Ladies, have you ever changed your mind about a guy you rejected?

[misterbill71]

Say a guy asks you out but for whatever reason(s) you just aren't attracted to him. Have you ever found yourself one day seeing him in a new light? If so, what changed and did you end up going out with him?

[nickel]

There was one guy that became my best friend in a short amount of time always making me laugh,but he really wanted to date me. I kept saying no because he was such a good friend and I said I wasn't attracted to him. And honestly I was attracted, but all my friends thought he was stupid and pathetic (for openly telling everyone he wanted to date me and only me) and he wasn't cute but what I saw in him was so much love and he could make me laugh and to me he was adorable. Point is, so I lied to myself and antagonized over dating him and so on and so forth until about half a year later when he told me that he was going to start talking to another girl and I got mad. I told him he couldn't do that because he is my Name and I don't want to share him. He told me that I didn't have any claim on him, its not like we were dating. So suddenly I was begging him to date me and begging him to not talk to her. Then he did date me and we fell in love and had this drama filled high school romance and then broke up.

So point is. Yes, I have changed my mind once I pulled my head out of my friend's asses and decided that I didn't care what they thought of him, he made me happy AS WELL AS him not being so there for me all the time. Him pulling away allowed me to see how much I would miss if he was gone and the threat of him leaving was too much.

Also, yes I recognize this makes me sound like a bitch (I don't want him until someone else does) and it makes me sound stupid (I didn't like him because my friends told me not to) But it was high school and I was a stupid bitch so it is okay.

[misterbill71]

You don't sound like a bitch to me. :)

I find it interesting that you would tell a guy you weren't interested in him romanticly when you really were... I wonder how many other women have done this?

[nickel]

Well when I first started turning him down I wasn't interested, but as we became closer, and he started taking care of himself more I did start being attracted to him, but he was my friend and everyone else didn't like him... so. yeah, I'm guessing a lot of girls won't admit it when they change their mind about being attracted to a dude because they are afraid that after the rejection they gave they would be rejected in turn.

[hesaysim2sexy]

yes. back in high school, Ryan looked so goofy BACK THEN. But when I saw him again in college, damn I almost didn't recognize him. he became hot. we went out for a bit but it didn't really work.

[misterbill71]

So all that changed was his appearance, or was there more?

[hesaysim2sexy]

His confidence was there which he didn't have back then. he became unavailable all the time. lol. yea but I miss his cuteness back then..

[genevieve]

This one guy asked me out for homecoming in my freshman year in college. I've never seen him before and he came out of nothing. I was so surprised that I said know. I had only been there for a few weeks and hadn't tought of dating yet. I was kinda cute tho, he seemed really nervous but like a nice guy.I really regret not going out wth him tho I never told him. I probably should someday

I saw him around more often since then, and he seems kinda quiet but nice. I think he's majoring in sth engineering, because every time I see him he's coming out of the engineering building. I never talked to him again, and I do have a boyfriend now

[Shiner4]

I just graduated from high school and there was this guy who asked me out so many times our FFA advisor kept tally marks on her board. I turned him down because I felt he was too emotional and just wanted to have sex with me. We were good friends and had a lot of fun together until he ended up ditching all of his friends and dating girls who are considered "Easy". I feel that my original reasons for saying no were proven right but I also feel that he would have probably be the best guy for me in highschool. It's hard to explain. I haven't talked to him since graduation.

[xoxogirl252]

Yesssssssss.

I moved here a year and a half ago, in my second week this sweet boy came up to me, told me that he liked me and thought I was sweet and pretty, and asked me out. He seemed really sweet but I didn't really know him so I told him that its just that I barely know you and I just moved here and everything but id like to get to know you and maybe just be friends. Today he's my best friendand we tell each other everything and do stuff together, and I kinda regret saying no. Cause now that I know him I do kinda like him and think he's sweet:) but I feel like its sorta too late

[eidahl]

:(

[misterbill71]

It doesn't have to be too late. if he's sweet, he probably respects your boundaries, so if you want something more than friendship you are going to have to make a move. I'll bet he'll be receptive. :)

[Apocalypticality]

Just make sure you're CONceptive! Hah!

See what I did there? :o

[dearygal]

It's not too late. Unless he's gay, chances are he's secretly hoping you'll eventually be into him. GO FOR IT!!!

And to Apocalypticality: you made me giggle. thanks!

[toulouse]

Well I often don't go out with guys and its not necessarily I am not attracted to them. I don't know what your situation s but sometimes people just don't want a relationship , which is good for you in the sense they could change their mind when things are more conducive to a relationship. i.e.

-It literally is them -not you.

[misterbill71]

Hmmm my situation... I don't think my situation is going to change. I work with her every day, so making myself less available, and or changing dramaticly over a long separation just isn't going to happen. I'm pretty much stuck in the friend zone forever with this one... but I am curious IF things can change, or if it is a myth.

[Anonymous]

Yes, when I reject a guy but then other girls find him attractive, like I see him going out with a hot girl. Now I'm all jealous because he's supposed to love only me... and what does that hot chick see in him anyway?... you know he IS kind of cool, I think I'll go flirt with him and make him like me again... oh now he's asking me out again and I just remembered how uncool he is.

I know this is cruel but I'm being honest and this is how my psyche works.

[Blairesmom]

Yes, really I think I was just lonely but also I would talk to him a lot and actually found out we have a lot of thing in common and like all the same things and a year later I had my first child with him

[misterbill71]

So he kind of wore you down then? ;)

[Blairesmom]

Haha whatever that means lol

[aly-marie]

My best (guy) friend asked me out, but I said no because I didn't see him that way and I didn't want to lose him as a friend.

I changed my mind a few months later when he kissed me and it felt perfect :p

[misterbill71]

Did anything change in those few months where you were OK with him trying to kiss you?

[aly-marie]

I kinda just became more comfortable with the fact that he liked me, because I had never considered it before (we had been friends like 2 years at that point). He had taken to telling me he loved me even before he kissed me, and I knew he did just by how amazing of a friend he was to me. He wasn't even upset with me when I told him no, and that made an impact on me cause usually guys will be jerks after that when you hurt their ego, but he was never like that :)

[misterbill71]

Hmmm that is interesting. when this girl told me she was just interested in me as a friend, I was totally cool with it and then she hugged me and said "I love you!"... weird... :)

[inLoveButScared]

It can happen. There was a guy I rejected because I thought we'd never work, wasn't my type etc. He continued to talk to me and we became friends. After a while I realized that even though he wasn't what I thought I wanted, he ended up being what I wanted. I guess getting to know him helped.

[Juliana777]

yes, it happened to me, the reason I changed my mind it was because he became a christian, and no, I didn't go out with him anyways.

[misterbill71]

Any reason you didn't go out with him after he converted?

[italyfvr]

honestly yesss , and the thing that changed my mind is that he asked me out , but then it looked like he moved on too fast , almost like he didn't care which made me like him for some reason heh

[Anonymous]

usually not. the only reason why I would change my mind is if I was really lonely and wanted any guy

[misterbill71]

Hmmm harsh, but honest heh... I like it. :)

[enlightenment]

yes...totally and still kinda do, but I think it was for the best

[flower1000]

yes :) and he was 1 of the nicest men I ever met love grows

[I_Miss_Him]

I said no because I was scared that I'd lose him. Ever since then I have hoped he would ask me out again. Yes I know this sounds complicated.

[CindiluvsFriends]

Yeah,and still regret it:(

[misterbill71]

you regret changing your mind?