Why is cheating so normalized?

[Lisia]

You see it in movies/series, hear it in songs, people do it irl all the time.

I just wonder like why would you do that especially if you love the person lol it takes more effort to cheat than to not cheat.

And don't you feel guilty after?

[caring__1]

It's the same reason violence and murder are normalized in entertainment. People seem to like living vicariously in the area of taboo. They escape into the fantasy of that which they'd probably never actually consider doing. You may have noticed after Trump eliminated political correctness how people gained confidence to feel more entitled than others and push their agenda onto others. By normalizing the taboo, people gain the courage to put themselves first and show inconsideration for others. Maybe they feel they've been held down for too long and now want to explore the taboo, even if it is just in their own head, without feeling they are bad or wrong for doing so.

If people didn't pay to see these types of things, they wouldn't be produced. For the most part, only things that bring the producers money will be produced. Just look at television. Some shows flop, and you never see duplicates of those flops. Others are successes, so the next season there will be multiple copies of what is believed to make the show a success. You will always have people who want to get rich off of people's prurient thoughts.

[strateguy632]

the opposite, violence is either fighting the bad guy violence or horror not normalized, but cheating which shouldn't be normalized is like a success. eeew.

[caring__1]

@strateguy632 We can legitimize violence anyway we wish, but if violence didn't sell, it wouldn't be sold. You can say the movies are about the good guys, yet good guys could still be portrayed without the bad guys, but would that hold the interest of the general public?

It's not uncommon for Americans to question how Europeans can watch so much nudity on their television, leading Europeans to ask how Americans can watch so much violence on their television. Whatever we become accustomed to becomes normal, so we don't even question that which is being promoted. Cheating and violence have been normalized, because that's what the viewing audience chooses to see. If they didn't pay for it, it wouldn't be produced.

[coachTanthony]

Because it happens all the time. Marriage is not what it used to be. It took skill to cheat on your spouse... now it's a swipe or slide into a DM away.

[dynamicyandere]

Yup. Nowadays with smartphones and apps, it’s easier than ever. It’s an easy but unhealthy solution to relationship problems.

Just imagine if recreational drugs could be teleported right out of your smartphone’s screen and into your hand. With the touch of a button. For free.

How many more drug addicts would we have today, escaping from their problems instead of fixing them?

Cheating never happens to couples who are perfectly happy with their relationship. Cheating is a form of running away from relationship issues or coping due to some unfulfilling aspect of the relationship.

It’s wrong. It’s unhealthy. But it’s easier than ever.

[coachTanthony]

@dynamicyandere I am sure there would be a hell of a lot more drug addicts if it were free and available for sure.

[dynamicyandere]

@coachTanthony Exactly. 100% and male or female attention and validation can be one hell of a drug. We see both men and women chasing that. Men and women may seek it a little differently, but it’s seeking that special attention and validation outside of their relationship that’s cheating.

[Sasha0426]

When someone cheats, they never truly loved their partner. In fact, a cheater plans their cheating ahead of time. Like, they meet their future partner but SECRETLY have other people lined up. And what’s really sad is cheaters TRICK their partner into believing they’re the most trustworthy person. They make their partner feel stupid for putting their guard down. And what’s even more fucked up cheaters will never let their partners go because they’re afraid of losing their power. They emotionally and mentally manipulate their partner.

[Radiate143]

It's prevalent. It's still largely looked down upon.

[jetbass]

I think cheating has become kind of normalized in some relationships because of a bunch of reasons. Social media and dating apps have made it easier to connect with people outside your relationship, which can tempt some folks. There's also a lot of pressure to look perfect and have an exciting life, which can lead some to seek validation elsewhere.

[Lisia]

Tbh it happened a lot before social media too.. just not a lot of people knew about it and it was always in real life.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Actually the movies don't normalize it. Well it's true there are many cheaters and movies but they also tend to get demonized in the movie. I don't see anyone giving cheaters a round of applause. Maybe it's just getting so common that hearing news about it doesn't seem like a surprise anymore.

[Lisia]

in my opinion it gets glorified. Okay yeah sometimes they get shit but not always. I watched Euphoria and there was more emphasis on a girl hooking up with a friend's ex boyfriend than all the cheating that actually happened.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Dating somebody's ex is not really considered cheating. They are just dating someone new to them who is an ex to someone.

[Lisia]

Exactly. But that got demonized, the real cheating didn't.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Well I'm not exactly up to date when it comes to dating/romance movies or maybe just movies in general but in reality, a lot of cheaters actually do get demonized because cheating is seen as a heinous act no matter where you go. Or maybe in developed societies. Which is exactly why if you admit that you have cheated once, Even if it was way back then, You're going to be treated differently.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You'll hear that quote saying "once a cheater is always a cheater" it still sounds pretty fresh actually.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Maybe it's true that the movies are glorifying it but I don't think people are still buying it. It's just like how anime is glorifying pedophilia but it's still a very big taboo.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Maybe I could say the same thing about violence as well in action movies or in video games glorifying violence and brutality but somehow it doesn't really mean violence is totally okay. In fact, Violet crimes actually went lower when violent games were released.

[Lisia]

Hmm I would say cheating is normalized here where I live. Not a lot of people would react shocked if they saw or heard of someone doing it. There's also a tv show where they actually try to break people apart and to make the s/o cheat. I would say people still see it as a bad thing in general but no one really cares anymore

[KostasKouvalis]

I read a study several years ago that said humans aren't naturally monogamous, and the average human gets bored with their partner after 12 years. I've honestly never realized how common it is, until I started using THIS website. I've never been a cheatER, but surely I would feel guilty. However, I've been a cheatEE on multiple occasions. And no, I don't feel guilty about it. I'm more worried about getting murdered/beaten by her husband, then hurting his feelings. I believe all 3 of us are accountable.

[Lisia]

I believe 1 is accountable and sometimes 2.

[KostasKouvalis]

That's a stupid way of thinking.
The husband is accountable, because he clearly wasn't satisfying his wife properly. The wife is accountable because she can't control her lust to be with another man, but won't divorce. And I'm accountable because I should know better than to mess around with a married woman, but I'm too damn horny and like women too much.

My girl friend agrees with me, that they're both equally responsible for the wife cheating. And that I'm not forcing the wife to do anything, and clearly have something her husband lacks. So in a way I'm helping her, and also I would be stupid not to sieze the opportunity.

[Lisia]

Lmao some people just cheat to cheat even if they're satisfied. They just want to try something else. So no the person getting cheated on is never at fault. The cheater should just talk with them and if they don't want to meet their expectations then break up or divorce I don't know. People should stop wasting other people's time. This is like the Ariana Grande situation.. she broke up a family for what? She'll drop the guy in a couple of months anyway. And the guy ruined everything with his wife and kids just to fuck a good looking woman a couple of times. And yeah cheating was involved.

[KostasKouvalis]

"They just want to try something else."
That's kind of what I said originally, and according to the scientists, this is completely normal.

I completely disagree. My dad cheated on my mom on several occasions because he has a high sex drive and she's a prude. Having a high sex drive myself, I honestly understand how he feels. He provides for the family, the least she could do is pleasure him sexually. That's how a traditional marriage is supposed to work. The few times they did do it, she literally just laid there and didn't make a sound. What kind of sex is that?

I don't know anything about the Arianna Grande case, but I think any straight guy would fuck Ariana if given the opportunity😂

[Lisia]

Yeah but if she leaves you and you ruined your own family you'd feel bad for sure. Idc what's considered normal we're an evolved species. If he wanted someone with a high sex drive, he should've dated someone like that in the first place in my opinion

[KostasKouvalis]

If you have a family it's different. But if you're single, why pass up the opportunity when the other two are just as responsible for ruining their relationship. Also, if she's gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat. If not with me, with someone else, so why not sieze the opportunity? I'm more worried about him finding out and beating my ass then about his feelings.
It's not my fault I'm seductive, and I've lost count of how many taken women have come to me for sexual satisfaction. Granted, I've only done stuff online, but that's only one step below actual sex, and I've had a few of these women tell me they've done stuff with me, that they've never done before, so I don't know what I do to make that happened. And if she's not White and married to her own race and cheats with me, it's a bonus.😂 I'll admit that it is a bit of an ego thing for me. Also, some women just love attention from men.

Yes, I agree. I have a hard time believing he didn't know what he was getting into.

The girl I currently like has a really low sex drive, which was the only major deal breaker to an otherwise perfect girl. However, this is the one who told me that she believes in a traditional marriage, where the man supports the family and she returns the favor by having sex with him. So even though she may not be a hornball, she at least understands that men have urges that need to be satisfied. My mom doesn't understand that.

[Lisia]

I know and that's sad for your dad and all. But the cheater in my opinion will always be the one at fault. Not necessarily the cheatee and not the one getting cheated on. Those are just my morals. You keep doing what you love to do!

[KostasKouvalis]

I disagree, but that's okay. I still think all 3 are equally responsible. And if you wanted to cheat on your boyfriend with me right now, I would do it😂

I do think there's a double standard though, because when a man chests on his woman, he's a scumbag. But when a woman cheats on her man, he's also a scumbag. I think when women cheat their actions are more justified and excusable then when a man cheats.

My Indian friend was on a business trip and got lonely and horny. I said something to her. She said she should feel angry but didn't. We ended up swapping pics and she couldn't deny that she got turned on seeing my body. She felt guilty the next morning and eventually told her friend about it and her friend told her, "This is normal for married couples."
The other woman who cheated with me on her husband said, "She would be lying if she said she wasn't curious about other man and penises, and said she would totally fuck me if she weren't married. Another girl said the same thing."
But these women swore an oath that they draw the line at physical sex, but that doesn't change the fact that they would totally do it, if they're morals weren't preventing them. I never realized how many married women cheat until I joined this site, and I truly believe that human beings aren't naturally monogamous. You admitted yourself you have men's asses cute. I think it's impossible to not be at least physically attracted to other girl, and the unwritten rule that, "Your spouse is the most beautiful in the world", is utter BS.. There will always be people who are more beautiful. If a woman told me I'm more beautiful than Brad Pitt, I would not believe her for a second

[Lisia]

I get finding other people attractive but that doesn't mean you should act on it

[KostasKouvalis]

Fair enough

[OfMiceandMen]

The think someone cheating on me is about the worst thing someone could do, especially if I've been nothing but respectful and caring towards them. That's why I've never gone there my entire life, because I know how that would make me feel inside.

[XingQi]

Because our society as a whole is experiencing a moral decay.

70 years ago, western society held strong, cohesive values. Now, it's just decayed with apostasy, pornography, and all sorts of degeneracy being passed off as morally acceptable.

When people let go of moral absolutes for moral subjectivity and relativism, there is only further decay of actual morality. Now, you have people getting oral, throat, cervical, and anal cancer all over from sleeping around.

[Drewtate]

Nobody has any shame anymore. Do something immoral & you can justify it with your feelings or come up with some crazy woke logic that basically rewrites what you did.

[Tim2nice]

People cheat because having the same thing forever is boring and we need new experiences and excitement. We’re not meant to be monogamous. Religion forced this upon us. These days more and more people are in open relationships and marriages and having the best times of their lives

[Lisia]

Why marry if you're gonna fuck around anyway?

[Sasha0426]

@Tim2nice Would it be ok for someone to cheat on you?
@Lisia I ask the same question but no one truly gives an answer.

[Lisia]

@Sasha0426 I guess we'll never get a clear answer

[Sasha0426]

@Lisia Actually, I figured it out. It’s all about power. If the cheater ends the relationship, that means they lose that power. That’s what scares them.

[pass_the_celery98]

Movies and music and tv shows and social media and stupid immature friends (bad company, bad environment) right down to poor morals and ethics or even bad upbringing (ex: parents not doing their job) is pitiful and shameful. I consider cheating like stealing from a company that treats you well, it’s the same thing, its a breach of trust and exposing the person who they really are.

[AmeerX]

Cheating is normalized in movies without the consequences to the children and the other man.

Even in arranged marriage cultures cheating is frowned upon and we are here thinking about Love. Throwing the meaning of love in with lust is so ugly

[monorprise]

Our cultural leaders are toxic playboys who want a world filled with single women at their disposal to pump and dump.

So of course they preach against marriage and in favor of cheating, both policies nessarly help them get into bed with more women.
They sell it as "Female empowerment" but in the end who is doing all the work without any help or security?

[MikeTheBartender]

I would say because we've become a lot more sexualized, be a lot more sexualized part is good, we are having a lot more sex than ever before... well some of us anyway, but the bad part of that is I think people get used to it, it's so much easier to have sex now that when you are with somebody monogamously and not having sex cheating seems like the viable option even though it's wrong.

[AydenHazor]

Having been cheated on, it's not something I would ever do to anyone. How hard is it to end one relationship before beginning another?

[Lisia]

I don't get it either.. and sorry that happened to you!

[RingOfFire]

I think that we get so used to natural behavior that we lose track of reality and can't easily see the answer to questions like these. Men in particular are designed by millions of years of evolution to plant their seeds and go on to the next one. It's about creating the maximum chance for survival of the species. 8 billion people on the planet millions of years after the first humans isn't a coincidence.

[Lisia]

Yeah but I HOPE the human race is more evolved. It was monkey mode back then.

[RingOfFire]

The problem is that nature has been at it for millions of years and these modern ways of thinking have only been around for maybe a few hundred years. It's no match. Nature always wins.

[Lisia]

That's just another way of saying that some people aren't as evolved as other people. Our brain developed to feel emotions and have morals.

[RingOfFire]

I think that some people DELUDE themselves into thinking they are "more evolved" but no one is more powerful than nature.

[Lisia]

Nah I just think people should have morals

[Mynameisbobby]

Yeah I never understood that whole cheating thing either. Cheating is just so selfish the person who cheats is afraid of being alone so they'd rather cheat than break up with the person. It's just so wrong 😔

[Anonymous]

brainwashing of the peasant rabble most likely.
same reason white people are always having sex with negroes on tv shows
and by the way i love laziness being your main reason not to cheat.
idve found a chick with scruples too far fetched

[love_conquers_lust]

We can choose what’s normal, or it can be chosen for us.

Many people in Hollywood are addicted to cheap thrills. The whole woke agenda and diversity are part of it. It sells. Misery loves company.

[love_conquers_lust]

@KostasKouvalis C’mon, boy. I don’t mind you judging but be a man and learn to be judged yourself instead of removing replies and blocking in your thread.

His wife has probably forced him to taste another man’s dick via her lips. He thinks it’s okay to homewreck and that the other spouse is somehow just as much as guilty as he was for his actions. His wife agreed with him and he thinks his wife should be faithful.

Harsh truth on here is boys who block and remove replies aren’t really men and girls should probably disregard most of what they say. Those are groomers. Girls generally get a pass because there are horrible things uttered by guys.

He’s not a shepherd. He’s a wolf leading lambs to slaughter.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Cause influence is power and unfortunately like you said, it's what they spread through entertainment.

[ProbablyClueless]

Somewhere along the lines. people got into their heads that the pursuit of short term immediate happiness was more important than integrity.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because people don’t live in integrity everyday. People lie and cheat and break trust with themselves much less with other people. Sure they feel guilty but no one is perfect.

[Minahh]

Society is changing unfortunately that's fact. On the positive note if you're a good person, you're a good person and if you're a shitty person, you're a shitty person

[Still-alive]

Society changing doesn't have to be a negative.

but perhaps in this one instance its bad.