Would you rather have an opinionated partner (has well established opinions) OR a partner who's opinions are malleable (can be influenced or changed)? (Page 3)

[Ayer93]

I voted A because I do want a partner that has a firm grasp of their views (should know the difference between right and wrong and most views should be relatively similar to my own), however their views and opinions should be able to adapt given enough evidence.

"Have firm opinions held loosely."

"Opinions are like assholes in that everyone has one. I encourage you to thoroughly examine yours."

[hazfire]

Depends on their said opinions. If it's ignorant I don't want the Backfire Effect everything I mention something opposing. And when I say ignorant I mean things like "climate always changes" or " the earth is 10,000 years old". But if they are scientifically factual opinions, then they can be grounded on them if they want.

[ssds266]

There are some people who change their minds whenever someone who has influence over them tells to change their minds. They may have low self esteem and fear of failure. Then there are some people who don't listen to anyone. They have rigid and unhealthy pattern of thinking. Both of them are dangerous. The person should be opionated and partially malleable.

[may04]

this sums it up perfectly.

[Kaneki05]

A bit of both cause people who can adapt are the best and adapt there opinions, but it is also good to have strong opinons, but i guess it could be relaxing been with someone who don't really have opinions, but that could be boring.

[Tomblebee]

I asked my boyfriend his opinion on the moon landing... # no opinion... ffs :(

[bklynbadboy1]

I want my partner to be opinionated because in life it's not just black and white I'd love to have a partner who I can bounce my ideas off of and get intelligent opinions and it's always good to get another perspective on things I don't know everything and I'm not always right so sometimes it's good to look at things to Fresh eyes

[Astraea]

I want a man who will place truth above all else. That sometimes means letting go of previous ideas when faced with more information. A man who can do that gains my utmost respect.

[jaidee]

"When the facts change, I change my mind"
I hope she's as smart and reasonable as I hope I am.
If I find evidence that warrants revising my opinions, then I revise my opinion and that's what everybody should do.

[Eva323]

They’re both bad. I want a person who’ll consider other sides and change when they find something better, but hold fast to their beliefs if they think they’re right, even under pressure. There’s a word for this. It’s called integrity.

[keiran133]

It depends on the topic, if its something such as abortion where we disagree, then id hope I could change their opinion, but if its something such as murder is bad, I don't want their opinion to be malleable in that situation.

[ThatPersonOverThere]

If your mind cannot be changed by reasonable argument, then you're an unreasonable person.

It takes strength of character to do your own research and genuinely listen to opposing views. Any halfwit can be stubborn.

[reixun]

i want someone who's opinions can be changed by proof and facts. the worst thing is someone who has strong opinions that no amount of discussion can change even a smidge

[TrueAGL27]

God bless lol. I agree completely

[Welshman2]

If someone is not open to changing their views based on evidence then they are bigoted or stupid or both.

There's nothing wrong with having fixed principles but opinions and views are a different matter.

[querstions]

An open mind is almost always superior to a closed one, and demonstrates confidence enough to question and adapt one's beliefs. A person who is defensive and cannot consider another point of view without feeling threatened is weak. But if one puts their honest, well supported beliefs aside to go with the flow, that is also weakness, of the more obvious kind.

[MrOracle]

I'd rather have a partner who knows how to use facts and reason to make decisions (and to adjust when necessary) than one who is locked in a dogma or who can't make decisions at all.

[21feminist]

I would want a woman who's strongly opinionated but I'd want her opinions to be fact based and logical. I don't want to spend my days losing arguments to an idiot.

[Tomblebee]

Cos that sucks. When Yo ucan't argue but yo uknow your right..

[21feminist]

Yeah logically speaking it's impossible to win an argument with an idiot.

[Tomblebee]

True that

[JimRSmith]

Somebody with their own opinions, but who is open to persuasion.

[SkyeMind]

Unfortunately, I find many people misunderstanding this very thing. Coercion vs. persuasion; one leads to undermining a person every time, the other leads to growth.

[JimRSmith]

@SkyeMind Yes, well put.

[fauchelevent]

Opinionated. It's good to be open to new ideas but someone who was constantly changing their opinion on topics would lead me to doubt their sincerity and ability to think for themselves.

[LeaMay]

If their opinions can be swayed, it means they take your own into consideration, which is what I think to be a sort of open-mindedness everyone could benefit from.

[krishanu007]

I think if u really love your partner you should always expect from him/her to have establish his/her opinion, becoz I think you all should get a chance to express strong and firm opinion , and the opinion is changing quite frequently it's a very dangerous personality disorder

[SaltyBooze]

there can be no personal growth without malleability. there can be no strenght of character without stable opnions. an awesome person can have both at the same time.