Seeing your girlfriend Without makeup for the first time, thoughts?

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Hi Guys! So i've been with my boyfriend 1.5 years. on & off. Last night he brought it up how he wishes id get more comfortable and be able to not wear make up around him. I got honest and told him i'm self conscious. I get break outs often, my skin is far from perfect. Basically now, i just have few acne scars. Uneven skin tone, just not a flawless canvas. My question is, after being with someone this long, do you think this is make or break our relationship? Would you rather see us girls as our natural self, including some flaws? And still love us the same?

Dionigi · Accepted Answer

When I'm dating someone I usually see her without makeup within the first month.

Waiting 1 year makes me think you never trusted each other, or at least you never trusted him.
If this is going to break the relationship depends entirely on your personality: is he that shallow? Are you so insecure you will never trust him?

I prefer natural, I like the beauty of small details or flaws.

Still loving the same after discovering a flaw in the partner body. Yeah, love is not a statue, it doesn't shatter if something small changes, love should only die because of betrayal

jpmoore89 · Accepted Answer

I would rather see women in general stop with all the makeup, eyebrow plucking, pubic hair removal, extravagant hair styles, excessive weight loss, etc.

I understand still wanting to feel feminine here and there and doing girl things such as shaving legs or putting on some highlights for special occasions. But a down to earth woman as her natural self is beautiful and amazingly feminine.

I Really dislike modern pop fashion and all the fads out there that says she has to "fix things" in order to be beautiful.

spunkygiraffe · Accepted Answer

You may feel self conscious, but this is your boyfriend. You should be open with your partner, you should know and love each other for the real person they are. He just wants you to take the mask off, to see the real you, the natural person, the person with physical and internal flaws, someone who isn't perfect, yet still somebody with quirks and an amazing personality. Also, hiding your true face from him may make him feel unhappy, since it's like you aren't trusting of him, that you think he may think of you differently.

Factshurt90 · Accepted Answer

🙄🙄🙄 this is why I don’t sell lies with makeup.. my skin sucks too!. Why would I sell perfect skin to a guy?
Try this. GRADUALLY wear less makeup over time. By the time you are wearing none it won’t be such a shock.

ecfresh · Answer

Not only would I expect to see you without makeup, I would expect that to happen a lot sooner than 1.5 years into a relationship. One of the things we all look forward to is seeing all the flaws, all the baggage and frankly what you act like on your worst day. Everyone is human and no one is perfect. We date as a rehearsal for marriage (marriage is a lifetime) so if we see the absolute worst version of who you are and it doesn't phase us, it just builds trust and confidence the relationship with last. If you keep putting on makeup and covering up personality flaws and cannot be 100% raw and honest with us, then it will be super hard to prepare for a successful marriage. The simple truth is when you love someone you love all of them, flaws and imperfections.

4pple · Answer

Most guys don't find makeup attractive, you know? Of course it makes you look flawless and perfect, but that's not attractive when you're in love, your little flaws and differences are what make you diffrent from others, it's the real you, the irreplaceable individual, it's so much better to see the real you than a fake you, after all, if someone really loves you they love you for who you really are, not for who else you can be. Why do you think guys love to stare at their girlfriend after waking up in the morning? Because she's her true self, no changes, nothing fake, just her natural, real self, and there's nothing more beautiful than that

BaileyisDarcy · Answer

I mean, I've never met a guy who's told me to put makeup on, or said I'd look better with it. Only ever had girls tell me that.

I dont ever wear the stuff, when one guy asked me to come over with red lipstick on (a big turn on for him rather than a suggestion i should start wearing makeup) i legit had to look up a tutorial after going out and buying a tube. By the way there are no lipstick tutorials that dont require you to own a lip brush. It's ridiculous.

I wouldn't ever be with someone who would break a relationship over a few acne scars

ForteExe · Answer

I personally don't like a ton of make-up to begin with. If I was in a relationship for 1.5 years and didn't know what my girlfriend looked like without face paint on it'd make me uneasy to say the least. I'd have asked to see you without make-up (or at least little enough make-up that I wouldn't consciously notice it) by end of the first month if I hadn't seen you without it already. If a woman goes around with enough make-up that she looks considerably different than she naturally would I think that counts as lying about her appearance. I get that you're self conscious so adding enough to hide your scars is understandable, but after a while it becomes a trust issue.

daynamariex · Answer

Have you never had a bare face infront of him at all? Not even in the morning? Cause that would be make or break. It questions how genuine you think his feelings are for you. Everyone has flaws, and I imagine most people have insecurities about their face/skin. But other people, especially those that love you, don't care about that. When you look in the mirror, you pick out flaws, when you look at others, you pick out qualities. Just don't worry about it. He wouldn't suggest you not wear make up around him if he was bothered by natural skin.

zaxxx · Answer

Wow... Once. I had a girlfriend that was waking before me just to put makeup and then she was comming back to bed. This happened after 3 months of dating when we started to spend days and nights together in bed. I woked up, looked at her and asked her what she is doing? And she said nothing. And I asked her about why she did put make up on, and she said to be pretty for me. I asked her if from now one is possible for her not to do that. I get it when we go out and so on, but in the morning I want to se her as herself. She complained and was insecure. But in the end she went back in bathroom and took the make up off and returned to bed.

What girls sometimes do not understand is that some guys love them not because how good they are with makeup but for how they look without it. Makeup is always just a cherry on top to make things interesting, but for morning sex and cuddling... No makeup pls.

Gottabsavagee · Answer

I am a girl and I never wear makeup. My skin isn’t perfect at all either. I get breakouts as well but I still get a lot of guys pursuing me. So girl, nothing to worry about. Just be yourself. You’ll feel way better and the relationship can only get stronger as you know each other bettee and there is a trust. If it pushes him away then you were dating a kid. Anyways I highly believe every guy will accept you and think you are even prettier without it. Don’t be afraid of being yourself, love yourself.

witherwing · Answer

You've been together for 1,5 years and he hasn't seen you without makeup? 😳 How is that even possible? I look like shit without makeup and prefer to always wear makeup, but my boyfriend saw me without makeup even before we started dating.

If you haven't heard yet, men hate makeup and would always prefer women without makeup.

rjroy3 · Answer

I think of this as an a similar circumstances to women wanting men to be comfortable enough to open up and cry. She still wants him to be a strong man, while also being comfortable enough to open up to her with important shit. A guy wants you to be comfortable enough to go without, while also regularly putting in effort into your appearance.

Doesn't want to to feel like you NEED it.

sassygirl13 · Answer

I'm sure he won't mind the flaws as much as you think.
You can reduce makeup gradually one thing at a time. Try using concealer on spots only or bb cream and make it even lighter with lotion. It will give minimum coverage until you are ready to take it off completely.

Ps Guys don't notice as much as you think specially when it comes to their partner. I once came home after hair color and cut 20 cm off with new bangs spending 5 hours at the salon and he was like mmm what did you do? lol

Anonymous · Answer

OMG every single girl I dated so far had the same problem with showing herself without makeup. 1. Makeup doesn't make that much difference anyway 2. If a guy likes a girl, it won't really matter if she has a couple pimples 3. Guys usually have more skin problems on their face, and we're quite aware of that so we don't expect girls to look flawless. 4. If he asks you, he probably already expects to see a significant difference. He expects you to have those imperfections when you take makeup off.

So yeah, it's fine. If he likes you already it won't make a difference in how attracted he is to you. But he will be happier cause you were open to him

litty · Answer

People said the same thing to my ex when she got braces, that she didn't need to impress anybody because she had me. But that's the wrong thinking, she got braces because she wanted straight teeth for herself. Make up is the same way. You want to look presentable and you know the best way to do it. Let's hope we are never comfortable lest the day comes when we stop trying

LittleRedKat · Answer

Hun makeup is great but it can't be the base of your confidence. Ik it's scary but try going without makeup more, not only will your skin clear up but you will become more confident in yourself. Although I do wonder how it's his first time seeing you without makeup for over a year. Like do you not sleep over or shower at his place ever?

Anonymous · Answer

I can't forget this one guy who shared about having this girl for quite some time and he said he liked the girl a lot... but then the first time they woke up next to each other in the morning, i remember him saying “she looks so ugly i literally ran and almost barfed”...

So, he clearly didn't have true feelings for the girl. I believe if the guy truly loves who, he’ll love you for who you are... and he will be the one to love your flaws and teach you to do so too.

Anonymous · Answer

I worked with a girl for about 5 years... thought she was real cute... Saw her for the first time without makeup because she was in a hurry one day...

winterfox10 · Answer

I don't know why women worry about this so much. Your relationship will be fine, definitely by a year and half probably even after 6 months. It all depends on when you first slept together. Girls think we don't know, but we realize that you didn't wake up looking that flawless

Servus09 · Answer

I think it's safe to say after a year and a half that your boyfriend cares more about you than just the way you look. So no, I don't think you wearing less or no makeup at all around your boyfriend is going to have any sort of negative effect on your relationship.

If I'm going, to be honest, I think a little makeup goes a long way. But I would never dump someone over something silly like an acne scar I had never seen before.

I think you're safe, little mama.

DepressionV2 · Answer

Honestly I got a bit lucky because my girlfriend has amazing skin apart from the once in a while pimple and such
But in my opinion I don't think how you look without makeup should matter if you're really into that person
Unless you go into the relationship purely based on looks it shouldn't be a big deal
And I would hope that dating for one a half years would mean that he loves you for more than just your looks

DizzyDesii · Answer

Lol my boyfriend has never seen me in makeup. I haven't worn makeup since i quit ballet at age 8. So when i finally wear some on wedding day, it’ll surprise us both

spartan55 · Answer

If my girlfriend were so insecure she couldn't even go without makeup around me after 1.5 years together... I would be moving on. Do you wear makeup to bed every night?

elite665 · Answer

It will not be weird (GIRLS) listen up you maybe think your makeup make you look PERFECT but your boyfriends are attracted to more then your complexion and stuff not like your face shape or smile or eyes will change with it off

Johnnie1000 · Answer

Yes it's time. Never saw your face? swimming, showering together or not. He's going to love you. Share your beauty fears and he will be sensitive and understanding when you do battle with a zit.

ImSoSquishy · Answer

just do it, eventually you'll have to let him see you without make up anyways, and if he's going to ditch you over these things, he's probably not worth your time.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Most women I've dated over the years, didn't wear makeup that often. I tend to gravitate more to women who are a bit outdoorsy. So no makeup is fine with me. I've never even thought of it that much.

steveguitar · Answer

Yes without makeup, you can still shape your eyebrows or whatever, but all the coverup and shit isn't helping your complection. I think you should have shown him much earlier than this.

Drener · Answer

You shouldn't matter what other people think  Because if the guy truly loves u he would love u just the way u r and even without makeup

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

I never wore makeup daily. Just when I go to an event and done... so my boyfriend saw me without makeup. Actually thats what he made him fall in love. be confident.. why the hell would you wear makeup. everyday.

Cammy137 · Answer

How could you be in a relationship with someone who you've never seen without makeup? That is crazy!

TrixiePooch · Answer

So you found out your girlfriend is really a hagged out gash? Good luck with that. But at least she can be your bearded clam.

fay23 · Answer

Man i couldn't go a week without showing my bare face. I don't normally wear make up so this shouldn't be a problem for me. I suggest being comfortable with yourself first if you feel that way.

Browneye57 · Answer

Yes, of course.  Just don't underestimate the power of attraction and beauty - they're real. And men don't know anything about makeup, they just know pretty when they see it.

Malita55 · Answer

Guys honestly prefer women who are confident without makeup on. Just do it girl!

Anonymous · Answer

Girl who gives a fuck. Just do what makes you comfortable, it’s just makeup and he probably doesn’t give a shit whether you have acne scars or not. We all get minor acnes at some point. Not a big deal

Anonymous · Answer

Of course. If someone does break up for you because you have a few acne scars or uneven skin, that's not love. People shouldn't love people superficially, based on appearances, but should love them because of their character and personality. Loving someone because of their looks is shallow. And be confident! My girlfriend is a mess of self confidence, and has the occasional acne scar Here and there, and she looks fine without it. It's ok to go natural! It won't change much

HereIbe · Answer

I prefer my wife without makeup, without a wig, as natural and naked as she can be. She hates to be seen that way.

Ezra5808 · Answer

I think the natural look is better. If a girl I'm seeing is doing makeup to make herself happy I'm happy along with her. But I like kissing and lipstick makes it awkward/ funny

Rishi2702 · Answer

Mam if he tells you not to apply make up then you should love him even more as a time will come when you will get old and your boyfriend will still be loving not by your physical apperance but from the real you inside.

PleadianLover · Answer

Natural and simple is the best, yeah girls, this may sound crazy to y'all but its the truth, dont hide behind a fake u, but if u feel like doing it its fine too, but if want my opinion I'd say no, dont use it, or use less just to feel comfortable

Keimpe · Answer

Wearing make-up all the time is unhealthy for you. On tv actors wear it, but as soon as the camera is gone, so goes their make-up. Everyone has their imperfections, and the one who loves you accepts them and maybe even adores them.

CarpetDenim · Answer

It’s actually really sad he hasn’t seen the you without it already.

MindTime · Answer

If he would break up with you over your looks without makeup, he's not with you for the right reasons

Nightflight95 · Answer

If i were your boy friend, i would even encourage you to leave the makeup away for a while, so your skin can recover and breathe. It's the personality which i fell in love with.

Anonymous · Answer

I mean as long as you don't completely changed your face with make up, he shouldn't have a problem

Blightly · Answer

if he's telling you he's fine with it, he's fine with it. take it off girl

AtomicCheesing · Answer

My girlfriend doesn't wear makeup. Even if she did, what's inside matters more.

CoolDeb-_- · Answer

I tend to ask a girl out when she's not wearing makeup so she knows I already accept her at her "worst"

Luke______ · Answer

What you think might happen: "You look like this without makeup? We're through!" What will propably happen: "You look like this without makeup? Neat..."

Massageman · Answer

A couple of them were very nice au naturel. The others needed a little help.

Malebikiniswimer · Answer

My girlfriend very rarely wears makeup so it’s just an everyday occurrence 😅

LOGESHKUMAR · Answer

I personally like girls without make up... It doesn't make your relationship break. .

Wifflesnoofer63 · Answer

We prefer natural with flaws and all. As others have said, most of us don't really like makeup on our women.

HornetsFanAllDay · Answer

I see no problems here, there would only be a problem if a person was hurt or needed help. but this is far from a problem

TenorTone · Answer

I personally would want to see the girl I like without makeup, I just feel that the makeup is not necessary. (Especially when there are so many people that put a ton on).

os2blue · Answer

Who is this monster? Who let harmbe out? Its alive? Jk i like her with or without make up.

vald9inches · Answer

of course i would rather see you natural beautiful <3

MariaTheGreek90 · Answer

Make up ok but all the if I put make up on it’s only lips, and eyeshadow. My Girlfriend only wears it when we goes. I like her natural beauty better.

dontgofalling · Answer

Yes, definitely! I mean, if you can accept me with my scars and everything that comes with it, then I can't find a reason not to love you with it (;

Robert77 · Answer

I love when Demi doesn’t wear makeup she’s beautiful with and without it

sailormanfl · Answer

It doesn't matter if she has makeup or anything i am not picky like that

BonnieBunny · Answer

When she took off the makeup, her face revealed her to actually be a man  So I just (✿ ◕‿◕) ᓄ✂╰U╯

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