What are your thoughts on "love bombing"?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

For most psychologist and experts is an abusive tactic used by cults and narcisistic partners to win over people.
For others is a good way to improve a loved one or child's confidence and deepen the relationship.
What are your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I love bomb my girl all the time. We've been together for over a year and a half. The difference is that we were both careful with each other at first.

Its harmful if it starts that way and then leads to devaluation. Love bombing is usually a manipulation tactic to get the other person hooked before you start breaking them down.

[Kakella]

I think it all depends on whenever there's a malicious intent or not.

[GraveDoll]

Have never viewed it as positive activity. I had quite a few males do this and I always look at them to let them know they are trying wayyyyy to hard and I'm not falling for it. Find another victim. I already fell for it once and it cost me dearly and my sanity.

[Wowgirl30q]

Works great for cults and brain washing...

[Wowgirl30q]

Works on exboyfriends

[Wowgirl30q]

@Jean-Marie_Céline thank you

[StingRayxoxo]

I'm not sure I understand what love bombing is. It doesn't sound positive though.

[spartan55]

@StingRayxoxo
Think early in a relationship, and a guy starts with the "I love you's" early and often. That's basically it.

[StingRayxoxo]

@spartan55 Ah, okay. A few other commenters mentioned that the person would say they didn't want to be with you and then later "love bomb" like a form of manipulation.
Thanks for clarifying!

[spartan55]

Love bombing is also commonly used to hook abuse victims.

[Wowgirl30q]

@StingRayxoxo

It's not good but fool proof
Works Everytime

[VIVANT]

Hmm I’m uncomfortable that this is considered a phase concerning new things.. how long can “ new” even be Determined.

Do they think any strong feelings that develop quickly are necessarily just novelty feelings?

People feel love automatically for new children new pets new friends. These can last a life time.

I think I have felt immediate connections with certain people or animals or activities.. but the feeling did not wane. It just grew in sophistication as I became better acquainted/ skilled.

I’m sure sons people just like new stuff but I don’t think that is the only reason something that happens to be new may he important to a person.

Also if a person reacts intensely emotionally, that’s not a choice.

I think what is volitional action and what is default setting, is getting conflated here.

I think people react and show feelings differently. And whether something is good or bad legit or fake, really quite often isn’t clear to anyone- including the actor- until time goes by.

I’d check it out bc live is like that. You have to stick around with a bit of faith , to find out.

[VIVANT]

I think the example above does not convey the offering and retraction of affection that many people are responding to.

Does love bombing involve affection than pull back?

Bc the clip only represents the showering of affection, which I don’t see a problem with on its own 😊

[AtramentalIvory]

Love bombing can be extremely detrimental to children by making them very easy for a predator to manipulate, but also in relationships it can be a sign of a future abuser. It often transitions from praise and relentless love to critiques and criticism in which the victim feels they have done something wrong and must further do what the manipulator is pressuring them to. Love bombing hurts people of all genders and all ages in romantic and even family relationships. It is never the victim's fault that they have been taken advantage of.

[Anonymous]

I had a boyfriend who did that. He'd tell me he didn't feel like seeing me then lovebomb me in text instead when I got upset because he literally always said that he didn't feel like seeing me. Then if I made him see me he said "I guess I have to" but as soon as we met up he started hugging me and talking about how much he'd missed me and how much he loves me and how we need to see each other more often etc. etc. Always love bombing me but rarely putting in any actual effort. I was too in love to want to see it. When I tried breaking up with him eventually when he'd cheated he threatened with suicide and he'd talked about being suicidal before so of course it was very convincing.
Unfortunately it has caused me to highly doubt any guy who says sweet things to me now because I automatically believe he is lovebombing and trying to abuse me. It has left scars in me so I definietely do not see it as a positive thing.

[Kaazsz]

I’m confused. What exactly is love bombing? Only been in love once and I had married her. Not sure what this is but it sounds interesting!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_bombing

[Kaazsz]

Strangely I still don’t get it lol. Guess I’m kinda retarded.

[Agape93]

Typical cult indoctrination method. Jehovah’s witnesses do this to prospecting members but are quick to cut all ties if your disfellowshipped or leave.

[Anonymous]

I think the goverment and news media used these same exact tactics to glorify and try to justify sick things like LGBT and got you all brainwashed.

[Pink2000]

I do that to my boyfriend and I’m not abusive or narcissistic

[bloodys2]

So you actually got back?
Hope things are working out

[SexyAshh]

That was a quick break😉

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I know but I absolutely had to ask this question, it was too juicy to pass on!
I won't be very present though.

[ChiTown33]

I don't get the question.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_bombing

[BeMuse]

It’s hollow and always sets off my bullshit alarm.

[Massageman]

Ah, fake news. Got it. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

You mean what your girlfriend does to you?