She told me she loves me like a brother but, doesn't treat me like one?

[Anonymous]

Get jealous if I check out other girls, some times comments about them like she is wearing to much make up or that girl is so weird, kind of like saying you could do better and when I talk to them she just sits there with her head down. She always seems to touch me and always make sure I notice her. On the day I have class with her she looks really nice, wears nice clothes, looks like she spent a lot of time getting ready, some times show her cleavage. On days when I don't have class with her but run into she is not dressed up wearing sweatpants or comfortable clothes. She has told me she talks about me to her girlfriends. The whole thing confuses me though, I am the only one she talks to in our class together, why get dressed/ judge the girls he looks at/ talk to your friends about him, when you see him as a brother? I have always understood and been told love you like a brother means I only see you as a friend but her actions argue against it.

[LOL89]

Do you like her? Otherwise forget about it, if she says she likes you as a brother or whatever then she is making you at ease by letting you know she doesn't feel that way. Maybe she is just a flirt without realising it type. Maybe she slags other girls off because she is looking out for you, but if it bothers you maybe you should just tell her that she should respect your opinions of others a bit more. Sounds like she also might be trying to control you a bit, but doesn't necessarily means she has feelings for you. She could be trying to look out for you if she is a good person or a good friend but I guess it's only you that knows that at the end of the day.

[Asker]

i do like her now but worried she is an intentional flirt, she has to have some idea she is doing it because she only dresses up if she has that class with me or I told her I will see her.

[LOL89]

I think, if you're right for each other it will work out but honesty is the key and not just being honest with her, but with yourself. Are you sure that the feelings you have for her are actually there because of her or because of the idea of her built up in your head and the possibility she likes you - the fantasy of it all? I hope that this helps, I have had similar situations in the past. The best way to know is to try and take notice as to how you actually feel when you're around her :=]

[Anonymous]

I'd normally think this girl likes you, but because she makes a point to tell you you're like a brother to her, I'd suspect her motives are different. Is she the flirty type? I know girls who just like to "collect" boys by flirting with them, trying to look nice for them, etc. without ever having the intention of pursuing a relationship, and yet they're jealous when the boys' attention turns elsewhere. I don't mean to shoot down the possibility of her liking you, nor am I implying you're not likable -- I'm sure you're great! Girls like that don't deserve a nice guy.

[Asker]

not sure if this would matter but will say it anyways. I never really flirted back because I dint feel like that about her at first and apart from me she seems to only have 2-3 guys she hangs out with some have girlefriends and she seems to be more touchy with me than the others. I could be wrong about #guys she hangout with but for the most part her friends seem to be girls.

[Michellelovesyou]

she obviously likes you. she is probably just saying she loves you like a brother so you don't think she likes you. she is probably trying really hard to get your attention because she doesn't think you like her back. Or maybe she's trying to make it obvious she likes you without telling you.

[ArtistBboy]

What she said.

[Asker]

Seems like most communication being through body language and non verbal could be true, I always thought that sounded like such bullsh*t. so she could be scared of rejection by me? I find that hard to believe because I thought she was out of my legue.

[Michellelovesyou]

thanks artistBboy(: and she could totally be scared of rejection, you may think she's out of your league but she probably thinks you are out of hers. it might be a combination of being scared of rejection and scared of losing your friendship, ruining things, or making it awkward.

[Anonymous]

Well do you like this girl? She could just be waiting for you to ask her out. Girls usually won't make the first move.

[sikoo31]

maybe she's into incest?... jk people.

yeah I'm pretty sure she likes you. do you like her that way though?

[Asker]

i laughed at the first bit and yeah I started to like her when I got to know her better

[sikoo31]

ok, well then why don't you try holding her hand and watch her reaction?

[baddooggie]

Dude just grab her and kiss her. Truth will come out there.

[Asker]

brilliant idea, not only does your idea provide the oppertunity for assualt charges but also alows me to alianate myself from her and all her friends and ontop of that look like a complete idiot in front of any one who sees it.

[baddooggie]

Sorry I thought you were intelligent enough to time it right. Its obvious she likes you. Sexual assault? I would have been guilty and thrown in jail a few hundred times if a going for kiss was sexual assault. Balls to the wall, or none at all.

[western_belle]

Have you ever asked her out on a date?