"Monogamy" a desperate choice or a wise commitment?

[Alan180188]

I can say I had my fair share of relationships, I experienced love, monogamous relationships and even polyamorous ones, and in all conditions my main rule was honesty !

"Honesty" the simplest and most valuable thing in any relationship, yet it seems harder than physics to understand for most humans nowadays...

what brought this question to my mind were the comments i were hearing around, like: I couldn't find better than him (or her), it's not like I'm gonna be young for ever, it's time for me to settle... etc
which sounds like a desperate decision to me !
in my opinion the answers should've been like: he's or she's the one for me, we make a great team.. etc now that's a wise choice !

my question isn't an honest polyamorous relationship better than a monogamous one based on lies?

[J4Zzi3]

... kinda hard to say?
coz it depends on the people itself.
i have a friend who's really possessive up to the point that he won't even let his SO wear normal swim wear when swimming in public coz he get jealous if other stare at her.
So I would say monogamous suit him coz he is possessive?

Problem is I couldn't agree with non-monogamous as well. if you really like someone up to the point she is everything to you. how the hell you want to share her with anyone? Although you probably alright at the beginning but in long term won't you get jealous?

And i couldn't agree with monogamous as well. humans are greedy by nature? ok you can be satisfied with your SO right now. how about 20 years later? 40 years? 60 years? What I mean some people probably able to do that all his life. while some can't. that's their nature.

[Alan180188]

kinda agree with the basics, yet the choices you make in life defines your life, so if both parts are physically attracted, sexually open and maturely behave to each other, then monogamy would be the wise sufficient choice for both of them, since they won't find someone who they get along so well and satisfies them to the limits more than the one they have chosen, believe me at that point you won't be jealous, you'll be "maturely" protective as a teammate in a team, otherwise an honest polyamorous relationship would be more reasonable !
my point is people should put more effort in improving relationships rather than lying...

[J4Zzi3]

"people should put more effort in improving relationships" tell that to my so. she get jealous a lot, possessive, which make me think she probably really like me a lot.
but she's not growing at all in relationship and character. all i could say is that some people character can't change.

[Alan180188]

you mean not "mature" enough, god help you man...

[J4Zzi3]

LMAO

[madhatters4]

my question isn't an honest polyamorous relationship better than a monogamous one based on lies?
of course
a relationship built on honesty is better than lies.

but it doesn't mean polyamory is better than monogamy as a whole

[Alan180188]

perfect answer ! that's my point too !

[witherwing]

There's nothing wrong with polygamy, if all the people involved want that. I just wouldn't personally want that in under any circumstances. For a person who doesn't want to be in a polyamorous relationship, it's not any better than a monogamous relationship based on lies. Both are relationships they don't want to be in. People who want polygamy seek that and people who want monogamy seek that instead. It's none of anyone else's business what other people do with their love lives, but polygamy and monogamy can't be compared in that manner, because most people wouldn't want to trade one for the other. It's a lifestyle choice.

[Alan180188]

that's my opinion too, Honesty is more important than the relationship type !

[Angelina25]

I feel like I can only see myself in a monogamous relationship. I'm the jealous lover. Lol
But really jokes aside, I feel like mostly people can't see themselves in a polyamorous relationship. It's a wise decision according to me and will always be. But again, If you think polyamory is the answer to your question go ahead. I just won't be involved.
Whatever suits you.

[Alan180188]

not really, my point of the whole question is to make clear that honesty is more important than the relationship type !

[Angelina25]

I'll agree. Honestly is way more important

[Shimy]

Depends. It is true that not everyone is made for monogamy, but it's also true that not everyone is made for polygamy
I know that I wouldn't be happy in a polygamous relationship, so I'd rather be single than be in an honest polyamorous relationship or a monogamous one based on lies.

[Anonymous]

I think in a lot of monogamous relationships the people do think their partner is the one for them. And i think that relationship is much more meaningful than a polyamorous one.

[Alan180188]

if based on honesty !

[Kelly6]

It all depends what everyone want.
Like in my family everyone wanted to live as polygamy family, so we are happy

[Alan180188]

would your family accept to adopt me :D

[Anonymous]

I want 7 husbands lol like a 7kocalı Hürmüz

[Alan180188]

oha, hadi canim :D

[Opinion Owner]

Türkçe biliyor muydun?

[Alan180188]

evet, bir sana gibi istanbulda kaldim...

[Opinion Owner]

Sana? Sana değil sene olacak sana is you sene is year that's good

[Alan180188]

hhhhh good point, well my turkish isn't that great, although i gotta say it was very easy to learn since 50% of it is arabic :D

[Opinion Owner]

I know turkish isn't language just stolen other languages ıhm arabic, kurdish, farsi, chechen, albanian, cherkes, armenian etc etc turkish isn't pure races or languages :)

[Alan180188]

exactly :D :D
among all other things they stole too, land, music, culture... etc
by the way tu kurdi?

[Opinion Owner]

Eri em kirmancim ji bo?

[Alan180188]

The way you spoke about turkey made me curious that’s all 😂

[Opinion Owner]

I told i m kırmanjj are you kurd or not?

[Alan180188]

bale, eji kurdim, ez xelke kurdistane me, ji zaxo...

[Opinion Owner]

Zaxo?

[Alan180188]

guney kurdistan, zaho

[Opinion Owner]

Güneyde araplar yaşamıyor mu

[Alan180188]

kuzey iraq hayatm, nerden bahs ediyorsun?

[Opinion Owner]

Yanlış yazdın o yüzden merak ettim

[Alan180188]

Yok, iśte guney kurdistan kuzey iraqtandadir hayatm 😂
4uncu parçeye bahs ediyorum..

[Opinion Owner]

Bize göre kuzeydesiniz ondan :) şey ettim türkçen bayağı iyi. Gerçi Kürtler genelde türkçe bilir ama söz söze gelse kardeş derler türkler ama Kürtçe gibi mükemmel dile bok atarlar.

[Alan180188]

Hhhhh peki senin kürtçen nasildir?

[Opinion Owner]

Ben söylenenleri anlıyorum ama gramer ve yazılışları bilmiyorum. Biliyorsun türkiyede yasak olduğu için Kürkçe unutuldu. Kim Kürtçe konuşsaydı asit kutularında diyarbakırda yakıldı zilan deresinde Kürtçe konuştuğu için türkler Kürtleri yaktı. Kısacası gizli gizli Kürtçe şarkılar dinlenerek az çok Kürtçeye hakimler. Şuan ki Kürtçe bozulmuş türkçe gibi maalesef

[Alan180188]

dugru, ben suryedan yasadim o yuzden derdine anliyorum...
neyse cok memnun oldum, bu benim instagramimdir: alan180188, seninle arkadash olmak sevinirim...

[Opinion Owner]

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