Does the definition of a fling about how long it lasted or how serious it was while it lasted?

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I ask because I'm still confused by the term. If a relationship is casual for a long time... is it still a fling--or is it a "long term understood arrangement"? I've also seen a fling as something only a few months; like you meet a person on vacation and you hang out/fuck while you're there... then you break up before you leave? Or someone you meet in college--but you live in different states, so you have to end it before you graduate?

Can you tell me what you think it means? TIME vs STATUS of RELATIONSHIP?

Is the term "fling" more about time spent (very short time) OR how serious the situation was? For example... could you still call it a fling if you were together for over a year but never became straight up exclusive or planned on marriage/getting engaged? Most people get married after being together for a few years, so if you're together for that amount of time but aren't even engaged yet or feel like you want it to be really serious--is it a fling? Are you both just scared of commitment? Is this bad? See link here... https://www.harpersbazaar.com.au/culture/average-time-couples-together-before-marriage-13839

roxy_362 · Accepted Answer

That's a good question. I tend to think most people expect both factors to be present to call that kind of relationship a "fling", i. e. it has to be both relatively short and not very serious.

In my view, if things were serious, even if it lasted a week, it can never be a fling. If it was not serious, but lasted long, I don't know what to call it... A habit? Marriage? ;-)

magzz · Accepted Answer

i always saw a fling as casual sex nothing more - not realy talking much or talking about interesting things

I was wit a guy for only 3 months and i called it dating bc we talked every day even though we werent looking for a relaitionship at all bc we were both into each other more than just sex

Mollynotgemma · Accepted Answer

Such a good question... my first thought was that a fling is a short time... but actually a fling can last years also... if it’s something that happens sporadically and it’s something that happens occasionally then it’s a fling!

A fling is something you don’t have to commit too

kevinN88 · Accepted Answer

According to me it’s because of both. Marriage can be done after short duration of relation and even long duration relationships. Important is that how much does both personality know each other within relationship and to fall for marriage.

PrincessGrail · Answer

The definition of a fling includes both.

SketchForger · Answer

I think if you talk about it objectively you don't need to call it anything.

markscott · Answer

It's not a fling if it lasts a period of time, or if it is serious. Typically, the relationship is not taken very seriously by both involved, and :breaking up" is relatively easy, as they ties were not tight.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say both. Flings are usually short and not serious. I've had many flings that only lasted a month and at the beginning i could tell you when and usually how it would end. Basically it was a month of sex.

SarahsSummer · Answer

length of time it lasted. I'd say less than 6 moths is a fling anything longer is a "relationship"

SirRexington · Answer

I always saw a fling as nothing but casual sex and the time frame aspect was less important than the casual sex aspect.

Hurlyburly · Answer

This word doesn't even exist in my language xD but from how I understand it, it has to be both. You aren't "officially" in a relationship and it only lasts for a long time.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

For me a fling is a relationship that was mostly sexual that doesn't last very long.

Lovelygirl420 · Answer

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Does the definition of a fling about how long it lasted or how serious it was while it lasted?

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If a relationship lasts only a few months, for instance four months is it even a relationship or would you call it a fling?

Does the definition of a fling about how long it lasted or how serious it was while it lasted?

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If a relationship lasts only a few months, for instance four months is it even a relationship or would you call it a fling?

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