Am I wrong to feel violated from being tickled?

[Anonymous]

Last night my boyfriend and I were on the couch and we were being silly and making a few jokes.
To make a long story short he got my feet in an armlock and started tickling my feet. He is a big guy that works out a lot so I wasn't strong enough to get away.

I hate being tickled. If its a quick tickle or a tickle fight I can kind of see the fun but this was literally 10min nonstop of having my feet tickled.

This sounds strange but I feel quiet violated now. Like im almost scared of him. I was on the edge of tears after he did it. Is it stupid that I feel like this or should i talk to him about it?

[dannyuk]

This is odd very odd

While I can understand some discomfort one would assume it was more of a humour thing.

That said ticking someone's get for ten minutes, would be hard work for any guy. Are you sure it wasn't one minute that felt like ten minutes because of the discomfort.

Assuming fur s minute he was super human fit and managed to hold a struggling person for ten minutes.

Most guys would be bored to fuck tickling feet in about 30 seconds. To actually do it not stop for 2 minutes would be hard work.

This sounds more like a jokey wrestling match where you would try your best to get out and he'd play around trying to hold you with a few occasional feet tickles included.

Then you do have weirdos that really get off in that kind of thing. Both weirdos into being tied up and tickled and weirdos like like to tie up and tickle and weirdos that have obsessive compulsive issues with feet.

Think you need to analyse what actually happened in the situation then talk to him about it. May be as simple as his X really got off on it and it just become a normal bit of forplay to him.

[BrianMerritt]

Tickling has been used for actual torture. There's a reason people call it "tickle torture," and include it into sex games, because there is a thrilling combination of pleasure-agony for the person being tickled, and there is a certain amount of dominance a person asserts when they pin someone down and tickle them.
It makes sense for you to feel intimidated by the amount of dominance he had over your body.
There is a such thing as a healthy amount of intimidation a woman can feel around a dominant guy.
But, if you really felt UNCOMFORTABLE with the amount of dominance he had over your body, just tell him he was being too rough and you don't like that.

[EleniC]

You should let him know how you feel. I am a tickle enthusiast myself, but I agree that it is not okay to tickle someone who doesn't enjoy it. You should let him know exactly what your limits are and that you really don't enjoy being tickled for longer periods of time.

[Anonymous]

I think you are overreacting and making a big deal out of nothing. It ' s only tickling. Growing up I used to be tickled all the time and I still occasionally am. Unless I ' m not in the mood I just laugh and go along with it, having fun.

[Quasar59]

It's not stupid, restricting your movement for that long and ticking you (which is uncomfortable, that's why you react the way you do) isn't fun no matter how much you may trust him. If you hate being tickled, and for THAT long, I understand entirely why you'd feel that way. Talk to him about it.

[innkeeper]

You have to talk to him! He probably got carried away and didn't know you didn't like it. Be honest and be calm.

[ticklelover2045]

Absolutely NOT you should not be tickled if you dont like it and people need to get that

[_dardorsama_]

What... for 10 whole minutes

That's really uncomfortable and almost like torture too... I don't blame you if you feel violated

[JihadJoe]

What the hell is wrong with you? Do him a favor and break up with him if you're going to feel violated every time he touches you. What a bitch.

[damoM]

Talk to him, boundaries are important in a relationship. If he disrespects them, break up with him

[SlimShaneu]

Tell him that you're not okay with it. He'll understand if he loves you

[ramusen]

I guess you should talk to him , he didn't think he violated u, maybe he was friendly and thought u liked it

[Blast_Hardcheese]

"Hey, I really didn't like that." Is a pretty good thing to say.

[BeHappy1985]

You should talk to a psychiatrist #snowflakeallert

[Iamasexygirl]

You should defiantly talk...