My girlfriend complains about her small boobs a lot. How should I respond to her?

[Anonymous]

Tell the truth: "Yes, you have small boobs, but you so many other great qualities that more than compensate for your small boobs."

Lie: "Yes, you have small boobs, but I don't care about that!"

Lie: "Your boobs aren't small! They are a good size and perfect!"

See results.

[Kaazsz]

Get turned on by them and she will stop complaining. Unless they turn you off, then find a new girlfriend.

Words don’t mean shit. She wants to know if you get raging boners for her and her small tits, or if you’re secretly wishing you could have a big tit girlfriend cuz she thinks you don’t like them cuz you never pay attention to them. Actions speak louder than words. Chicks need this shit. They need you to love their body parts or they think you’ll leave them for someone with better ones. They are just as bad as guys and their penis problem lol.

[Marethyu]

Neither. Boob size is nothing that needs compensation, so they are perfect, the way they are.
It's up to preferences.. There are just as many into small, as into big boobs.. There is no reason in being insecure about something where opinions are equally divided.
On top of that, small boobs have more advantages than big boobs.. If anyone can complain about anything, then it's big chested girls about back pain.
Everything else would be unreasonable.

[Kproses]

Both have the complete right to complain about their chest size both are completely valid and reasonable and it’s not right to make others feel as if it isn’t. Just because one is worse doesn’t make the other any better people with small boobs are called children or told they look like a man or masculine, read so many stories about how badly guys are treating their girlfriends because of their chest size.

[kaskas19]

Uh, other qualities shouldn't "compensate" for small boobs. Definitley do NOT say that. If you loved her, she shouldn't have to "compensate" for anything.

Don't lie and say her boobs aren't small if they are.

You could just say "Yes, you have small boobs and I really love them." Something like that.

[Anonymous]

So you do care that she has small boobs? Maybe that's why she complains about them.

[Asker]

I don't tell her that though.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe she can tell. Something tells me your relationship with her isn't going to work out. I have C cup boobs and my boyfriend and I once watched this movie where the wife starts to feel insecure about her boobs lol So she fakes that she got breast implants lmao My boyfriend was like "Aww, I would never want you to feel that way, that just sucks, I want to let you know that I love your boobs just the way they are" so I was like oh okay, cool, thanks? lol I have a small butt and my boyfriend at times has said" your cute little butt" but it doesn't offend me because it's true lol But he still is attractive to me but I know there is always going to be a girl more attractive than me and that's okay. Someone will always be better, in looks, singing, athletics.. etc. But if you love her then she needs to know that it's more than that to you.

[Opinion Owner]

BUt since you do care about her boob size then why are you with her? Just wondering.

[Asker]

Because boob size isn't everything. It matters, but there is more than that.

[Opinion Owner]

When you say it matters it comes off as you mean that it really matters to you therefore you would want her to either get a boob job or you will find someone else who has bigger boobs. That's just what I think when someone say's it matters. I would say that you like big boobs but it doesn't matter to you that she doesn't have big boobs because there is more than that?

[Menelin]

So what would be your solution? With grammar this time.

[Opinion Owner]

@Menelin why do you care?

[Menelin]

I don't care if someone else's girlfriend has small boobs or not.

[Opinion Owner]

@Menelin If you can't understand what I typed then you have bigger problems.

[Menelin]

Just playing around.
It doesn't matter why I care about your solution. What matters is that I do care.

[coachTanthony]

So you do care about her having small boobs? Because your second answer is LIE.. yes you have small boobs but don't care about that. Which is it Sir. We know she has small boobs.. does that bother you?

[markscott]

Is she complaining because of her self image, or because she thinks they aren't acceptable in some way? If it's self image, then you can help, by letting her know how much you appreciate her for who she is inside, and how much you appreciate her looks, all of her. If you are intimately involved, you can pay some special attention to her boobs, and let her know how much you like her boobs. Not just by saying so, but by licking, sucking, playing with them, and obviously enjoying them. You can't fix all her self image issue, but you can let her know, verbally and non-verbally, how much you like her, and her body, including her boobs. But only do it is sincere ways. She will recognize it, if you are being phony.

[Hannah313]

The truth is so sweet. She's so caught up in if you are attracted to her physically, and you're telling her that she doesn't have to compare herself to other women because there are so many little things you love about her. Tell her that. Tell her the tiny little cute things you notice. So when she asks you, tell her: "Yes, you do have small boobs. but I love you. I love how you do ____ and when you do this ____, etc..." Tell her that you like the way her hair looks when her hair is messy or how she changes her voice around babies or animals. Remind her that she's a catch regardless.

[alexandra_]

Honestly don’t do that. I have small boobs and I would never want to hear that. Sounds like a handicap. “Yeah you have half a hand but I like your hair” ? I was not talking about my hair, I love my hair too wtf

[Hannah313]

@alexandra_ I think women believe men look at women as pieces. Maybe he should say "Yes you have small boobs, but so what? You're stunning."
Better than she intuitively know you're lying. That's the most hurtful.

[Menelin]

Unfortunately, most of the time simply telling girls you're ok with something they're embarrassed about doesn't do anything for them. They tend to assume the guy is telling a white lie only to make them feel better, even with repetition. That suspicion actually makes them feel worse overall.
Not always the case, but it often is.
One solution is the right kind of playful teasing. For example, when the subject comes up pretend you have a preference for something absurd or something, but only for a minute. She'll soon realize you're not being serious and it gives her a moment to realize that her worries are silly. Also, when she sees you handling it casually like that, it'll help her realize that details like that aren't a big concern for you.

[HANAZAWA]

I'm afraid nothing you say can comfort her. That is her body and if she herself can't accept her own natural beautiful form, no one else can. Tbh, either she change it (plastic surgery) or accept it. All you can say to her when she ask for your response is to let her know that you love her just the way she is. She is gorgeous in your eyes.

[torwulf]

True. There really isn't much you can do to fix someone else's insecurity. Heck, many women will just assume you're lying to make them feel better if you say you like small boobs, which just makes them feel worse.

[whiteangel1]

Obviously she knows that you think she has a small boobs that's why she complains. Girls aren't stupid

[SaltyBooze]

honesty all the way. my honesty would be "Yes, you have small boobs, but I don't care about that!" and then i would sing tim minchin's music about boobs:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQwwkI5_3-0

[Anonymous]

Do you have problem with her boobs? if you have she can sense it trust me. The only thing you can do is love them and when I say love I mean all the time you find chance. Kiss them lick them touch them. Show her not just you like them but you love them. That's your only solution

[Mikey_Ramone]

"Kiss them lick them touch them" - thanks for turning me on by this

[Opinion Owner]

@Mikey_Ramone lolll

[Mikey_Ramone]

Haha it's my bad, I know, I know...

[Opinion Owner]

@Mikey_Ramone hahaha it's natural I think

[Mikey_Ramone]

It surely is! :)

[ImagineSketchy]

Just be honest with her. Tell her how you honestly feel about the topic, her cup size and her complaining.
In my words, "I'm sorry they didn't grow more. I didn't get with you for your cup size and I won't leave because of it either. But please... enough is enough. We all have insecurities, but this isn't important enough to stress over. Look at the bright side; your chest isn't as heavy as DD Jane over there."

[damoM]

Boobs. Because, boobs.

Honestly though worship those things, spend more time giving them affection. Women are often too emotional to understand if you don't show her what their boobs mean to you. Had the same problem with my ex girlfriend's ass, she hated it at the start of the relationship and now she loves it

[xprincessrose]

Uh she probably already knows that you don’t like that part of her. That’s why she’s doesn’t like them herself.

[ausmaster]

To be honest this is a touchy thing because it falls under self esteem. So I would honestly tell the truth but make sure you practice tact for this. Be careful with your words and don't put too much emphesis on the boobs and more on the other stuff.

[inyourarea]

I have small boobs. The thing I would want to hear is "I love your small boobs!" Simple, will make her happy.

[Benedek38]

I love your small boobs!

[Mikey_Ramone]

@Benedek38 was about to say the same too haha

[Knew14]

I am small an think all boys like is bigger ones 😐

[Smf1989]

Not me

[AlwaysBelieving]

It's the mass media hype. Some like big, some like small.

[Knew14]

Yass

[Torex]

I love you more than I love boobs. I don't care what size you have as long as I can have some of your time and your precious heart.

Honestly I am not sure how well she'd take something like that.

[Anonymous]

Say hey those boobs belong to my girlfriend... and I love em, you aren't allowed to say anything bad about them

[buffdude_1719]

Well my ex told me that she loved my flat chest and i think that it’s a really sweet thing to say. Just tell her the truth and tell her that you love it no matter what

[lordewfa]

In fact you don't have a flat chest at all

[buffdude_1719]

How do you know:))

[lordewfa]

I see your picture. You are just perfect

[buffdude_1719]

Thanks lol

[lordewfa]

Do you do some workout?

[buffdude_1719]

Lmfao some? Nah i don’t, i eat cheetos and drink orange fanta all day while sitting my fatass on the couch watching teen wolf

[lordewfa]

Hahaha but you look wonderful

[buffdude_1719]

Good genes:)

[lordewfa]

Yeah would you follow me?

[anuragk033]

Having small boobs isn't a bad thing, why people even compare

[VitaniTokio]

she is kinda fishing for compliments to make her self feel better but you should be supportive so she doesn't get self conscious and if you actually like them

[billicity]

Didn't mean to vote for this one. This is actually an awful response and is just going to confirm her feelings of inadequacy. "Yes you have small boobs, and I love them" followed by some affection would be better.