Impossible not to judge; mostly because you're asking for an opinion.
Seems he is just being jealous and selfish; don't fall for this... That's the point: if you just feel like he wants you but not enough to be his girlfriend nor does he want you to go out or be with anyone else, leave him. Don't treat as the one someone who treats you as the second or anything else.
"I just feel like he is keeping his options open just in case and it does not feel good." Probably, he is indeed!
"I have considered leaving him. But I am too attached to him and it is really hard." Life is hard; and even harder if you want to be happy. Do what you have to do and deal with the consequences.
Bottom line: friends with benefits, good; exclusivity, bad.
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Stupid to get angry at a kiss.
It's one thing to protect yourself by having a friend with benefits that doesn't fuck with 20 people at the same time, but a kiss is a bit shallow to get pissed off at.
That said, you can't expect him to make time for you just because you came to his town unexplectively.
If he had school and an organized party it's selfish of you to expect him to stop doing his things just for you.
And now you have opinions on both side.
You want something stable and clear?
Then leave. As simple as that.
You owe each other nothing.
It seems he wants you to be exclusive to him at his convenience, doesn't really seem fair.
This seems like way too much drama for a friend with benefits, I would drop him tbh.
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Here's the deal: I love the idea of an exclusive friends with benefits. If I could find a girl down for that, I would do it in a heartbeat. But living in the same city/area would be a requirement. I'm not gonna not have sex with available women, just because a woman who I have no obligation to, and who lives in a place too far away to see regularly, doesn't want me to. It's just not fair to either of you. You're talking about an LDR without the emotional component.
Good lord you're already dating each other. Just call it what it is.
If you don't feel like it, don't agree to it
Fuck what a block.
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