Why am I undesirable to men?

[Anonymous]

In the picture it is me, I’ll be 21 in October and never had boyfriend. Guys I met or approached didn’t like me, married, had girlfriend, got out of. serious relationship, don’t want girlfriend, busy with guy friends and job. I’m not crazy party girl, that’s not me. I want my boyfriend to love me date me and enjoy life together. I don't know what a relationship is like but I’m ready & Ik it’s not easy but I’m ready. Guys always ask out my mom but never to me. I’m dying my hair brown in two weeks as I’m bored with blonde. I just spend time studying business online, work, and planning to open up my small online clothing store soon. Even wen I meet guys no one shows interest or asks me out or want me in their life. I’m just unhappy stressed yelling , cuz they all treat me bad for no reason when I’m sweet nice caring loving. I’m tired. I’m ready it’s my time to have someone special. I don’t want to get married now but want good 1st boyfriend.

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+1 y

No I’m a girl 😑

[spunkygiraffe]

I would say, don't rush trying to get into a relationship, this could attract unwanted attention. I think you need to "get out there more", get more involved wherever you live, whether it's a local program or a volunteer job, just get out there. Show yourself as a person who is approachable and kindhearted, as those will be key in helping you get a keeper guy. Don't feel sad, it's not that "you're not good enough", it's "are you doing the right things?". You seem interesting, and don't be discouraged about the fact that nobody has been asking you out, perhaps they're to nervous! Maybe they don't think they're worthy of you yet!

[Eternallylucky]

It's probably your personality. How's your self esteem in general?

[Asker]

I smile and have had guy friends but nothing more , guys all want hottest girl love clubs, want naked easy girls only

[Eternallylucky]

No i mean how do you perceive urself in general?

[Asker]

Nice caring fun sweet loving

[Asker]

Romantic

[Asker]

Hardworking

[Eternallylucky]

I don't feel clubs are the right avenue to meet a serious guy at all.

[Asker]

No I’m saying one guy I met loves clubs

[Eternallylucky]

Maybe you don't look approachable? You seem uninterested and bored in the picture. It's not much to go by.

[Asker]

Well it’s just a picture , in real life I’m smiling and nice

[hellionthesagereborn]

How many guys have you rejected who have approached you? Their has to be a reason why you can't get a relationship (though your only 21 its not like that is all that unusual, it would be different if you where nearing 30), what is your attitude, how do you talk to them, what do you say or do or act like when you are approached, are you shy, do you tend to keep to yourself etc?

[normalice]

that's not a very flattering picture, tbh. you're veins and neck muscles are bulging, and the lighting makes it look like you're wearing a wig and is giving you a slightly masculine facial expression.

But that said, it's just a picture. I don't know what you really look like.

[Asker]

Just saw u don’t like me u don’t need to write a whole paragraph

[normalice]

I wasn't talking about you, just the picture. You need a new photographer. Lighting is supposed to be their bread and butter, and yours dropped that ball like murder charges against a white cop.

[Asker]

I take the pics on my own lol my room doesn’t have a light 😑 just a small window

[normalice]

oh, lol. my bad. You were dressed nice, so i figured it was a professional shot..

[Asker]

It’s just me n my room lol

[Logorithim]

I think you've asked this question before haven't you?

What jumps out at me in this pic is that you really look unhappy, and if that's anything how you look in person, guys will be discouraged from approaching you- women who appear friendly get approached.

[MickHardin]

I remember. You're the girl who I smiled at and you ignored me. So now you're complaining that guys don't like you! You're too sexy, I mean guys must all turn their heads when you walk by, I just find it hard to believe no one approaches you.

[unkqty]

b/c you fish for complements and force it.
it may work for a few but to most it becomes really annoying.

[NerdInDenial]

If you try online dating, you will get plenty of opportunities.

[LustBunny]

I guess you're just not meeting the right people, I never had a partner either, but I would date you and I know plenty other would too. You're very pretty hun.

[Anonymous]

You kinda look like a tranny in this pic🤔

[Opinion Owner]

Wait are you a tranny?

[Asker]

No I’m a girl 😑

[Asker]

Lmfao

[hihihiihiiihi]

I thought that too

[Opinion Owner]

@hihihiihiiihi yeah cause she makes these questions a lot and I’m starting to think they don’t want her cause she’s a man.

[Asker]

U guys r funny

[Opinion Owner]

We’re being fr. Were you born with a vagina?

[hihihiihiiihi]

Maybe she should stop working out a lot or change her clothing style or her makeup. she is beautiful

[Opinion Owner]

@hihihiihiiihi I’m trying to see if I can se an adams apple

[hihihiihiiihi]

@Anonymous this is starting to get mean

[Opinion Owner]

@hihihiihiiihi I’m not being mean I’m just being honest. I don’t understand why she can’t gwt a man. She’s not ugly at all. I just really thought she might have been a tranny.

[hihihiihiiihi]

she is not a transgender. she has pointy jaw and chin.

[Opinion Owner]

@hihihiihiiihi nah man it’s more than that.

[hihihiihiiihi]

I mean, she kind of looks like a tranny

[Opinion Owner]

@hihihiihiiihi that’s what I’m saying. I just wanted to know. That could be the reason she can’t get a boyfriend.

[MariaTheGreek90]

It’s gotta be your personality or bad hygiene cause your pretty physically. Or you got no confidence I like a woman who has confident in herself.

[CoffeeWC]

Maybe it's your personality. A lot of times it can be a turn off.

[Muhammad1999]

a pic can't prove much , unless i get to know about your personality.

[Anonymous]

If you had a Tinder or online dating account, you would have so many options and be glad you don't have to be the Hunter

[hihihiihiiihi]

she has a big defined jawline and big chin so yeah

[Asker]

That’s how my face is n I lost weight

[hihihiihiiihi]

do you workout a lot?

[Asker]

No I eat n hard to gain weight

[hihihiihiiihi]

your arms are bulky i can see your veins

[Asker]

My arms are skinny like my dads arms r like that it’s genetics , they stick out sometimes but I have super skinny stick arms

[hihihiihiiihi]

it is a little above normal size. you don't have to think that you have skinny stick arms

[Desconhecida]

Attitude

[Pauliho]

Where are you meeting these guys you talk about?

[Asker]

Warehouse jobs, markets, random places I go to, Lyft taxi , one was a locksmith

[Pauliho]

You're young still, plenty of guys out there to get to know. I'd suggest that you don't overthink or worry and something will happen

[Asker]

Iv been stressing n since I’ve waited so long it’s been getting to me 😞

[Asker]

Like I said I’m not party girl like I don’t want that at 21

[daveyc67]

You are too beautiful

[sunofdavis]

Can we see your mom too? 😁😁😁

[rapfan107]

I don't know maybe guys find you intimidating

[Anon_af]

Can't see why

[Asker]

Can’t see what?

[Anon_af]

Why guys would consider you undesirable

[Asker]

I don’t have a boyfriend , guys I meet r jerks to me n I’m always miserable , no one treats me right , no one has asked to be my girlfriend or wen I talk to a guy they mention their girlfriend or say they got out of serious relationship n I feel like shit like no one wants me in their life

[Anon_af]

Where do you meet these guys?

[Asker]

Warehouse, markets, streets, random places I go to, one was a locksmith , in college guys don’t bother to flirt or nothing no interest in me

[Asker]

Or in taxi like Lyft

[Anonymous]

Woah

[Asker]

What

[Opinion Owner]

I the picture you are. You are looking hot

[Asker]

Thanks ,
Many r saying I look like a tranny 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Lol.