Well at some point it stops being about competing against other potential suters, and starts being about maintaining comfortability. Which isn't to say that there is no place for romance late relationship, it's just that the amount of energy that is required to be that romantic needs to be applied to other places in life, so your relationship doesn't destroy everything else in your lives.
I'm really romantic and flirty, but I feel like things level put over time, and so does that love. It evens out, but it doesn't disappear. I've felt the same way about girls that I've dated too. The relationship just feels like a good friendship instead of a relationship.
Both sexes present their best, most appealing qualities at the start of the relationship when they are trying to build something from nothing. Then they settle back into being themselves, what ever that may mean.
The concept of romance to me is a medieval invention and has been a 'trend' that was continued into the present. It is more like theatre-play than a reality. One cannot act nonstop. Each movie has an end. So has romantic strategy.
Maybe they get bored of it or they're tired of putting so much effort into trying to impress or making the girl like them, because she already does? I hope I explained it well 🙈
men are really romantic at first. There are stages of dating. Men tend to be romantic at first to get the girls attention. Men enters a phase of infatuation. Men mostly are attracted to physical features. As time goes and as for dating, men will slowly get to know the girl. Then men will enter a state of thinking whether he will really pursue the girl. When they decided to continue, then that man has really fallen in love and will be consistent.
It's simple. When you want to get something you have to do something to get it. But when you feel it is yours, you make no effort to keep it because you feel it's your right for what you did. I'm not like that but I know it because that's whaty ex did..
Basically think of those birds you learned about in highschool. They talked about courting rituals where the male birds have pretty feathers and dance for the female. Once the female excepts him, he stops trying so hard. Like that men try so hard to catch your eye, and make you theirs. Once your there men back off.
They do it to impress the girl. Once they get the girl, they don't feel like they have to do it anymore. They shouldn't change throughout the relationship bc then the girl falls in love with someone who she thought he'd be when he really isn't.
Because they want to impress us. They want to be the most caring, romantic , perfect boyfriend in your eyes.
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It takes much more effort on our side to make women feel “special” in the beginning. She just has to dress up, show up and smile. We on the other hand have to make the first move, plan the date, hold the conversation, pay for everything, make the move physically, etc. We risk rejection every step of the way. Most of us don’t enjoy that but we HAVE to do it.
That’s why when we get in a relationship we start going lax. We don’t really enjoy the early stages.
Please don't assume that just because some men, or the men you're familiar with slowly stop being romantic, that all men are the same. Because all men, just as all women are entirely different.
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Because of the chase
He was chasing you to get you now he got you so it's done
Probably also because the honeymoon phase is over
Well at some point it stops being about competing against other potential suters, and starts being about maintaining comfortability. Which isn't to say that there is no place for romance late relationship, it's just that the amount of energy that is required to be that romantic needs to be applied to other places in life, so your relationship doesn't destroy everything else in your lives.
I'm really romantic and flirty, but I feel like things level put over time, and so does that love. It evens out, but it doesn't disappear. I've felt the same way about girls that I've dated too. The relationship just feels like a good friendship instead of a relationship.
Both sexes present their best, most appealing qualities at the start of the relationship when they are trying to build something from nothing.
Then they settle back into being themselves, what ever that may mean.
The concept of romance to me is a medieval invention and has been a 'trend' that was continued into the present. It is more like theatre-play than a reality. One cannot act nonstop. Each movie has an end. So has romantic strategy.
nothing to do with gender. women men- energy changes. not everyone is romantic to begin with. some become romantic some become less some never are.
Maybe they get bored of it or they're tired of putting so much effort into trying to impress or making the girl like them, because she already does? I hope I explained it well 🙈
men are really romantic at first.
There are stages of dating.
Men tend to be romantic at first to get the girls attention. Men enters a phase of infatuation. Men mostly are attracted to physical features. As time goes and as for dating, men will slowly get to know the girl. Then men will enter a state of thinking whether he will really pursue the girl. When they decided to continue, then that man has really fallen in love and will be consistent.
It's simple. When you want to get something you have to do something to get it. But when you feel it is yours, you make no effort to keep it because you feel it's your right for what you did.
I'm not like that but I know it because that's whaty ex did..
So, is not just men who change, Frau..
Basically think of those birds you learned about in highschool. They talked about courting rituals where the male birds have pretty feathers and dance for the female. Once the female excepts him, he stops trying so hard. Like that men try so hard to catch your eye, and make you theirs. Once your there men back off.
They don’t change they just get more comfortable with you and see you as a bestfriend too and not just a girlfriend
i suppose one good thing about women is that you know they're shallow and money hungry from the get go so there's no real surprise later on.
It can be that the female aren't romantic back but think she is or just one sided mind set, usually do that kill the whole romance.
They do it to impress the girl. Once they get the girl, they don't feel like they have to do it anymore. They shouldn't change throughout the relationship bc then the girl falls in love with someone who she thought he'd be when he really isn't.
Because that's when passion is at its highest because things are new. That's what we want the most-- passion. Not dedication.
Because they want to impress us. They want to be the most caring, romantic , perfect boyfriend in your eyes.
It takes much more effort on our side to make women feel “special” in the beginning. She just has to dress up, show up and smile. We on the other hand have to make the first move, plan the date, hold the conversation, pay for everything, make the move physically, etc. We risk rejection every step of the way. Most of us don’t enjoy that but we HAVE to do it.
That’s why when we get in a relationship we start going lax. We don’t really enjoy the early stages.
They change once they get laid... most of them at least...
That's true, most not all
Good thing I'm not most.
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Please don't assume that just because some men, or the men you're familiar with slowly stop being romantic, that all men are the same. Because all men, just as all women are entirely different.
Because everything in the beginning is all rosey, perfect and problems free then all of that dissipates