What do you think about your partner having an opposite sex best friend? (Page 4)

Question

While it's great when you're single it's a problem when you're in a relationship, so Does a long term opposite sex friendship pose à threat to your relationship with your significant other? Do you get insecure and jealous and set boundaries between them or you just try to act cool?

catj9999 · Answer

I don't see as it really matters as if someone is going to cheat they'll cheat weather they have a friend of the opposite sex

Demiurge6 · Answer

Very hard question to answer, because it depends on so many factors , like culture ( in many cultures friend is defined differently) , trust in relationship, how serious it is, etc.

readywriter · Answer

My partner can't have a opposite sex best friends. There is no such thing anyway unless they are unable to have sex. It really is a bout sex and I will be the only man who knows her secrets.

nerdEboi · Answer

I don't care about it from my vantage point. However, my girlfriend is very jealous of it. I don't know why though cuz my girl best friend is like a sister to me, plus she's married! 😑

Dkarma303 · Answer

It doesn't bother me at all. I understand things could develop but it's simple if she's really about it then there is no worries. If she's not then good to know kinda thing. Gotta let them be who they are and do what they do. Only way to be real

shiril · Answer

It's about understanding amongst both, clarity of thoughts and Faith which can. lead the thoughts proper way. In some of the cases I will be comfortable with her Best Friend in some cases I won't be.

kv910 · Answer

Well there must be a line which shouldn't be crossed by them..

a3kube · Answer

I don't mind it as long as they are not so close (frequently meeting with me) friends, and if our relationship is not that serious. But our relationship is serious boundaries should be established for such things.

sleepy143 · Answer

I feel that if ur insecure in the relationship u will have problems. If u r doing things together that would allow the thought that u were having sex with bestie than it is a problem. If ur bestie is single could seem to cause a problem.

Linkin83 · Answer

Depends on their history. You can't give a blanket statement without knowing their personality and/or history. It can be ok and there again you may need to nip that in the bud immediately. Depends on the personality

Jsuarz · Answer

I had a problem with it until i met my exs friend who till this day she calls her brother and we became good friends. he's a metal head and loves drinking, i get along with everyone and i love drinking

itsmearia · Answer

I have no problem with it as long as it’s not a love, Rosie kind of situation

datchorchik309 · Answer

I’d say if it’s a friend from before your relationship started then it’s ok. No newly acquired opposite sex friends.

Kayla1610 · Answer

If I know she won't try anything then I won't really care.

Anonymous · Answer

In my case she has a male friend that she sees regularly and for intimacy as well. I have accepted this. We have been married for nine years and during sex we shared fantasies and I wanted my wife to actually take on a lover. She has and now is feminizing me.

Ehenrich213 · Answer

I have been lied and cheated on with this situation too many times and I have a problem with it unless he is openly gay

SlowRoast · Answer

I have a best friend with the opposite sex & im in a relationship but the thing is they're gay ^___^

dragonfly6516 · Answer

Completely fine with it. We're in an open relationship, and I trust him.

michael45 · Answer

I have no problems with it. But my girlfriend says to me "I'm her best friend so she doesn't want any.

TimIsThatGuy · Answer

It's cool as long as he isn't putting any moves on her and it is mutually understood that they are just friends.

sammy1537 · Answer

A relationship is about trust. If you don't trust then you don't have a relationship.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I have no problem if i had a girlfriend who had a best friend who was a Male. As long we know things are committed between us that's all matters.

winterfox10 · Answer

I think it's all a load of crap. A best friend of the opposite sex is just someone you are attracted to, but can't have sex with for whatever reason.

femme_A · Answer

My best friend is a guy, so I have absolutely no problem with that.

Ephemera1 · Answer

Nope not happening. I am required to be her best friend for life.

capritarrius · Answer

I don't hate it i will just let them be, if they grow too close i will just leave her because that shows that she should could care less about me and more about him as romantic partner or whatever

ItsMeJT · Answer

Honestly i want to be my partners best friend male or female doesn't mattet. I want that closeness to the degree that i want to hang out with you all the time even if we werent fucking.

Kareless21 · Answer

nope no problem with. :) she has male friends just like I have female friends. We have never had issues on this. Actually it's the least of our problems.

alphamale07 · Answer

I would never agree on my partner having an opposite sex as best friends cuz that would make me jealous and feel like that I’m not her priority or I’m not good enough!!!

dolemite68 · Answer

If it's a gay friend or someone she grew up with like a family friend I wouldn't care, but if she has a straight male friend that's a good looking guy I call melarkey

motownplayer2000 · Answer

If I'm in a relationship with them, it means I trust them enough to be and adult and responsible... She can have whoever friends she wants.. it's unhealthy if you don't let that happen

LegateLanius · Answer

I would not have a problem with it but only if she confides more in me and spends most of her free time with me. Your SO is supposed to be your best friend

Sfioui · Answer

For me it was not a problem, but when she started to compare me to him I knew it won't end on good terms, she left me for an other person then an other one... So maybe I will not think the same way I was before.

Anonymous · Answer

That only works in kindergarten, not in real life. Unless his best friend is his sister, his mother, his aunt or something like that.

Dos_santos · Answer

I hate to have a partner with best friend opposite sex actually I can't with stand this.

RobertEmil · Answer

In my experience it doesn’t work, unless the friend is gay.

libertyz · Answer

I think honestly if more multicouple homes, and people were TRULY honest no matter what... and realize simply people, and yes I'm talking to you love to fuck, and eventually want and need to fuck someone else.

wayne385 · Answer

No i didn't get with her to share her with another man

ciararosieirwin · Answer

If they have a best friend that's the same gender that they're attracted to than so be it, I trust the person I'm going out with and if they betray that then I'm not in the wrong, I'm okay with it, it's friendship gender doesn't get in the way of it

Jaybear0123 · Answer

I would probably be jealous if she was prettier than me lol

DollySummers · Answer

Nothing wrong unless there is a trust issue. Than talk it over.

LasseKnutte · Answer

In a relationship you have to trust each other. I would probably mind it but if she assured me that there was nothing between them then why not? Otherwise you could try and befriend them too and see if anything is going on.

Nadia1994 · Answer

I wouldn't mind it at all. Only insecure people will get affected by it.

JustMe_78 · Answer

There's no problem with it, as long as all it truly is, is a friendship. If your radar gets tweaked, then discuss it... sure you might be told that you're "overreacting", but I've learned to always trust my gut.

enio178 · Answer

I think you should be cool, they should always be trust between two

ryanlightning · Answer

If I dated (which I don't) then it wouldn't bother me at all

nutshell234 · Answer

I think out of respect for the person you are with no matter what they say you should probably keep the friendship minimal

lucy1003 · Answer

Absolutely fine with it. You need to trust your partner. You can't just get get rid of your partner friends it's not fair

funnybone103 · Answer

Don't care, if you act insecure about something a woman may not even want to do it and you will set her on that course being jealous.

Eihtball · Answer

This doesn't work one of the two usually wants to be more than friends but doesn't have the courage to speak on it

OneFrustratedGuy · Answer

Love = trust. But also limits. I would figure out how trustworthy these two are from first sight. I got tge flair. Never betrayed before.

xKirito · Answer

I would be “ok” with it but I would also feel hurt that I couldn’t be her best friend... I don't know of that makes sense.

Petar_k · Answer

Those kinds if situations can always be double edged swords but if you really believe the person in my opinion there should not be any problems.

Minahh · Answer

I think I would be jealous... because at some point almost always happens that boy or girl wants more than just friendship

Kylesar · Answer

Doesn't bother me if my fiance has a male friend She'd lose her mind if I ever make a female friend though -.-

m162000 · Answer

Well i think that its normal  Since they are bestfriends that means they were always side by side And plus i know that my girl is loyal so she will be always mine

kanetay5 · Answer

My situation is different because he's gay.. Which basically means he is a female. Acts like a female. Sucks dick like a female.. But no if he wasn't gay there'd defently be a problem...

Marinepilot · Answer

I have and I made her cease contact, He had the hots for her and I wasn't very nice in telling him to back off. He later turned out to be a beta faggot Momma's boy.

pawan1996 · Answer

It depends on trust and depends on how a strong bond is between two couples nobody can be a thread if the bond of the couple is strong and also need to ne 100% trust on each other

nate8888 · Answer

Tony a gaskins Jr sounds like a duck in that quote It's totally okay for you partner to have an opposite gender friend. To allow your partner this is to express trust

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