What do you think about your partner having an opposite sex best friend? (Page 5)

Question

While it's great when you're single it's a problem when you're in a relationship, so Does a long term opposite sex friendship pose à threat to your relationship with your significant other? Do you get insecure and jealous and set boundaries between them or you just try to act cool?

maxkid90 · Answer

To answer this i need to know who was friends first,(you or the other person) does this person have a bad history have a bad history of cheating, and does your partner have a bad history of cheating.

earliness · Answer

I have an opposite sex best friend, it doesn't bother my boyfriend at all. Vice versa too, he has a female best friend and it doesn't bother me. If trust is strong, it should never be an issue.

Tomz12345678 · Answer

They can have any gender as their best friend. who are we to judge their friend groups. We are to accept them in every way and all their life choices. We should be able to trust our partners to be around opposite gender.

jakeforfun · Answer

No way. I'm not being involved with a woman who has a male friend that's "closer" to her than I.

SMK7531 · Answer

My girlfriend hates the idea of me even opening the door for another woman. However for me I couldn't care less if she has friends that are male. I trust her 100% and I know she would never cheat on me

flocia · Answer

It's okay for me, as long as my partner is also okay with that

Halfbreed37 · Answer

It don’t bother me... if u have trust then we good... but that can go out the window anytime as well

magic30 · Answer

Although I would try to play it off, but deep down it would bother me.

blondfrog · Answer

I wouldn't know how I would feel since I've never had a girlfriend.

Kreneman · Answer

It all depends on what experience that they have and how they function now.

Delayne06 · Answer

People are unpredictable. On one hand you shouldn't be so insecure. But on the other hand spouses are known to cheat. I guess in the end it just depends in who your with and how you are in your relationship

Ev1lMindedSoul · Answer

I have always trusted my partner, I may not trust her friends but I trust her

Anonymous · Answer

I don't mind neither does my boyfriend. His best friend is one of my best friends and my best friend is one of his best friends.

benpetty27 · Answer

The way I see it, it's fine to have a friend of the opposite gender, but the time to be concerned about it is if they spend excessive time alone with these friends. Talking is fine, but spending too much time alone becomes suspicious.

Anonymous · Answer

I used to... then 2 of my exes were friends with benefits with their "bff" (girl friends) and one had threessomes with her 2 girlfriends - so now it doesn't seem as much of an issue.

HornetsFanAllDay · Answer

just be friends matter of fact all three could do friendly stuff like girlfriend boyfriend and friend videogames or something

Galen01 · Answer

I have no problem with my girlfriend have male friends. Anyone who does has trust issues they need to work on.

SirHac · Answer

I'm territorial with my S. O even with her same gender friends now imagine what would happen if it were a guy I'd probably go feral

Zackariah12 · Answer

I would not marry a woman who would desire to have a male best friend who she hung out with alone often. And I would not have a female best friend

Anonymous · Answer

I think that's a very outdated misconception. True friendship is gender blind. I believe that a relationship is unhealthy if one or both parties are jealous of their partner having a best friend of the opposite gender.

sixeightt · Answer

If she know the friend before me, I have no issues with it. But I have an issue is spending less time with that person

BeardedMenace · Answer

I wouldn't care. I'm just trying to encourage my girlfriend to make more friends since she has social anxiety

nebula0610 · Answer

My Boyfriend and i Both Have opposite sex best friends and it works out well. I mean why would it matter.

TheAmazingAmerican · Answer

I think it depends of how good of friends YOU are with them. And if that person is also in a relationship

Leoxen · Answer

There's nothing wrong about that, my ex girlfriend's best friend was a dude and i was ok with it, i don't have the right to say who can be your friend and who can't.

Kittylover94 · Answer

Well i would not mind. A relationship is built on trust. And if you can't trust your partner around other people, Then you shouldn't be with that person!

Kadzait · Answer

It's totally fine, so long as you are both open about it. If for some reason you don't want to tell your partner about your friend, male or female, odds are something's wrong

JustDoingMyThing · Answer

This is crazy.  There are more to people than just sex. I have friends for friends needs. If there's a girl who can't handle that. Well than she's not mature enough for me.

DogEatsCat1973 · Answer

As long as it is not a get naked and mess up the bed friendship I could care less.

dhronved12 · Answer

I don't mind unless he is too touchy or makes my girl uncomfortable

J4Zzi3 · Answer

don't really mind. if she cheat on me it's her loss.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

As long as she doesn't feel like the one that got away I don't really mind.

kahax · Answer

What is gender after all? Man can becoms bitches and bitches can become man...

broseph_stalin · Answer

I don't think it's possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex

clampfan101 · Answer

It’s perfectly fine with me. Girls are fun to talk to, so I’d love to have a casual girl friend.

indaylight · Answer

I wouldn't mind at all. My partner shouldn't be closed off from half of the population just because he's dating me.

mrkdvsn · Answer

My wife has MANY friends of the opposite sex that she visits/goes places with... and I have no concerns with it.

yaons · Answer

Depends how much friends. Sure everyone needs friends but to close can cause trouble. So just friends okay but beeing a bit jealous is healthy.

DuckBlind · Answer

Depends on the time frame of the friendship. If they grew up togethe its one thing, if its fairly new its another.

Nice222 · Answer

My wife has a male best friend and they talk on the phone all the time. She dated him many years ago. I have no problem with it at all.

Szarik · Answer

I just cannot understand why it is problematic for anyone. All (2) of my real friends (best friends) are girls.

Heyyou_ · Answer

I have a guy best friend. he's always been there for me. Tbh i rather have guy best friends than girl best friends they have less drama

easygoing63 · Answer

Your best friend should be your significant other if u r married or engaged to be.. if u both have trust and trust each other deeply and sincerely then it should be ok to have a friend..

Anonymous · Answer

Make the best of every situation. Trust and respect is huge.

vozke · Answer

Trust, it's all based on trust if both can't trust each other then there's a problem, if not then there's nothing to worry about it, but you should both always talk about it.

aen_143 · Answer

I don't mind it if they had been friends for years, way before he met me. Cuz i have male best friends that i have me wayyyyy before him and we're still buddies and he is now my boyfriend bff too

Anonymous · Answer

It didn't work with many as they confessed developing crushes on me. It became awkward.

Steve_L · Answer

doesn't bother me at all. It comes down to trust. Even if you dont trust their friend, you should trust them. If you can't trust them then you shouldn't be together to begin with

devang1993 · Answer

I believe that we need to be open about our relationships. Any best friend would understand the commitments needed in the relationship and just be open with your s/o

Ivy_Lynn · Answer

I think it's fine but I have been a relationship like that and the girl most always has feelings for the guy even if they are just friends you can't help how you feel

chrisleibo · Answer

All good with me i am not the jealous type... once youve dated the jellous type then you understand how annoying it is to have someone jealous of you having a best friend the opposite sex

someguy687 · Answer

I'm not the type of man to tell her she can have no guy friends, that's stupid.

Iron_Man · Answer

In no way this benefits me. If anything it's a warden clocking me at all times no way

SAM_Cool · Answer

I have not been in such a situation yet so it might be a bit hard for me to help you.

Kevinnnn · Answer

It's okay, when your partner is trustworthy and her friend not a rapist, I think.

saud1998 · Answer

I don't know I mean if there isn’t any feelings or so involved I wouldn’t mind

Taquito_Slim · Answer

I've never had a problem with it. She had a problem with it.

Denny007 · Answer

Nope, I am not good with it. He should confide in me and not another female or than maybe his mother.

iSnortPepper · Answer

I would want to meet and talk to them in a normal and polite way nut you know what they say "A shoulder to ride on becomes a dick to ride on"

jiro666 · Answer

It doesn't matter if they have an opposite sex best friend as long as there a friend and they stick up for them it really doesn't matter

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