Have you ever developed a romantic or sexual interest in someone who was already a good friend? (Page 4)

OlderAndWiser · 2018-09-09T13:47:56Z

So many people say that they want their SO to be their best friend but, if their best friend says "Hey, let's try to be more than friends, we often hear that cheesy line: "But I don't want to lose you as a friend." That seems to result in an automatic "urge to kill" for some of us. Sometimes, of course, it is a transparent excuse that your friend uses because they don't want to say, "But. . . I wouldn't have sex with you if you were the last guy on the planet." But, sometimes, I think people legitimately think that they want to hold on to the friendship and not take any chances. If you already have developed sexual or romantic feelings for your friend, can you simply ignore those feelings and remain in a purely platonic status? Ladies, will you be okay with hearing your guy friend talk about the new girl and how cool she is when YOU want to be the one at the center of his universe? Guys, how will you handle it when she inadvertently says something that reveals she spent the night with the new Mr. Wonderful? "How can she fuck that jerk?" you think to yourself. Girls, do you want to be there to receive an invitation to his wedding and watch him walk down the aisle with someone else? So, what do you do when you develop feelings for a friend? I think the friendship probably isn't going to continue if your feelings are rejected or spurned, so why not just go for it because a. if you lose the friendship, it was probably going to be lost anyway, but b. if you go forward and start dating and it works out, isn't that the best of all possible worlds? Have you ever been in this position? How did you handle it?

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skateranon123 Follow
Xper 6 Age: 35

+1 y

My first girlfriend was like this and we ended up dating and well now we dont talk anymore so it kinda did ruin a childhood friendship.

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Anonymous
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Yeah I have. We both did, but then after I blew him we drifted apart. Now we're friends with occasional benefits.

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monicasagi Follow
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Well, I voted for C here. And yes I did and it did kind of sucked but anyways we are cool now plus I don't feel that way about him anymore.

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Anonymous
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With my cousin. It couldn't work out because we were related and she was underage but I was happy she let me be her first.

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HaveNoName Follow
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Very nicely drafted poll.

I have fallen into B many many times.

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QueenofCups Follow
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I voted B. Great question!

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  I frequently see posts where someone is confessing feelings for a friend and asking what they should do. I am almost always in favor of taking a chance to find romance!
  
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Bismarck_96 Follow
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I revealed but she never wanted to date she just wanted me to be her fuck buddy

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McKellar Follow
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& be in the friendzone all because I'm not their type? To hell with that noise.

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PapaFranku Follow
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No, I have never developed a sexual or romantic interest in someone who was already a friend.

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SarahsSummer Follow
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I voted E and learned better.

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  At least you went for it and you won't look back and wonder what might have been.
  
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- SarahsSummer
  
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  Well normally I’d agree that going for it is better than wondering, except in this instance I just shouldn’t have.
  
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  Hindsight is always 20/20!
  
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- SarahsSummer
  
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  So true but Even without hindsight, I should have known better than to flirt with a friend with a girlfriend, also my friend.
  
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- u
  
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  Are you now. . . older and wiser? Raise your right hand and I will swear you in! :)
  
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- SarahsSummer
  
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  Yup✋
  
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WildNekoWolf Follow
Xper 6 Age: 21

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I revealed my feelings to a friend and she turned me down but we remained friends. And then about 5 months later, my current girlfriend came into my life. And we've been happy ever since. So maybe it was for the best that my friend turned me down.

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I developed a romantic interest in a good friend. For a long time I never told them. When I finally did, it didn't end well.

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ivanhunterjo Follow
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I did in college but I never revealed it in case it ended badly for both of us

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John13131 Follow
Xper 5 Age: 45

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I chose last on the list as it was closest, only difference is that it has always been them that has revealed their feelings to me.

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Bruce_VVayne Follow
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No. I didn't stay friend with those I would have feelings. I told them I liked and I started dating

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OldDad Follow
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I married her, but then she left.

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  My condolences!
  
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- OldDad
  
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  Meh, that was only strike two. It hurts constantly, but I get to live in my own private Hell. I'm slowly becoming the catman...
  
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  I don't want to see any video on the 11 o'clock news! :) :) :)
  
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- OldDad
  
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  Its not time for that. Io have 6 kids that I want to see grow up. I just need my meds adjusted again
  
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DeeDeeDeVour Follow
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Usually the other way around.

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LifeEqualsLove Follow
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Yes stuff like that doesn't always work out

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Piteka5 Follow
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Yes, so I decided to stay put and ignore it immediately

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Jltakk Follow
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The only times i had really interest were with friends of mine. Didn't share the same feelings

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