Is it wrong to want to discuss things in person instead of over text?

[nateo24]

Whenever I'm in a relationship, I want to make sure that if there's an issue, I'm expressing my thoughts and feelings 100% in full, and I feel like with texting, or even talking over the phone, body language and tone of voice is lost in translation. For this reason, whenever I want to talk about something important with my so, I will never do it over text or phone call (unless of course it's long distance in which case there's really no other option.) However, in every relationship I've been in, I've had my so practically beg me to tell them whatever it is that I want to wait to tell them in person whenever we're texting. I'll tell them something like "There's something on my mind and I want to tell you about it, but I want to tell you in person" and it'll raise it's own set of issues from there on out. So, am I in the wrong here? My gut is telling me no, and I know I've definitely dated some immature chicks in the past, but I want to hear what you guys think.

[Uziel_007]

You are absolutely right to want to discuss important things in person!

However, for future, keep in mind that it's better to not say anything like, "I have something important to tell you" and then not say it.

That's where, I feel, you are doing your SO wrong. She has every right to know something that's important right away.

If it's something important and you feel it should be discussed in person, then do not mention anything about it unless the two of you are face to face.

Hope this helps!

[o0cyfr0o]

In ALL my years of experience, if a girl mentions anything about "we need to talk", the next few words are "we need to break up", or (not of my experience) "I'm pregnant."

If you need to say something important and are warning him before hand give a hint about the subject. Hey I need to talk to you later about the car... Hey I want to talk to you later about a job I got... Hey my parents are coming down for a weekend we need to talk.

[Tania_bilkis]

Its totally normal and wise decision. And it shows your maturity too.

Ps. Im myself only 18 year old and of course i don't have any right to say who's mature or not.

[Anonymous]

Nah, I also like talking in person or through calls. I hate texting so much that I rarely pick up the phone to respond to a text unless it's really important.

[Jaye234]

It's best to speak in person about anything serious.
Texting is meant for a simple chat.

[GayHowellMeme]

It's not wrong, I'll likely and mostly talk in person.

[LaFemmeFatale]

No. I also prefer to discuss things in person.

[madhatters4]

i think it is definitely smarter to discuss in depth things over the phone or in person. i think if it is something that needs to be addressed sooner than later and schedules prevent you from meeting them in person sooner then talking over the phone works well

but definitely discussing things of any importance is better done verbally (over the phone or in person) than via text

[madhatters4]

Thanks for MHO

[AndyD96]

A lot of things should really be discussed in person, especially if it's a delicate subject.

Text is great, but memories are truly made in person and not over texts. It's less like you're talking to a person and more to a robot that represents the person you're talking to.

[vittle1999]

The reason they ask for advance intimation is to know subject matter of what u want to discuss. When a woman tells a guy we need to talk or a guy tells that to a woman, first qn that arises is regarding what? Is it a serious matter n if so what did I do wrong.

[thatboi23]

Definitely person to person. I wouldn't even bring it up that you need to talk because then they just get filled with anxiety of what it could be. I just talk about it when we are hanging out next. If it can't wait then I persist on meeting up sooner.

[Browneye57]

No. You get no emotion and zero body language texting so at least half of what's being communicated is lost. Which leads to misunderstanding and confusion. No, save the texting for arranging the next meet up IRL.

[samhradh_leannan]

It’s good to have those talks in person, or at least over the phone.

[Wurdom]

I 100% agree with you. Women can be extremely stubborn during an argument and take things the wrong way. I'd want to make sure there are no misunderstandings

[Juxtapose]

I LOATHE it when people tease me with information like that, I always assume the worst.

Either tell me right there or not at all.

[thatguywhere]

Nope. I prefer things to be in person as opposed to text.

[Ronin514]

Try FaceTime or Skype or something. People don't like to be left hanging.

[Auctor]

Is not wrong at all people need to realize that we were made for person-to-person contact

[Ali47]

Just convey whatsoever you want to say by text or in person don't delay otherwise it will. be too late to express

[itsjjustmee]

I prefer in person but sometimes I do it over text if I can't get it out of my mind

[RuthAnn1781]

Nah, I think that's alright, it's not a problem

[Vmm90]

I agree with you 100%

[AlphaM1]

Always Face to face texting is not a conversation

[Anonymous]

you are totally right

[brownbeauty23]

You are 💯 right