Why is cheating so mainstream now?

Question

It's sad how common cheating is now adays. No one can stay loyal to one person and that really alarms me. What about you guys?

Cupcakes33 · Accepted Answer

It's being ENCOURAGED nowadays to always put yourself first no matter what; individuality is being celebrated more than ever. No one matters, it's all about YOU and what YOU want.
Don't mind the consequences of your actions, and the impact it has on others, as long as it makes you happy. After all, do what makes you happy, right?
There's no responsibility whatsoever.
It's also got to do with the fact that most people treat others as they were objects, if they break they throw them away and get another one, instead of putting the effort and try to fix them.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Cheating has always been around.
It's just easier now due to the internet, social media... hell there are literally sites on the internet that boast about how you can go to and cheat on your partner if you're unhappy in your relationship! 🤦‍♀️

So for those of us that are loyal and are capable of fidelity, it makes it THAT much harder to find a partner that doesn't just want a hookup or won't cheat on us.

InTimoreDei · Accepted Answer

1. Marriage is no longer sacred for people. Ever since the sexual revolution of the 70's cheating has gone up, divorces are commonplace, and long term marriages have gone down in number.

2. Cheating is much easier due to the digital age. One can now just message their person of choice and make sexual advances.

3. Feminists and revolutionists (not all) no longer believe in monogamy. Women now think being sexually active is ok. They believe that multiple partners is fine. Cheating among them is on the increase.

front2back · Accepted Answer

Because of stupid shit like the "sexual revolution". Committed monogamous relationships keep society and its people healthy And happy. However, the youth have been indoctrinated into thinking sleeping around, spreading disease, and having unplanned pregnancies is the "cool" thing to do.

Pinay_ako · Answer

If there's a will, there's a way

Anonymous · Answer

It’s also definitley easier with social media and all.

I’m guessing
But someone once said that it’s because some feel entitled to happiness and will leave everything for something better.

I’m reading a book about infidelity actually, and it talks about how sometimes it happenes on accident. When you get too close To a friend and because maybe life gets too busy with wife or hubby, they become distant and cheat. Like am escape from reality. Sometimes they just fall in love with someone else and they think it means that their current partner isn’t “the one” when really all kinds of humans are compatible with many others.

Some people for some reason do stuff cause their partner is already. For example “I don’t feel that he cares about me and if he doesn’t want to show me he does then I’ll find it somewhere else.”

Some people just don’t have morals

Some do it for fun

Some people aren’t serious in their relationships

Some want someone better than their partner

I’m only 20 but as far as what I’ve heard and seen, those are some reasons.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

The religious element of fear is gone.

And media encourages cheating through mainstream movies, pornography, and social sites.

And and.. women working means women leave the house more see more men. Women in past had less of a chance to cheat.

As we know majority of people like to follow... even if it means drinking bleach... that is really why you see adultery being prevalent.

Ponycargirl12 · Answer

I'm repulsed by cheating, especially after it happened to me, feels like a nightmare. You would think that someone who tells u they've been cheated on wouldn't do it to someone else, but I guess no one is safe !

taleswapper · Answer

There are three basic reasons to NOT have extra-marital sex (which I assume is what you mean by "cheating". If not, disregard this).

!. Religious proscription. Many people today simply don't have that taboo on board.
2. the question of paternity. In this day, paternity tests are easy, and it doesn't matter in most cases anyway.

3. The spread of STIs. Wear a rubber when going outside.

All three of these have simple fixes. The "loyalty" thing is completely artificial. It would be like insisting your partner only eat with you; never anyone else. So more people are going "Meh. I have no reason to be butthurt; I'm not actually harmed by this."

LegendarySir · Answer

It does seem to be gaining popularity, or maybe there's just more ways to shine light on cheaters. I do see a lot of people who seem to think this is ok, and I don't understand that.
Thing is, it's not up to me or you to stop people from cheating, we have no control over that, we can only control ourselves. So even though others cheat, don't fall into that pit, and teach your kids to not cheat either.
There's no benefit in feeling sad because of what others do, we can't let others dictate how we feel, don't let them discourage you from relationships.

Servus09 · Answer

The media plays a large role in this. It would be great if people thought for themselves, but in reality, we're all sheep to propaganda.

A lot of people also have commitment issues given how easy women are today. No longer do you have to look the other person in the face and have those awkward moments amongst each other. Now you can just swipe right and be having sex with a stranger with minutes.

As a result of this, it's easy to keep your conscious clear if you cheat on the person you're kinda dating. Who cares if you cheat on your girlfriend if neither of you are honest about your feelings and/or you see each other as a stepping stone to someone better.

sageevalentine · Answer

It is sad, I think it's because people don't have much respect for each other anymore. After all, how can you respect some one with such low standards that they sleep with the first person who offers.

happaly · Answer

Yea. Cheating doesn't ruin a reputation as much as it used to. Sick that a lot of people can get away with it

NicolaD · Answer

Like a lot of things cheating has been around for generations only nowadays it’s not (due to transport lack of link ups) confined to the same locality but through apps, people’s movements and the like it’s nationwide or even global. The genie is certainly out of the bottle on this and the cork is not going back on.

Mercury1 · Answer

American women cheat on their man because they are gold diggers, and they want the absolute highest bidder. For men, America's dating scene is exactly like an auction.

Most American women are overweight, and guys generally are not attracted to obesity in women. Men usually cheat on their ladies because she was obese and didn't take care of herself.

Tilin29 · Answer

It's not that no one stays loyal. It's just that due to the access of media and internet you can find out much easier who's cheating and if someone is cheating on you. Nowadays you can track a partner's phone and all that.

20 years ago when you suspected a dude was cheating you'd not even find out as it was practically impossible unless you followed him around.

ChgzDaniel · Answer

Because the only reason cheating was a thing was because religion said adultery is a sin. Now, most people are atheists they don't care about sinning or not because they don't believe anything bad will happen to them.

Browneye57 · Answer

It's not any more than it has ever been. Too many are confused about what it is and what it is not. At your age there's no such thing. Unless you're married.
Just date a lot. A LOT. Spin plates, have fun. Don't get all hung up with ONE. Have options, play the field. You'll actually gain sufficient experience to be able to discern whether they're worthy or not, are worth your investment in time and energy.

DamnSam · Answer

Simple answer, while politics cheat, companies cheat, taxpayers cheat... think about it, is there anything today where the most people dont cheat...

Right, most of people cheat and win, so why do I not cheat, probably bcause im an idiot, so I start cheating too and you can't punish me for that because you need to punish first cheaters first... so we stay in a cheating lying world bc nobody wants a world where he/she can't cheat

Kiran04 · Answer

Because we're all so pervaded and bombarded by the daily message of "you don't need no man!" that women are convinced they literally don't need a man for anything, including having a family, and men are so fed up with women's bullshit that they refuse to commit to them even if they don't subscribe to the "need no man" BS. And the whole "never settle!" lie has everyone chasing the next best thing, unable to find happiness with their current partner for fear that they have "settled".

mar_B · Answer

Maybe it's less taboo, or maybe people cheat as much as they did before, but just talk about it more.

Lgmswolf024 · Answer

I recently got cheated on my by ex he cheated with my bestfriend (not anymore).. it sucks it's like you are living a nightmare especially if you really do feel something while they didn't. If you really did you wouldn't put yourself in a position where you could lose that person. Its terrible that some people don't respect others, how can you respect someone if you snoop that low. I do not wish that to anyone not even my ex or my former bestfriend.

genericname85 · Answer

cause it was super tabu and not talked about in the past. cause like if you were cheated, you were shamed for it and mutiple other societal reasons. nowadays we can freely talk about it. that doesn't mean cheating is more prevalent now. it was always as prevalent.

rubymig · Answer

Honestly because in today world people are the worst
There's very few genuine people out there, that I know of I've never been cheated on but just the thought of someone doing that to me or even out persons disgusts me, it's just so bad.. not the act itself, but the lack of respect, love, honesty and integrity

hhues · Answer

People dont respect each other as much. I dont understand it myself. I joke about my boyfriend having 8 other women all the time but if he actually cheated on me o would be devastated.

MindYourEyes · Answer

There’s more of an open world and people are becoming more selfish. People are always looking for better. It’s sad :/. Haha and my ass has been cheated on a lot of times. It’s so annoying. Makes me not want anything anymore.

lightbulb27 · Answer

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FreshOutaIdeas · Answer

As the quality of people decreases, so does loyalty to other people.

(((Individualism, feminism, sexual revolution, BC pill, social media))) etc etc have engineered people towards this.

(((They))) want it to be like this...

Ajoyfulbabe · Answer

Because know one gives a fuck anymore and it’s sad.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

Because people are getting more careless, selfish, and evil with time

I think the root of the problem is throwing away old rules and traditions, back then when cheaters were scarce and shamed
Now they're everywhere and nobody even cares...

Lance1965 · Answer

Cheating is now so common it is almost expected to happen. A guy was talking to me yesterday about his woman and he said "I will stay with her till she cheats on me then I will look for someone else."

It is sad.

emmily2396 · Answer

Well, it all starts with the habit of hooking up, because if it is so easy to get into your pants then a relationship won't make much of a difference

Kelliblondebabe · Answer

In the UK we have geordie shore love island and ex on the beach etc which makes cheating the norm or maybe even trendy! But I've went with guy's who I know have girlfriends and I've cheated on ex boyfriend's so I do feel like a slag sometimes

mrbobz · Answer

Nothing has changed, its just far easier to be aware of it and to find it out. There were clubs back in the day where it was "known" married women went for a bit of fun...

YvanKarma · Answer

cos of the music ya`ll love and listen to the majority of hip hop and rap songs is about cheating and what not lmao

Spoon1996 · Answer

Isn’t it the same as it always was just exaggerated by social media

Guanfei · Answer

Because society is openly shitting on family, marriage, and faithfulness. Today you have to be open, free to fuck whoever you want, no string, and above all, no remorse.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not "nowadays", it always has been that way. When you pick a shit or unreliable person, this is just what happens.

TonyBologna25 · Answer

It's really not. Cheating is still in the minority. I think it's shown that only 19% of women will cheat. It's still high, but it's not like all women are cheating now.

Thotkiana · Answer

I know, right. People are evil.

BananaGrey · Answer

People make poor choices in partners. They base things upon  looks and material goods and  don't share the same concept b of what a relationship is to them.  Recipe for disaster.

Pejtu · Answer

tinder - a lot of quick options for guys and girls
fuck culture or however u call that
nobody wants to get attached to anybody
people stopped giving a fuck about feelings and care only about sex thats all :)

Millesa80 · Answer

Cuz internet made it easier. we also have to redefine cheating

Darklydarkened · Answer

It was always common. What really trending is people who constantly asking why it is becoming mainstream/common/popular and all.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Cheating is not a new phenomenon. It has existed for thousands of years.

chrisbigman · Answer

There are many reasons. But one of the most common reasons is selfishness. People are too selfish and too self-centered to think about anyone but themselves.

Secret6620 · Answer

Nope loyal til I die 😎😎😎

BrownBratzDoll · Answer

Honestly this age of social media everything is exposed these days

AmtgardJean · Answer

Cheating has been around since monogamy was a thing. But now it is being glorified as something good. As something fine and acceptable.

mook123 · Answer

i don't see why people cheat it defeats the point of being in a relationship, if you want see multiple people stay single

sasukeuchiha7 · Answer

Cause most people have no honour and respect for themselves it others

winterfox10 · Answer

Because we've been really pushing the idea of the pursuit of immediate gratification above all other things.

GreatnessBack · Answer

Untrue. People choose their own path in life. Some people only want one partner, who other want more than one.  The thing is to make sure you know what YOU want and get the people who think like you.

stepup20 · Answer

People get away with it to easy (where I live atleast) there is not really a downside for the cheater so why would they stop.

gaaxure · Answer

There's more opportunity to connect with other people, and even more opportunity to get caught doing it.

Anonymous · Answer

You're 19. You don't have a clue what it was like before. You're just aware of cheating now. It has always been like this.

Aphrodite8789 · Answer

I don't know male rappers promote it and guys think it’s cool so

gxxr1130 · Answer

Feminism. Women are empowered to do what ever their vaginas tell them so now there is no check on cheating, unwed sex, etc.

CuChullan · Answer

Everyone cheats, or will cheat, all it takes are the right circumstances and right opportunity.

TheSpartan · Answer

I’ve always said adultery should be punishable by death.

atheistaredumb · Answer

MGTOW  and GOD above the dome  don't trust women  there are so few women you can trust its insane

admles · Answer

Never cheated, never will. Zero tolerance for it.

hammeronfire · Answer

i don't know but hate it. i keep getting cheated on

Anonymous · Answer

I have never been knowingly cheated on. But I think my second to last ex cheated a week before we split. She felt “emotionally” justified to do that bullshit.

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