What advice would you give the next person dating your ex?

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I tried warning the girl, she didn’t listen l... smh... some women just want a warm body next to them! lol!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

He's got depressive symptomatology, the inclination to blame all of his problems on everyone else and becomes highly anxious and unstable if something doesn't go his way. He's unable to cope with any problems in his life. He also has insomnia but isn't willing to do anything about it.
He's all talk and no action (in the beginning), later stages he'll do nothing but complain about his life. He's a broken record, be prepared to have the same conversation over and over again. He's got bad memory so he doesn't remember the little things about you, or some of the things you told him the day before.

On a positive note, he's very attractive, tall, bilingual (French) he'd move a mountain for you if he loves you. He will treat you very well and be kind.

Make sure you're strong enough to not let it bring you down. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, sooo it's likely he's going to rub off on you. Are you okay with that?

TheOnlyAriii · Accepted Answer

I spoke with my boyfriend's ex and she told me what happened between them. I learned both point of views. Basically, they both rushed in and my boyfriend fell out of love.

Although it wasn't a direct advice, it did teach me to calm down and not rush things with him, and be very open with my worries and such.

I'd tell him "I'm scared you fall out of love" and he'd reassure me, telling it was different with me.

With his exes, he'd last a few months. His longest was 4 lmao 😂 with me, it's been wayy over that. Reaching the 2nd year now. 😄

I learned a lot from his ex. She also told me that he's a good guy and deserves to be happy☺️ don't ruin someone elses relationship by giving bad advice. It's not your relationship anymore and it may differ from yours.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Watch out he’s a rapist, he’ll break you and leave you to pick up the pieces, when you call him out on it, try and ask him why he’ll block you, thoughts of suicide become a part of everyday life, eventually you’ll find yourself having meaningless sex with dangerous men to try regain power and control but it won’t stop you feeling empty so you just get high all time to keep him off your mind, to keep it off your mind until you finally go to therapy and realise it was inevitable that it’d happen eventually how could you not see the signs, so you focus on getting better and gradually over time you’re less broken than before but are still missing pieces and the nightmares are still very real, and you still piss the bed sometimes but you’re still here.. and you ask yourself why

Yuffie999 · Accepted Answer

I would tell them that sometimes he’s a dick.. but only to be humorous and to take it lightly as he will never insult you, only tease you in a healthy way. He has a difficult time opening up, so when he does, listen closely and be there for him. He may act like he doesn’t need you... but he does. He’s going through a lot and can sometimes get angry easily but just leave him be. If you’re cuddling, let him vent. He’s not the type to hurt you or yell at you when he’s mad, just try not to anger him more. His memory isn’t the best, but that’s from playing too many contact sports. He’ll remember what’s important.

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

Go slow, and you don't have to put up with the fighting. And don't be afraid to say "no."

I would imagine that the only ideal guy for her as she was (and probably still is) would have to be some kind of simpering wimp who would never speak out of turn, and do everything for her at the drop of a hat. He would have to be her lapdog. And I don't think that would last long. That, or he would have to be the toughest guy around. Someone who had so MUCH confidence and apathy that he could tell her off easy and just do whatever he wanted. Enough to where he knew all the games and could somehow stop them before they started. Of course, if he had that kind of confidence, he'd probably sense those issues a mile away and would never bother.

Maybe one piece of advice would be to: "Be careful of the friend version verses the dating version. They are two different women."

pervertedjester · Accepted Answer

Something like this.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Don't expect her to ever fall in love with you because she is incapable of feeling that towards a partner. (Very sad!)

NineBreaker · Answer

In the case if my 1st ex, she's rediculously immature and manipulative; she used to lie to me just to see how I'll react. She's super jealous too; she once saw a message from a "Whitney" on my phone who was in town and wanted to hang out, not realizing that Whitney is an old buddy of mine from college. I had a lot of fun that afternoon, and by that, I mean that I did not. She's married now, so, not my problem anymore.

As for my second; She's OK, but I think she has daddy issues. She lives with her parents, which alone doesn't bother me much. However, She's a freakin' doctor, but somehow her dad treats her and her adult siblings like they were teenagers. Seriously, grow some backbone people! 🚩

The third is a sweet girl; very sensitive, very kind, but she has no grit. None! Additionally, she often exhibited poor judgement. Hopefully she changed since we were together.

Hal2002 · Answer

And some people especially an ex, should mind their own business.

That girl is smart, she knew better than to listen to an ex that for all she knew was trying to make trouble.

Just because you had certain issues with your ex, does not mean he will be the same with the new person he is involved with. Every relationship is different, and it may have not been him. It could have been you, that was the problem in the last relationship.

Amy94x · Answer

I'm actually trying to get him back at the moment, but if I had to give his next girl advice, it would be this..
Look after him, he's not always as strong as he acts, and he can be the most amazing person if you give him the love he deserves

I'm so heartbroken 💔

lalaLiza · Answer

I would tell them to save their breath and talk to a wall cause that's basically the same thing as talking to my ex.

in all seriousness: understand when enough is enough. Some guys will put you through the same pain over and over again and as much you want to believe that they'll change - they never will. If they don't understand what it means to be mindful of someone else's feelings, then cut your losses and find someone willing to understand you and treat you better.

willakilla · Answer

If you like serving then tina was great-
However, lidia, she will tske you flying, drug free' nothing like it' until its your turn and becausse she did for you. Problem being its bipolar with a sexualy pervers spirit blinding you,
Ill be there for him sfyer she eats his kids. But now, i keeo quiet so he can take her far from me-
The pleasure pasc feels now, cam only be measured by the peace i enjoy that she's almost gone for good,

God thank you for pasc, snd protect the kiddsc but pleasr help them tie the knot already-

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

I wouldn't forewarn her , or give her any advice at all. . It would just make me appear like a jealous bitch. I'm too busy getting on with my own life to be bothered about interfering in an exes.

He might be everything she's looking for. It's not my place to say anything to her. It's her life , she has to make her own decisions based on her perception of him... not mine.

CallMeDave · Answer

LOL. I could sum up my advice to any guy wanting to date my most recent ex in one word: Don't!

It's not that she's a bad person and as a friend she could be great, but she's just not someone that I think is capable of doing what it takes to be in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

He falls hard and fast or not at all. And he’s fragile and has towering walls guarding his heart, but once they’re down he’s completely open. Maybe too open but he needs the shoulder to lean on and if you aren’t prepared to be there for him, don’t even try in the first place. He’s an amazing person, but a little misguided sometimes. 100% worth the trouble.

HonestGirlAlways · Answer

Give him some space from time to time and don't show him you care a lot about him or he'll feel too comfortable and stop being caring himself. He's gonna say he loves you and blah blah blah but you gotta make him show he does or it's bullshit (it was bullshit in my case). He's forgetful and self absorbed sometimes but he doesn't mean to upset you so try not to be too affected by that.

loveshorro · Answer

Well that depends if it was the first guy then I’d tell her to “run like hell because he’s a manipulative cheater, that dates numerous girls at once” if it was the second then I’d tell her to “keep him safe and make sure he always feels loved and protect, because he needs it”

irishearwiggler · Answer

Depends on which ex it is, last ex I would say go for it she's a good person with a good heart, and she's fun to hang out with even if it's only platonic. Ex before her would be to not date her she's a cheater and a liar as well as self centered and childish.

kilowatt04 · Answer

I think it's hilarious how every single person ever's ex is crazy/an asshole/a liar etc. There sure must be a lot of really quiet crazy exes out there. It's almost as good as how like 90% of people rate themselves as above average skill level.

Anonymous · Answer

LOL- that depends which one we're talking about.  My most recent one- don't put up with too much from her.  The previous one- be good to her because she is a genuine gem of a woman.

Duke1985 · Answer

Warning somebody about anyone is always a bad idea. Ex or not. Because whatever it is that makes someone alarming, people need to find oit for themselves. Except for violent or maybe deceptive people. So no, i wouldn't warn anybody. Also, my might have changed, but that's not my concern anymore.

hannahbanana11 · Answer

I would never ruin somebody's chances with someone else but at the same time he was one crazy son of a bitch. I wish someone told me that he has trust issues so deep that he thinks my cousin isn't actually my cousin, has my insta pw but thinks I'm cheating, and hacks my snapchat and posts things from the past bc I broke up with him. He. Is. Psychotic.

Eckyx · Answer

I think my ex is a very good person, but she has pretty severe depression and that was challenging for me. I want her to find love, but I hope she finds a person who is kinder and more patient than I was.

Anonymous · Answer

Dude is psycho killer material. Thank god I realized it before it was too late, and thank God that it was just an online thing and he didn't know where I lived. He was manipulative, lacking emotion for anything at all, dreamt of having violent jobs and lifestyles, and threatened self harm when broken up with before stalking every account I made, including ones I hadn't mentioned to him.

Anonymous · Answer

He would care about his Mum more then you and he has annoying anger issues where he wouldn’t speak to me if he is angry even if you didn’t do anything wrong and he isn’t romantic at all. He also would end the relationship by just ignoring you. Other then that he is nice and he might cheat on you but depends

witherwing · Answer

There was nothing really wrong with my last ex, except he was a bit closed off. I think the right girl would open him up.

AperolSpritz · Answer

Be patient and go easy on him. He's confusing as fuck, but there's a reason for that.  Overall, he's got a good heart, so hold on to him.  That guy is gold!!

Anonymous · Answer

When you haven't heard from her for 4 days it doesn't mean she's ghosting you. She just has no concept whatsoever of what constitutes "communication" (unless it's one of her girl friends telling her she's just eaten a carrot... in which case the conversation can go in for hours...). You either accept being so unimportant you have to remind her she has a boyfriend, or do what I did. End it by text and see how long it takes for her to notice 😁😁😁😁

Butthole1234 · Answer

My last ex was amazing. I would tell her to treat him right and to never betray his trust. To comfort him and always have his back since his own family doesn’t even have his back. To always be honest with him because that’s something he values a lot.

Aurorabean · Answer

He was too immature and dumb for me but time has passed and we both learned a lot from our relationship together and I hope that he treats you much better than he did me. I hope you two are right for each other and are happy.

Kodvik · Answer

Treat she well... And do everything for her... She deserves your best ^^ (she is a awesome girl xP but we had different wishes for the future)

Odysseas · Answer

If you want to get rid of her in the future, just DON'T RUN. She's like a T-Rex if you don't move she'll leave on her own!!!

truthlover · Answer

If u want someone very caring and warm don't leave her she is a priceless gem u have got she is very sensitive so be careful with ur actions and be loyal to her coz she will be nothing but loyal to u don't miss a opportunity of a lifetime.

kabir148 · Answer

Stay calm Try to understand her and the situation Don't try or ask her to change Last but not the least don't even think about hurting her

CandacePerry · Answer

My ex boyfriend to shy to open up and he the one that broke up with me in first place. I would set him to shy girl. One my ex friends didn't listen to me about ex best friend he was a bad boy. I warn her but she didn't listen.

k269c · Answer

He's sweet and loving but it'll become obsessive and he'll rule over you and your life. If you find a way to stop him from controlling you and destroying everything you used to be, well done. I hope you're both happy together

itsbrielle98 · Answer

Lol don’t bother. He was a manipulative, cynical tool that projects a lot and was too emotional for his own good (fyi be a little sus when a guy texts in full on paragraphs. They are thinking about every word 😂)

CarpetDenim · Answer

I wouldn't really give them advice so much as I'd threaten to cave their skull in if they hurt him like I have down the line. I'm not in love with him anymore but he's still my best friend and I care a lot about him.

LoveBirb · Answer

None. Its none of my business and my past relationship shouldn't taint theirs. Unless I thought he would hurt or abuse her in some way, I would wish them well.

DilligentDude · Answer

She's a sexually molested alcoholic, good luck. Oh and very manipulative, careful she doesn't get you to hit her. Cause she's into drug addicts, which means you're probably on heroin, meth, crack or alcohol.

Anonymous · Answer

Good fucking luck.
If it's (R) he's a drug addict and completely insane when he's on meth. He's violent all the time. He can't keep his dick in his pant either.
If it's (j) OMG. Don't!! You can't even shower without him threating suicide because you won't talk to him..

NovaByte · Answer

Don't go down on her unless you want to taste another dick from the night before.

spiderweirdo · Answer

Id honestly say " when something feels to good to be true, it usually is." Although I wouldn't blame her for not listening. He's so good at it, i think he fools even himself.

KDria · Answer

I would never take an ex’s word for it. You never know why they’re telling you that. Plus, even if it’s a mistake for his to date someone... people need to make their own mistakes

sleepyboy2000 · Answer

you simple do not. if its your ex then your best bet is to leave them alone. seriously. besides that your assuming your ex is just a bad person. when their actions in the relationship could have been provoked by you.

HIGHFLIII · Answer

Unless they physically abused you or cheated on you, I would not say anything. You would not want to ruin his chances with someone else. He or she might click better than you did with them.

Astoriana · Answer

My last boyfriend was a good noodle. No warnings necessary. Though, I would tell her that his armpits are ridiculously ticklish. It was fucking hilarious what he would do when tickled.

averagepotterhead9 · Answer

My first ex: warning, he’s slightly immature and his main goal is to get a blowie. However, he’s a cute redhead and plans nice dates/gives compliments so maybe you’ll handle him better than I did. My second ex: BEWARE!! He’s a complete attention whore, always talking about how downtrodden and misfortuned he is when in fact, he’s lying. Do not fall for him, he left me for my best friend (who rejected him).

Tethered · Answer

She's awesome during the honeymoon phase but wait till you start having disagreements and she becomes petty as hell holding grudges against you for weeks, better run

yessitsonanpoppin · Answer

i think your ex could be perfect for someone else just like you are perfect for someone else. as long as they aren't abusive i wouldn't give any warning

Anonymous · Answer

"Buy an oxygen mask to sleep at night because his fart smells like rat poison"...

PurpleTeardrops2 · Answer

I'd say "He's a loser girl! He has no money, he's not hardworking at all! You'd be wasting your time. Don't do it! He couldn't even take me out on a date!".

Morrock · Answer

I'll tell the advice to do everything to keep her, even if she's sometimes hard to live, she's so amazing... Mine was amazing... I didn't decide, but situation was hard... So, just that...

parttimelover · Answer

Your ex will always be an asshole beacuse he drew a line with you and switched to a different girl he sees as worth his time. A girl's ex is almost always an asshole.

hi2712 · Answer

Be ready to be yelled at even when it's not your fault. Oh! And also, you'll have to apologize even when the screw up was done by Walt Disney.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

I'd tell him good luck, maybe it was me and the other hundred or so guys that couldn't get it right and not her fault? Then I'd walk away laughin' my ass off... 🤣🤣😂😂

jimyee · Answer

It's a trap!!! No seriously though I still love my most recent ex (but not in love with) but I would warn the next guy that she has some major double standards with some of her feminist ideals

skel47 · Answer

She probs thinks its wprth investigating herself. I wouldn't worry about it yourself. Its no longer your business.

AbdKilani · Answer

Lol looking for my ex's opinion over here 😂😂 For me I would tell the guy just to take care of her.  Don't hurt her, and be gentle!

nevermoregirl7 · Answer

He is a great boyfriend. He is a kind man. He will definitely help you in times of need. But he is afraid of commitment and change.

dimitrovtheruski · Answer

Listen, she's great but she's needy. You gotta be willing to step up to the plate and give her a shitload of attention

Futron · Answer

Seriously. RUN. He sends naughty pictures, and has explicit conversations with young underage girls. Not like anyone trusts their partners' exes.

Anonymous · Answer

Someone is dating him already and I'd want to tell her to be careful.

"I don't know what kind of relationship or deal you have, but I want you to be careful. It might be that he has told you about his past or what he has told you but he's not

rpgkira · Answer

She has chronic depression and fights suicide so prepare for a lot of ups and downs. She looks like she has her shit together but... ITS A TRAP.

kitkat1723 · Answer

He will use you to fill some void in him. Remember you are a women you are not made of broken metaphors and apologises to feed his ego

guilly18butnot · Answer

Sleep with a gun under the pillow? Hmmmm, every ex is different so there's no single answer for this question.

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