look like a car ran over their face and still be attractive​. attractive basically takes in all the aspects of a person..

[Nandor]

I can like a girl and think she is damn attractive but my friends say that my taste in girls are really bad

[Nandor]

Tx by the way amy

[Amy_Theo]

ur DP 💕 I didn't know any guys who have read that manga. so I'm glad to meet u

[Nandor]

Dp? and im not reading manga but I watch animr

[seregunda]

I agree with you, even people that would scale as unattractive should be considered beautiful by their SOs. That's the point of being in a relationship! Not everybody gets to be beautiful in society, if everybody is beautiful nobody is, but everybody should feel beautiful when they're with their SO.

[Hotchoco333]

That definitely can hurt. My boyfriend tells me I'm the most beautiful girl in the world. And that he doesn't even want anyone else. And he wouldn't change a thing about me.
You need someone like that too. You deserve to be called beautiful and to feel that they mean it.

[RJGraveyTrain]

What kind of guy calls his girl average after years of calling her hot? Sounds like a passive aggressive way of slightly tearing you down and making you insecure since he feels beneath you.

[OjosOscuros2]

He's probably saying that so you don't get a big head about yourself, and/or he likes that this is bothering you so much. I think it's an insecurity thing but regardless, this is a rude thing to say to you.

[Asker]

What do you mean insecurity thing?

[OjosOscuros2]

Like him saying all the stuff about you but also saying that he's below average, it's almost like he's afraid of losing you so he's saying dumb things on purpose in order to keep you by his side. He doesn't realize it's backfiring.

[nevermoregirl7]

Dude, chill the fuck out. Two years is considered long for a guy. The great compliments happen in the beginning of the relationship. He loves you and that is all that matters.

[Asker]

No, the "great compliments" were lies. It's not all that matters, I don't wanna be "loved" in spite of my perceived ugliness. I really feel that these long 2 years have been a lie

[nevermoregirl7]

You are seriously overthinking it. If you were undesirable he wouldn't be with you.

[Asker]

People are usually with people for more than just their looks

[nevermoregirl7]

Exactly, so why are you so obsessed over your 2 year long holding boyfriend saying "average".

[Asker]

Because although there's more in life than looks, I don't want to be with a guy that thinks I'm mediocre. A boyfriend should think of & treat his girl like she's beautiful, not "average"

[nevermoregirl7]

Girly, if it bugs you that much. Break up with him, but you are going to regret it.

[Asker]

I plan on it. Why would I regret it? No, he'll regret it. I've got other options

[nevermoregirl7]

I am sure you got other options, but you are throwing away 2 years of a relationship for something so silly as a comment that sounds sarcastic.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

LMAO df? I'd be so triggered. I'd ask him to clarify and tell him how what he said really hurts my feelings.

[Anonymous]

Well, now his hand will be his only company. Serves him right.

[Anonymous]

but what makes him to be with you is his love o you. We may find someone average looking but if our heart loves that person that look doesn't have any importance here.

[Asker]

but that's not what I want. I don't want a man that finds me to be mediocre. He should just go find someone better then

[Anonymous]

Don't end a relationship over a communication error. You were a model and get hit in all the time. I agree with

[Opinion Owner]

Oops, it posted before I was done... I agree with Lord_Chill, I think he was trying to say you're the pretty girl next door. That's you're more than looks. He also said you're above him looks wise. Tell him it hurt you're feelings. If you get compliments from him on the regular why deal over one bone head attempt to set himself apart from your adoring horde? My boyfriend sucks at compliments, but treats me like gold. Is almost 2 years of a good guy and compliments worth throwing away cause of 1 statement? Plus a freak out like this makes you sound high maintenance and insecure, which I don't think is an accurate reflection of who you are. Just like your poor-worded boyfriend tried to say... you are more than you're looks.

[madking-zero]

dump any guy that thinks or says you're average, you're everything but average

[Amur8711]

Yes, because I must still find her to be attractive. But it is weird that your a model and he thinks your average.

[Tara101]

pm me if u like and we can talk

[Ripper_E]

What is average looking?

[Anonymous]

If you're average you're average...

[Opinion Owner]

Angry that I said the true? No argument?

[Opinion Owner]

You just said your boyfriend called you average looking and it's your boyfriend so if even him doesn't find you very attractive then you surely not.
Did I said I was good looking? No, I didn't.
I don't search a reaction either, I search some explanation to your ridiculous and childish behavior.

[Anonymous]

Dont be so dramatic and deal with it.

[Asker]

Great advice 👍👌