Objectively, in terms of physical attractiveness, I'm sure there's always going to be 'hotter' girls. But there's no girl other than the one who I am seeing, who can make me feel mushy :) 'tis called love. Does he not love you? Love is not the same as hotness. I've not met my wife yet. So I can't speak about the most beautiful girl in the world. I can't know, till I meet her, if I will feel that way; or if one gets swept away with romantic frippery. But I'd like to imagine I would. *Sigh*
Anyway, this is for you, to evoke images of England.
Your dad loves your mom and says that before she is his wife. They are at a totally different stage than you are dating someone for what 3 months? You need to realize you aren't the best looking person and their is always someone better. He was being honest, which you asked for and you just had to ask it didn't you? I've never had a woman ask me that while dating. They know better to ask it. You fixate on this and it will end your relationship. So you gave two options. Option A is to forget you even asked and I mean really forget it completely and not just say that. Or B end it immediately. Because if you don't do those, this will just end in heartbreak, even worse than now because you'll be more emotional connected to each other.
Everyone here is acting like the OP asked her boyfriend to LITERALLY travel around the globe and tell her if she's the most beautiful... Lmao it's not that deep y'all taking it too far. It's a simple question and I'm sorry but if a man is truly in love with you he wouldn't tell you that other girls are prettier when you're feeling insecure. That's just wrong.
Sorry but that's not how it works, but let me put it like this, do you believe your boyfriend is the most attractive guy out their? I just don't understand why girls want to think that we've been blind all of our lives. It makes no sense. But to add to injury, did you just outright ask him if your were the most beautiful girl? If so, you kind of deserved that answer and I don't feel sympathy for you, simply because you asked and got an answer you didn't like. No, I don't believe we as guys are obligated to think that our spouses are the most beautiful out of everyone else. It's selfish and attention leeching (please don't take it the wrong way, I'm simply giving you a guys pov)
I know I am not the prettiest girl in the entire world and I know that some girls are more attractive to my boyfriend than I am. But I am okay with that, because he wouldn't have chosen me if he wasn't attracted to me in the first place. That he is attracted to me is enough. And quoting my boyfriend: "If I were only attracted to you physically, I would force you to dump me immediately, because attraction shouldn't be only physical."
Would you rather he lied and said you were better then Miss America? Practically everyone settles since no one can get the 10 they want when they are horny. If I had a girlfriend I'd want an honest opinion if I asked for an honest opinion, not a sugar-coated white lie fed to me like a powdered donut and I wouldn't be mad or argue about it since I value honesty almost as much as looks. And yes you've been watching too many romance movies. Real life is not a movie or novel (that's why those movies exist in the first place, as an escape), it tends to suck far more. I don't know about unreasonable or psychotic but definitely naive and hanging on to some love ideal those movies put in your head that doesn't really exist. At least be glad "better than average" is a bit vague and you didn't ask for a 1-10 rating.
Not sure if he should or not, but I see it as only a good thing if he does. I would most certainly tell my girl that she's the most beautiful thing alive. But more importantly, I'd believe it. And I can see no down side to that
The fact that he chose you over someone who is more beautiful than you and he's not leaving you despite knowing more girls beautiful than you - you should already be grateful for this.
And one last thing: Do you think you're the most beautiful thing in the world?
If he said it matter of factly as if to drive a point home, yeah you should be upset. If he said it jokingly, to tease you or amuse himself without hurting you, but still did, you should let him know and try to communicate your thoughts to him. However it's important to grow up. Look at male and female models, it's highly likely they're physically better looking than either of you! However a certain thing called love can make those models look like a black and white protrait. Pretty, but lifeless. And your partner looks like this complex and beautiful creature who not only pleases the eyes but is a balm for the soul.
No he is not supposed to think you are the prettiest girl he has ever seen and i dont see why you are feeling so sad. So what if there are some people out there who look better than you? There will always be someone better than you at something. I dont think that any guy has ever meant it. They just say it because that is what women want to hear. Note : I bet my soul that your mom isn't the prettiest woman your dad has ever seen.
There are many people here believing that one should see their SO as the most attractive person. If so, why do many people cheat? People dont cheat with those who are less attractive than their partners :/
Actually a lot of people do cheat with people less attractive than their partners. I could give you a list of celebrities who's spouses have cheated down. Cheating isn't necessarily about looks
The truth is that there is always someone better looking out there. But while dating my ex, she was the most beautiful girl I could see. If she asked me, there would only be one answer, "she is the most beautiful" Personality and connection brings that attraction you had to another leve above all else.
Personally, I will compliment my girlfriend, but shy away from statements like that, especially if the relationship is young. I figure she will either sense me as desperate or use it against me and play mind games. It's kind of the same reason you don't tell her you love her until things are serious. I have thought that in my mind many times though, but have gone through too much heart break to put myself that far out there with a girl.
Your guy has the right to think whatever he wants. However, if he is verbally expressing that opinion to you, then yes, he's trying to put you down. This whole "be happy he's just being honest" bs is getting out of hand. You should want your partner to feel that she is the most beautiful woman in the world even if you don't think she is.
I'd say dump the guy and find someone who values you.
I always think in this kind of situation that when we call our S/O beautiful we are talking about mind, body and soul all together. If my girlfriend told me I was the most handsome guy she'd ever seen I'd think she was lying. It would be naive of us to think our S/O considers us the most physically attractive person in the world.
In my opinion its good he didn't lie but he wasn't very considerate of your feelings.
he could have just said you were beautiful
but then again i wonder the context of this. maybe u went to ask him if u were the most beautiful woman he has seen... well that is setting him up and setting yourself for disappointment.
He has, but only a couple times. He usually goes with attractive or sexy, maybe pretty. He's said hot a few times. It's just not the same as beautiful though
actually if my boyfriend told me ure the most beautiful in the world... id be like... wow how fake.. lol... i wouldn't like the exageration either cause id know it wasn't true...
You are definitely right. If a man loves someone that man is seeing that girl is the most beautiful girl in the world. It is same with the women too. And it should be like that. Otherwise there is no point or meaning. They can be with the prettier then. Why bother?
wow, I didn't think that there would be another woman as crazy as her but you are out there. Glad every other person that posted is telling her what everyone did in her last post of the same issue. you women are NOT the most beautiful women in the world. That is subjective anyway.
Honesty mang. You know you're not the most beautiful girl in the world. He finds you attractive though otherwise he wouldn't be with you. Realistically I know I'm not the most handsome guy in the world but I'm above average, if my girlfriend lied to me over it I'd smell the bullshit.
Yes and no. For me, the person is beautiful to me because I know them and love them. I might see other people who are objectively more attractive physically, but that doesn't make them beautiful or beloved. Hopefully that makes sense.
I am personally struggling with the same exact issue right now and honestly I don’t think you’re crazy at all. I feel the exact same way. Every time I’ve been in the relationship the guy has made me feel like I’m the most beautiful girl in the world and vice versa, now obviously there are more attractive people that exist on both sides, but whenever I have been with someone they have always been the most attractive person to ME.. so when I hear the exact same thing from my husband that you’ve heard from your boyfriend.. it hurts. It has me doubting my looks, my personality, everything. I think that your partner should view you as the most attractive. I think it shows how deep the connection between two people is. Knowing that there are others out there but still choosing their partner as the BEST. I don't know man, maybe I’m just crazy.
are you the one that posted this question before? He should think your beautiful, yes but "the most beautiful girl in the world?" NO not unless you just want to be lied to. I am fine with telling her that but it is not going to be true the logic makes no sense. why is it not enough that he thinks your beautiful?
I mean I don't want her saying I am "the most handsome man she has ever seen" because I know that just isn't true. While I don't think any men are good looking, I am sure they are to women. But I know comparatively, there are plenty of men better looking then me. Doesn't mean I am ugly, just means other men have better genes looks wise. In the end, she is with me, not them so that is good enough for me.
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You silly creature. *hugs*
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E5MaLVaN6tIObjectively, in terms of physical attractiveness, I'm sure there's always going to be 'hotter' girls. But there's no girl other than the one who I am seeing, who can make me feel mushy :) 'tis called love. Does he not love you? Love is not the same as hotness. I've not met my wife yet. So I can't speak about the most beautiful girl in the world. I can't know, till I meet her, if I will feel that way; or if one gets swept away with romantic frippery. But I'd like to imagine I would. *Sigh*
Anyway, this is for you, to evoke images of England.
Your dad loves your mom and says that before she is his wife. They are at a totally different stage than you are dating someone for what 3 months? You need to realize you aren't the best looking person and their is always someone better. He was being honest, which you asked for and you just had to ask it didn't you? I've never had a woman ask me that while dating. They know better to ask it.
You fixate on this and it will end your relationship. So you gave two options. Option A is to forget you even asked and I mean really forget it completely and not just say that. Or B end it immediately. Because if you don't do those, this will just end in heartbreak, even worse than now because you'll be more emotional connected to each other.
3 months? Lol no, try years
You and your boyfriend have been dating for years?
That is what I just said
Everyone here is acting like the OP asked her boyfriend to LITERALLY travel around the globe and tell her if she's the most beautiful... Lmao it's not that deep y'all taking it too far. It's a simple question and I'm sorry but if a man is truly in love with you he wouldn't tell you that other girls are prettier when you're feeling insecure. That's just wrong.
Sorry but that's not how it works, but let me put it like this, do you believe your boyfriend is the most attractive guy out their? I just don't understand why girls want to think that we've been blind all of our lives. It makes no sense. But to add to injury, did you just outright ask him if your were the most beautiful girl? If so, you kind of deserved that answer and I don't feel sympathy for you, simply because you asked and got an answer you didn't like. No, I don't believe we as guys are obligated to think that our spouses are the most beautiful out of everyone else. It's selfish and attention leeching (please don't take it the wrong way, I'm simply giving you a guys pov)
I know I am not the prettiest girl in the entire world and I know that some girls are more attractive to my boyfriend than I am. But I am okay with that, because he wouldn't have chosen me if he wasn't attracted to me in the first place. That he is attracted to me is enough.
And quoting my boyfriend: "If I were only attracted to you physically, I would force you to dump me immediately, because attraction shouldn't be only physical."
he sounds wonderful
Thanks, I am lucky.
Would you rather he lied and said you were better then Miss America? Practically everyone settles since no one can get the 10 they want when they are horny. If I had a girlfriend I'd want an honest opinion if I asked for an honest opinion, not a sugar-coated white lie fed to me like a powdered donut and I wouldn't be mad or argue about it since I value honesty almost as much as looks. And yes you've been watching too many romance movies. Real life is not a movie or novel (that's why those movies exist in the first place, as an escape), it tends to suck far more. I don't know about unreasonable or psychotic but definitely naive and hanging on to some love ideal those movies put in your head that doesn't really exist. At least be glad "better than average" is a bit vague and you didn't ask for a 1-10 rating.
Not sure if he should or not, but I see it as only a good thing if he does. I would most certainly tell my girl that she's the most beautiful thing alive. But more importantly, I'd believe it. And I can see no down side to that
The fact that he chose you over someone who is more beautiful than you and he's not leaving you despite knowing more girls beautiful than you - you should already be grateful for this.
And one last thing:
Do you think you're the most beautiful thing in the world?
If he said it matter of factly as if to drive a point home, yeah you should be upset. If he said it jokingly, to tease you or amuse himself without hurting you, but still did, you should let him know and try to communicate your thoughts to him. However it's important to grow up. Look at male and female models, it's highly likely they're physically better looking than either of you! However a certain thing called love can make those models look like a black and white protrait. Pretty, but lifeless. And your partner looks like this complex and beautiful creature who not only pleases the eyes but is a balm for the soul.
No he is not supposed to think you are the prettiest girl he has ever seen and i dont see why you are feeling so sad. So what if there are some people out there who look better than you? There will always be someone better than you at something. I dont think that any guy has ever meant it. They just say it because that is what women want to hear. Note : I bet my soul that your mom isn't the prettiest woman your dad has ever seen.
Why is everybody (especially the women here) are mixing up looks and and personalities? WE ARE DISCUSSING LOOKS ONLY.
everybody mixing up*
There are many people here believing that one should see their SO as the most attractive person. If so, why do many people cheat? People dont cheat with those who are less attractive than their partners :/
Actually a lot of people do cheat with people less attractive than their partners. I could give you a list of celebrities who's spouses have cheated down. Cheating isn't necessarily about looks
The truth is that there is always someone better looking out there. But while dating my ex, she was the most beautiful girl I could see. If she asked me, there would only be one answer, "she is the most beautiful" Personality and connection brings that attraction you had to another leve above all else.
Personally, I will compliment my girlfriend, but shy away from statements like that, especially if the relationship is young. I figure she will either sense me as desperate or use it against me and play mind games. It's kind of the same reason you don't tell her you love her until things are serious. I have thought that in my mind many times though, but have gone through too much heart break to put myself that far out there with a girl.
Your guy has the right to think whatever he wants. However, if he is verbally expressing that opinion to you, then yes, he's trying to put you down. This whole "be happy he's just being honest" bs is getting out of hand. You should want your partner to feel that she is the most beautiful woman in the world even if you don't think she is.
I'd say dump the guy and find someone who values you.
I always think in this kind of situation that when we call our S/O beautiful we are talking about mind, body and soul all together. If my girlfriend told me I was the most handsome guy she'd ever seen I'd think she was lying. It would be naive of us to think our S/O considers us the most physically attractive person in the world.
In my opinion its good he didn't lie but he wasn't very considerate of your feelings.
he could have just said you were beautiful
but then again i wonder the context of this. maybe u went to ask him if u were the most beautiful woman he has seen... well that is setting him up and setting yourself for disappointment.
i kinda of never felt the need to ask this to my boyfriend
has he never called u beautiful before this?
He has, but only a couple times. He usually goes with attractive or sexy, maybe pretty. He's said hot a few times. It's just not the same as beautiful though
I think that he tried to b honest with you cause he didn't want u to think he was patronizing you by being fake
im sure he thinks you're beautiful then
just when u asked for an honest opinion just on looks
just based on looks... as im sure that was the kind of question
he went for the objective more clinnical kind of answer... better than average
which is actually good cause means you're not plain. means you're pretty.
it was just the problem that he didn't see you were expecting a more sensitive to your vulnrabilties kind of answer
which was a bit stupid of him lol
but im sure he didn't do it with bad intentions.
and im sure he sees you as beautiful
actually if my boyfriend told me ure the most beautiful in the world... id be like... wow how fake.. lol... i wouldn't like the exageration either cause id know it wasn't true...
a genuine compliment is better than a fake one :)
stupid... lol dense is a better word
You are definitely right. If a man loves someone that man is seeing that girl is the most beautiful girl in the world. It is same with the women too. And it should be like that. Otherwise there is no point or meaning. They can be with the prettier then. Why bother?
wow, I didn't think that there would be another woman as crazy as her but you are out there. Glad every other person that posted is telling her what everyone did in her last post of the same issue. you women are NOT the most beautiful women in the world. That is subjective anyway.
Honesty mang. You know you're not the most beautiful girl in the world. He finds you attractive though otherwise he wouldn't be with you. Realistically I know I'm not the most handsome guy in the world but I'm above average, if my girlfriend lied to me over it I'd smell the bullshit.
Yes and no. For me, the person is beautiful to me because I know them and love them. I might see other people who are objectively more attractive physically, but that doesn't make them beautiful or beloved. Hopefully that makes sense.
I am personally struggling with the same exact issue right now and honestly I don’t think you’re crazy at all. I feel the exact same way. Every time I’ve been in the relationship the guy has made me feel like I’m the most beautiful girl in the world and vice versa, now obviously there are more attractive people that exist on both sides, but whenever I have been with someone they have always been the most attractive person to ME.. so when I hear the exact same thing from my husband that you’ve heard from your boyfriend.. it hurts. It has me doubting my looks, my personality, everything.
I think that your partner should view you as the most attractive. I think it shows how deep the connection between two people is. Knowing that there are others out there but still choosing their partner as the BEST. I don't know man, maybe I’m just crazy.
are you the one that posted this question before?
He should think your beautiful, yes
but "the most beautiful girl in the world?" NO
not unless you just want to be lied to.
I am fine with telling her that but it is not going to be true
the logic makes no sense.
why is it not enough that he thinks your beautiful?
I mean I don't want her saying I am "the most handsome man she has ever seen" because I know that just isn't true. While I don't think any men are good looking, I am sure they are to women. But I know comparatively, there are plenty of men better looking then me. Doesn't mean I am ugly, just means other men have better genes looks wise. In the end, she is with me, not them so that is good enough for me.