If my boyfriend thinks I'm not marriage material yet, why is he still with me? (Page 3)

[Sarisalive]

It just means that you are not ready to be a wife. A wife needs to be mature and humble. It doesn't mean he doesn't want to be with you, it just means that you're not ready to be a wife. Simples as that.

[sunsetwalker]

I think that he could be afraid of commitment. he could be afraid of not being able to do and be his old self ounce he gets married he needs to slow down and grow up and be ready for kids to. That could scare him so he makes you sound bad when he is the one that sounds like he needs to do the growing up not you. Or he's just confused. Right now. When we men fight we don't think about the consqwetions of of our words.

[doogo]

When it comes to marriage it goes both ways. You both need to makes sure that you are qualified enough. Both of you need to sit down and discuss what needs to to improve for your relationship to forward.

[YinLong]

Easy until you change and grow up he won't marry you but he genuinely loves and cares for you and wants to be with you just not until you change

[LakaFlame]

Tbh guys are a bit confusing, men usually wants to move forward in life, but they want to be ready for any outcome, maybe there was something that's happened to him that causes him to think that way, he most likely just wants you to be as ready as him.

[macdaddy36]

People like to say with age comes wisdom but the truth is that with age comes patience and as you age you'll understand but just have patience especially during arguments

[MoskiWoski]

I had someone tell me that once. I let them know they were welcome to head out and find what they’re looking for.

[azzntittiz]

Only you can answer that question, do you think you're wife material?

[DLJ2_]

This is a great question

[azzntittiz]

Every woman in a relationship knows how a man feels about them, she knows why he's with her. And what her man is doing is something men do quite often.

[mishanw_1071]

he probably wants you to "grow up" but if you're naturally childish, then thats his problem, not yours

[Calixx]

Probably convenience. I dated a guy like this for 1.5 years. Except, he said I wasn’t girlfriend material for him. I’m glad I left him. Now that I think of it, he wasn’t boyfriend material for me.

[Calixx]

Also, your boyfriend sounds a little controlling, a little emotionally abusive. That’s a bit degrading what he is telling you. I would be very hurt by those words. I was extremely hurt when the guy i was dating, would tell me I’m not girlfriend material for him. I felt I wasn’t good enough. I felt terrible inside. I think you should reconsider this guy you are with.

[Givemeguidance]

LEAVE HIS ASS!!! leave before you get left. F him. You’re so young and so beautiful. I wasted four years on a guy for nothing! He said the same things, did the same, then turned on me.

I know the signs. Hopefully you’ll drop him first.

[Anonymous]

Maybe waiting for you to grow up or he does love you and just wants to wait. Or he's mad cause you're arguing so he just says it. You could ask him what he means by it too, would be the smartest thing to do, But you'll need to update us then.

[hsshannah96]

My parents got divorced when I was four. Marriage scares me.

[NatashaJ]

probably staying for the sex and girl why are you staying with someone who talks to you like that he may love you but he clearly doesn't respect you.

[dmgstarfleet]

he said "yet". He is waiting for you to mature. 23 is awful young

[HANAZAWA]

'YET'. Note that word. Means not now but maybe in near future.

[QueenofCups]

He thinks you're too immature to handle commitment.

[CuChullan]

He's just being an arsehole, playing on your fears when you have a fight. He sees a future with you, otherwise he'd be gone.
Time to call his bluff.

[madhatters4]

does he say why he doesn't feel you are marriage material yet?

[boggboss]

This question shows u are not ready he says u are not there but that he loves u meaning he is waiting for u to get there how can u not see that