My boyfriend wants a DNA test if I ever get pregnant? (Page 2)

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My boyfriend said if we ever have kids he wants a DNA test when the baby is born. I am so hurt every he says this to me because I feel like he doesn't trust me, why else would he want one? Even when he told his friends this they told him he has trust issues and he said doesn't, he said he has told this to every girlfriend he has had and he doesn't want to raise a child that isn't his. We have been together for 3 years and he always talks about buying a house together, and he said he wants 2-3 kids in the future. We are together constantly and I don't go out with friends very often, I don't have many guy friends, so I don't think he thinks I would cheat on him, which of course I wouldn't. I told him I'm not getting a DNA test if we have a baby because he shouldn't be with me if he doesn't trust me, he threatened to break up with me if I don't. Would you be hurt if your partner said they wanted a DNA test if you ever had a baby together? Would you break up with them over It? I feel like breaking up with him because of this, because it feels like he doesn't trust me. All I imagine is me giving birth to a baby, and him not having any emotional attachment or holding or kissing the baby until the DNA test results are finished, this is not how I ever pictured having a baby.

JCT666 · Answer

If you're not getting knocked up from some other guy behind your boyfriend's back, then what's the problem? Got something to hide from him?

The fact is, many more women especially in this era nowadays are getting impregnated from other men and then forcing their original partners to pay for and raise their affair's bastard offspring because of the fucking biased divorce courts. So it's only natural for your boyfriend to make sure his children are 100% his own.

quint123 · Answer

You shouldn’t be with him. And he has trust issues and the fact that je doesn’t accept this is because he is delusional. You don’t want to be having kids with this d*•*khead. And one adivce for you, start hanging out woth your friends more often. Don’t revolve your life around him if you plan to stay with him any longer.

LittleMissSassyyy · Answer

Not cool at all. It’s so fucked. That’s such a dick thing to say. If you did nothing to break his trust then I wouldn’t put up with it

Anonymous · Answer

✅ Makes perfect sense. In a world where women are too independent. Marriage is a big risk. Especially when she becomes a partner in your financial life.
Definitely sign a prenup and an agreement to get your baby tested and that if it’s not the mans child he doesn’t have to pay for it.

Goochbreaker · Answer

So he has trust issues... try to understand that and be nurturing, all you have to do is prove what is certainly true, and if anything he'll feel guilty when he sees that you have been 100% faithful. Get the test

Juxtapose · Answer

Smart man. Nothing to hide then nothing to fear.. right? :]

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's indecent most men are calling him smart and coming up with statistics.
You either know the person and trust them - especially if you've been dating for three years - or you don't.

I guess you'd be having 2, 3 patternity tests if you're down with that.
Personally, I don't think I would accept it. Even just the idea of going through pregnancy basically by myself with him always wondering would already be a no go.

Browneye57 · Answer

Get married first. But not to this whiny guy.  There... problem solved. :)

boggboss · Answer

Well that's the guy you chose if thatsbhis only flaw I would say it's not that bad just that's where he draw a the line if there is a kid I need proof it's mine

J4Zzi3 · Answer

some people don't really trust other that much maybe he got into bad experience before or his friend? why 're you offended just do the test and show him. you got nothing to be afraid of anyway.

don't think negatively ok. i know it seem harsh. but see it in positive way he even think how many child he want to have and planning for house and all. I think he's ok instead of guys who never marry their girlfriend. XD

Nice222 · Answer

Tell him he will you are not willing to get pregnant until he gets over his trust issues.

Anonymous · Answer

This is beyond you. There are so many men who think the kid is theirs, only to later find out that the kid isn't. He is just cautious, and I don't blame him. I honestly think that DNA testing should be a requirement for anyone who is pregnant.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

That is a red flag ! Run !! You should trust the person you marry and honestly this is way worse than a prenup

Walrus_au · Answer

If there is so little trust, just what kind of a relationship is possible? Kick him to the curb and find a decent guy.

BigBadBear · Answer

It does mean he doesn't trust you. But I do understand why he wouldn't trust you, not because you've done anything but that there have been many cases in general of women having men raise children that aren't theirs. This is a serious issue. Either he will have to learn to trust you or you will have to break up with him.

Deathraider · Answer

No. I mean what's wrong with it. Genetic test could actually be benefitial,

raspberry0416 · Answer

He has a very low opinion of women and thinks that he has the right to do whatever is necessary to protect his own interests.
I wouldn't stay with him if I were you. He doesn't sound like a good boyfriend.

aboringuy · Answer

When womens plays detective on their husband to know if they fcked around its okay, but not on his part? These women...

EmmaMary · Answer

I'm afraid the relationship wouldn't have lasted three seconds let alone three years, if I had found myself in this situation. He would have been shown the door long before now.

Anonymous · Answer

Your boyfriend and his paranoia are the REAL issue. He spends too much time listening to self appointed 'manists'

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry, that was rude of him to ask, i would feel bad to ask as well, but in 2018, we do not trust these hoes period. in 2018 i am not devoting my wealth to a kid that my girlfriend got knocked up from while cheating. your man is not a sucker.

HereIbe · Answer

Ditch that bitch. It's that simple. He's an abuser, and if you stay with him, it will get worse. He'll take it out on any kids you have, too.

lala_ray · Answer

What is the big issue!! He may have trust problems... Just get the test results and throw it on his face!

Anonymous · Answer

TBH, this should be one of those things that is mandatory at birth, for each and every birth, by law, and have the parents sign it.

chc0009 · Answer

How did this guy impress you to become your boyfriend?

Philyouup · Answer

Tell him to Fuck off, ram his DNA test up his bollix. And find a man with more respect..

melanieeeB · Answer

I would break up, but more cause of him threatening to break up. How much does he love you , when he can`t trust you and can threaten you so easily.

Katerina_Belle · Answer

I would present him with the following proposition then: If the DNA test is positive and the baby is yours then it's over between me and you

studDMuffF1n · Answer

In the case of 6 month old Tayshawntrell, you are not the father! 😂

Account · Answer

Don't get me wrong, he has every right to ask for that. However, you have every right to dump him after you rub the results against his face. Just saying...

katiesmuff · Answer

Are you just trying to humor us with this mytake or are you actually this stupid?  Three years you say, by now you should be to the point of hardly even remembering his name let alone still bf!

Dinnye001 · Answer

Yep. He has some issues.

I wouldn't raise a kid that is not mine either but there are reasonable levels of trust that is needed. I. e. if I needed a DNA test I wouldn't have a kid with the girl to begin with.

Anonymous · Answer

tell him that if the DNA tests turned out to be a positive that it's his kid, he's paying for the DNA tests and as well as anything you want and need to support your child

honey202 · Answer

he doesn't trust you but as the same time you have nothing to hide so... why not

MaisGem21 · Answer

Why are you with him then? If one or both partners don't trust the other then the relationship is doomed.

Greaver · Answer

He’s a dick I would never ask my girlfriend to do that relationships only work if there is trust and he doesn’t trust you I would break up with myself If i ever said that

findingdreamland-1 · Answer

I sincerely think he has mental issues and tries to play with your mind. Do not let this happen. Run away.

KiaTate · Answer

I would be really upset if I'm dating someone for 3 years I'm not stepping out on you. I would probably break up with my boyfriend after the baby is born.

Anonymous · Answer

its obvious he was burnt by women in th past. and why you plan to have kids with this misogynist?

Anonymous · Answer

because you never know. the only way I'm taking care of anyone else kid is if i adopt them. he's smart and not taking his chances

hasrett · Answer

This would be extremely hurtful to me, having a partner that doesn't trust you is worse than having no partner at all.

red324 · Answer

Trust but verify😁 As I always say, but all this will do is make a girlfriend cheat. If a guy is expecting a girl to cheat and the girl is aware of this then she's going to eventually.

Anonymous · Answer

😭😭😭 i would too now in days, hoes will be hoes! ahaha

rskinney · Answer

He's very domineering and untrusting. Are you prepared to live like that?

Hidden_P · Answer

Has he been cheated on before or something? Seems a bit OTT reaction to me (from him)

yeahyeah26 · Answer

Well if your not worried about it do the dang test...

MlleCake · Answer

He sounds neurotic. I'm not sure I would forgive a guy for that.

Anonymous · Answer

I would too I’m not providing for someone else’s children

Dio1982 · Answer

That's very smart by him.

Mc101 · Answer

Run 😂😂😂😂😂😂 really this is a bad start. Dump his ass

alaskanways · Answer

Must be a trust issue of getting cheated on in the past, not that he don't trust you it just makes him insecure and he might gain trust after. it'll get better, you gotta get rid of these kinda apps to if trust is gonna build

TheSpartan · Answer

Of course he would, why wouldn’t he? What’s the problem?

AntoAntony · Answer

Your not go with any test.. if he not trust me live it it's the better decision because if you trust that you give all to share with him then why he dought to you.. if not depending on about bon with any because it's love and trust only for your

kanetay5 · Answer

Damn. Leave his ass boo. Find you somebody that wants to believe and trust you. He sounds like a pee on if you ask me..

jessture · Answer

Have you ever snooped through the texts on his phone or read his messages on social media?

COCOCHANEL · Answer

i would feel the same way if i were a man

NerdInDenial · Answer

Rule number one: trust but verify

Anonymous · Answer

Lots of future cucks in the comments section...

fauchelevent · Answer

I'd be hurt but I also wouldn't deny a DNA test.

Peopleschamp · Answer

Better safe than sorry

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