"He who shuts up; wins." People are often too stupid (at least 90% in my instances) to accept that they are wrong or didn't see the whole picture, and that's when I think it's time to shut up and leave the argument.
I'd rather walk away in an argument cause I say a lot of stupid stuff when arguing. I let my emotions of anger get the best of me when I have always said to myself I'd rather walk away. I grew up watching my parents argue everyday and never wanted to an example of them. I always said to myself I would be careful as to what i say in an argument. My anger takes the best of me causing me to say stupid things most of the time my feelings are hurt.
My husband is the same way. I use to be so hurt when he walked away but in time I realized him learning to walk away was better than saying stupid hurtful things he doesn't mean. And I think it shows maturity to walk away rather stay and hurt your partner.
It means they can't handle conflict so they avoid the situation. Or the other person is being ridiculous so it's better to leave them alone and come back to the issue later when they are less emotional and willing to listen to reason.
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Depends on circumstance. If they're flailing to provide a counter-point to your arguments and just walk away it doesn't look good for your position if you're not defending yourself. Similarly in you're just throwing insults at me instead of being reasonable then I might just opt out because I'm not interested in a name-calling/shouting contest.
I can't stand it when people do this. Especially when they say what they want to but then don't give you the chance to do the same. I get mad when people do that.
It makes me think that you may have argued with them unfairly. There are techniques of argument that can both help you win your point and yet not be a personal attack.
I don't bother arguing with those too dumb to understand or si dogmatic in their views its pointless. Often better to walk away and let tempers calm before renegotiating too.
They either don’t have a point or do have a point but the other person is too stubborn/arrogant to acknowledge it and they chose to go by the “the smarter one gives in rhetoric”
They diffused an argument, can be seen as the bigger person, prefer to avoid conflict, or they genuinely felt strong enough about the topic to avoid it.
I only walk away from arguments when I can't take it anymore, especially when it's with a person dear to my heart, I trust my feelings with them so a loud argument with them would hurt the more it goes on, I'd need time to collect myself again.
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Depends on the argument. If the argument is pointless and not really going anywhere, walking away is the mature thing to do I believe.
Mich better to cool off and return for a "discussion", than to continue an argument. So long as it gets resolved calmly and timely.
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It makes a lot of sense when someone is pushing your buttons and not actually arguing with any constructive point - walk away before they push you into saying or doing something you'll regret later.
for me this was personally about my father, but i know a lot of people that can't get their point across in a conversation so it turns to yelling and then an argument of nonsense.
Well you can’t change your father but you can change your girl. Or you can walk away from the whole situation. Just cuz my dad old and does something not nice doesn’t mean I won’t walk away fro it.
Way too many variables. Sometimes the person walking away can't handle the truth, and sometimes the person walking away needs to get away from someone being completely unreasonable.
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"He who shuts up; wins." People are often too stupid (at least 90% in my instances) to accept that they are wrong or didn't see the whole picture, and that's when I think it's time to shut up and leave the argument.
I'd rather walk away in an argument cause I say a lot of stupid stuff when arguing. I let my emotions of anger get the best of me when I have always said to myself I'd rather walk away. I grew up watching my parents argue everyday and never wanted to an example of them. I always said to myself I would be careful as to what i say in an argument. My anger takes the best of me causing me to say stupid things most of the time my feelings are hurt.
My husband is the same way. I use to be so hurt when he walked away but in time I realized him learning to walk away was better than saying stupid hurtful things he doesn't mean. And I think it shows maturity to walk away rather stay and hurt your partner.
It means they can't handle conflict so they avoid the situation. Or the other person is being ridiculous so it's better to leave them alone and come back to the issue later when they are less emotional and willing to listen to reason.
Depends on circumstance. If they're flailing to provide a counter-point to your arguments and just walk away it doesn't look good for your position if you're not defending yourself. Similarly in you're just throwing insults at me instead of being reasonable then I might just opt out because I'm not interested in a name-calling/shouting contest.
I can't stand it when people do this. Especially when they say what they want to but then don't give you the chance to do the same. I get mad when people do that.
It makes me think that you may have argued with them unfairly. There are techniques of argument that can both help you win your point and yet not be a personal attack.
I don't bother arguing with those too dumb to understand or si dogmatic in their views its pointless. Often better to walk away and let tempers calm before renegotiating too.
They either don’t have a point or do have a point but the other person is too stubborn/arrogant to acknowledge it and they chose to go by the “the smarter one gives in rhetoric”
They diffused an argument, can be seen as the bigger person, prefer to avoid conflict, or they genuinely felt strong enough about the topic to avoid it.
Like, I know I walk away because sometimes something in me snaps over the smallest thing. And if I don't walk away things could go south fast
Argument? I always walk away. We need to be listening to each other. Arguments are just heated emotional rantings.
I only walk away from arguments when I can't take it anymore, especially when it's with a person dear to my heart, I trust my feelings with them so a loud argument with them would hurt the more it goes on, I'd need time to collect myself again.
Depends on the argument. If the argument is pointless and not really going anywhere, walking away is the mature thing to do I believe.
I walk way when I can’t think straight anymore. I don’t want to say anything I can’t take back. I’m fine when someone does the same with me.
Mich better to cool off and return for a "discussion", than to continue an argument. So long as it gets resolved calmly and timely.
It makes a lot of sense when someone is pushing your buttons and not actually arguing with any constructive point - walk away before they push you into saying or doing something you'll regret later.
Don’t u date! I’d just move on. I don’t want date someone who isn’t honest n won’t have a difficult conversation... like u!!
for me this was personally about my father, but i know a lot of people that can't get their point across in a conversation so it turns to yelling and then an argument of nonsense.
Well you can’t change your father but you can change your girl. Or you can walk away from the whole situation. Just cuz my dad old and does something not nice doesn’t mean I won’t walk away fro it.
that's kind of the problem. he's the one that walks away.
Way too many variables. Sometimes the person walking away can't handle the truth, and sometimes the person walking away needs to get away from someone being completely unreasonable.
It makes me so angry, I'll be shouting at them to get right back over so we can finish. Of course they dont and I get even more angry. Very rude to do
They just don't have it in them to deal with it at the moment... no big deal.