How come women never apologize?

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no specific story, just in general...so many stories are out there how men have to eat crow, it doesn't matter whether or not he may be at fault. but even if a woman was at fault, women seldom apologize.

at Hallmark stores, there are plenty of greeting cards for when a guy needs to say sorry to a woman, but there are no sections for "women apologize to men" cards.

where does this self righteous self centered entitlement come from?

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

I think it is about power and women care about power more than men do because they have a lack of it in our society. Lower salaries, smaller physical stature, chivalry (protecting the weak) and other factors give women the short end of the stick.

Studies show that men have the majority of the power in relationships up until the later years.

Men just want to repair things, fix it, make it better and are focused on how to achieve that goal. After a fight, kissing @ss in its various forms is a proven method.

Women don't always want a solution or to have things "fixed". There are some basic differences in the ways that men and women communicate.

(If and when) men talk to other men about problems, it is common practice for them to come up with a solution. When women talk to each other about a problem, many times it is not the solution, but the SUPPORT the troubled female receives from her compatriots that is important. It is sufficient for her friends to say things like, "damn, girlfriend, you're man is such a JERK." or "You so amazing, girl, you don't need that drama."

Very rarely do female friends offer constructive criticism in times of trouble. This support may lead to an affirmation of the female in conflict that she is in the right and should expect an apology from the male.

Conversely, males attempt to suss out underlying issues, like figuring out why the radio shorts out every time the heater is on in their 78' Chevy Impala. This often leads to men thinking about what THEY can do to improve the situation, what blame they take in the conflict that arose.

These things said, I would like to add the disclaimer that not all women and men are alike and blah blah blah this doesn't apply to everyone blah blah blah please don't flame me with your wrath, &c. :D

TwistedLogic · Accepted Answer

My girlfriend apologizes and she is not ashamed of it. My sister, however, would never apologize what-so-ever, and that used to p*ss me off a lot. So I gave it some thinking and I came to a conclusion that probably she doesn't think about what she's done AT ALL. I mean she only remembers that she is mad at me and that I did something wrong, and she would never question this feeling, she would never think "maybe I went wrong a little?" NEVER.

Another reason came to my mind, which is: Maybe, due to the fact that most women are a little insecure, she thinks of an apology as a sign of weakness. I look at relationships around me and all I see is opponents (or even enemies) living together, I don't know why they call themselves "partners". They are always competing, who is right and who is wrong? He should apologize and she should apologize, He must talk to me first and she must talk first, I am giving more to this relationship than he/she is, etc...

Therefore, my friend, I don't know if we could blame women here. I don't think this mentality of placing blame on a certain gender (or any other part of the society) is going to result any positive solutions. These accusations only push people apart and complicate the relationships with the opposite sex very much. I am not saying that what you said is not true at all, I am just saying that complaining is probably not going to make a remarkable difference.

Just an opinion I liked to share, stay safe :D

selfishstars · Accepted Answer

I think its difficult for a lot of people to apologize, because it means admitting that you did something wrong.

Personally, I have no problem apologizing. If I've made a mistake, if I've hurt someone, if I've said something or acted in a way that I shouldn't have... then I apologize.

As for your Hallmark example, I would suggest it might have something to do with either some men having a difficult time putting an apology into words; or some women expecting more than just a verbal apology---a romantic gesture, like flowers and a card, for example (not that I'm saying that its good that some women expect that, but there are some that do and Hallmark wants to capitalize on it).

Gianni · Accepted Answer

a real woman apologises for the mistakes that she's made and she does that as soon as she recognises her fault. self centeredness is the sign of an immature female regardless of her age, she's selfish and clearly doesn't know how to operate in the relationship dynamic. stereotypes don't make it any easier on the man because men are projected as  this thoughtless, unfeeling character and even if they were right they have to apologize because of the insensitive way they went about handling the situation. My suggestion to you is to find a woman that can apologize and not a girl who can't live past stereotypes

acka72 · Accepted Answer

I apologized to my boyfriend the other day cause I bitched at him for not answering his phone when I was calling him the other day.  Apparently in his rule book it was OK for him not to answer because he was at a family event and I was at a golf tournament.  He was ridiculized for not having girlfriend present at the family event.  However, he did not make it clear to me that I had to be at that event with him and that it was very important for him.  He did not accept the apology for not being at the event though.  So its a myth.  Girls apologize.

WeaponZero · Answer

In my experience women almost always apologize--eventually. However it may not be for a good long while until after the fact.

At work, my boss keeps track of everything you did wrong and puts it on a little list. And she doesn't address any of it with you until the list has grown to like half a page long, even if it includes sh*t from months ago. In my experience, most women work this way. They let everything that bugs them build up until they have a list of things a mile long they need to have it out with you about, and it isn't until after that's sunk in for a bit that they apologize. There are exceptions however.

Jtmatt · Answer

You have a point and you are on to something. I learn to never apologize either. There is no women worth apologizing for. If a woman thinks I did something wrong, I won't apologize...even if I did something wrong, I do it on purpose and I still won't apologize. And if a woman leaves, she shouldn't been sleeping with me in the first place. That is her bad lol.

flowergirl93 · Answer

I'm not afraid to sacrifice my pride if it means remedy-ing a problem. usually you gain some trust and respect in return.

I don't believe this problem runs just in females. I think it's a matter of maturity, because I know several males who are just too stubborn and afraid of damaging their ego by apologizing.

aguerrero · Answer

Um what wierdos are you apologizing to? I apologize to my boyfriend well he usually makes me since I'm seldomly never wrong lol. No seriously if I'm in the wrong I'll own up to it as should he. And the whole card thing is  because guys are stupid enough to buy them. I don't want a freaking card, just tell me it's a waste of a tree.

Boogaloo · Answer

I have asked this very question before more from the perspective of why are guys always the ones who HAVE to apologise? I.e. why are they always the ones who fcuk things up?

And it's very simple - because the women don't usually screw things up like the guys do. Not nearly as often anyway. Apologising usually means saying how you feel about something or someone and we all know how bad at that men are at expressing their feelings

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

Cause, like men, they're stubborn. Very few humans in general are mature enough to admit they were wrong or apologize for it. It's sad ;\

aelrah · Answer

i am sorry, on behalf of every girl who has ever wronged you without apologizing. I'm sorry for anything that's been done to you or that you wish had been done to you. ;) I'm also sorry that in your experience, girls are so pathetic. it's not universal.

kristieD · Answer

Not a true statement. I once apologized to my boyfriend 108 times for the same mistake. It was a big mistake but still even with little things I will own up to it (usually lol unless I'm just messing around with him)

destroyer · Answer

They usually always try to frame it that EVERYTHING is the guy's fault

Anonymous · Answer

are you kidding? from my experience, guys are the ones who can't apologize cause of their pride

Anonymous · Answer

“My opinions may have changed, but not the fact that I'm right.” <-Females mentality. :d.

bioweapon154 · Answer

I find they apologize later on if anything. Never the way I want them to apologize. Who knows, maybe I am a jerk.

LuvBiddy · Answer

Often I do want to apologize, but I believe in certain situations that even if I did apologize, the person wouldn't accept it or wouldn't think sorry is enough.

irykiryk · Answer

It's one of those mysteries nobody knows. Up there with Atlantis and the Yeti. Good luck finding out.

morngunt · Answer

Usually I am the one apologizing my boyfriend hardly ever says it because of his pride..

Anonymous · Answer

Because the majority of guys have become "sorry" guys where if anything happens they will apologize so as not to upset the woman.

Rated_R · Answer

Never say sorry erase that from your vocabulary.

Anonymous · Answer

not us but mostly guy's... i am apologizing with my man...even if he's mistake then how can you ask that question?

Anonymous · Answer

if you love her, it must be because she's nice and amazing, and worth it, we were put on this earth to be taken care of, and sadly we are made so be overdramatic and stubborn.

Tphilly187 · Answer

there always right lol

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