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Should guys be HONEST when their girlfriend/wife asks him if she's getting FATTER?
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yeah they should because it shouldn't be a taboo topic and like the end of the world. It sucks that women have to get so offended and feel so horrible about something so simple that happens to basically everyone and is relatively easy to deal with in the early stages. I think a lot of horrible emotions around body weight is part of what is causing so many people to become overweight to the point where it negatively affects them. I personally don't care if people want to be fat, but a lot of people just want to be a normal or average weight and that's ok too. It's not all or nothing and people who don't want to be fat shouldn't feel like they have to be extremely skinny either. Also, I think the idea of women asking men to tell them if they are gaining weight or not is pretty weird. Like she can just weight or measure herself or see how her own clothes fit. I think women asking guys that is more to get approval and validation from men which is also emotionally unhealthy. Like if you weighed yourself and you haven't gained weight then why are you asking him? And if your clothes are tight and you did gain weight, then you should say something like "my clothes are getting tighter, do you think i look better at this weight or do you think i look better at a lower weight?" and they shouldn't have to feel bad about it. The whole situation and trope is just really sad and weird. End of rant.
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This is the hardest question a man can face.
If she asks, she wants you to be honest but I know she’ll hate the truth!
You can not win! You say no darling your lovely... then she’ll say.. don’t say that to please me... I have put on a stone!
So then he says.. yes you have put on a bit of weight but it doesn’t matter.
She will then cry and state she’s ugly etc!
If someone asks a question about their looks they want the truth but are secretly hoping that they are imagining it!
The truth hurts!
I don’t understand why a women would ask if they have put on weight when it would be obvious!
It’s never about the weight it’s about asking a question thinking you want the truth yet hearing it makes you realise that you didn’t want the truth.. but when they lied you hate that too!
It’s a good way to start a fight!
You should try being honest once, just to get it out of your system, and then you'll find out why you should lie your fucking ass off in real life.
I mean it, man. Fucking invent new ways to lie to your girl.
Because if you don't, she'll find her a real man who can.
- 495 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Yes. If she's asking questions and wanting anything other than an honest answer, then your relationship has problems. Your goal in this scenario is to set her on the right path, not to lie to her face. Lying and healthy relationship don't go together.
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I know as a woman it might not go over well but if the wife's weight is getting to the point where it is unhealthy I think the husband should say something. We tell our partners when they are doing other things that are unhealthy why should weight be any different. If we are married to a person who is living an unhealthy lifestyle whether it be eating too much, moving too little, smoking or over using alcohol or something else it will ultimately affect both partners because eventually either the healthier person will become the care taker or if the healthy person gets sick the other person won't be in a position to care for them.
the goal is to finish the and to the race together as much as possible. And it doesn't have to be said in a way to embarrass the wife. Just make it we are in it together eating well etc. Just because a person is slim doesn't necessarily mean they are healthy either. -
Oof, loaded question. I would not tell her the truth right before you are about to go out somewhere. That will just ruin her self confidence at the moment. If she asks casually while you aren't really planning on going anywhere I would tell her but you would have to be really strategic with how you say it.
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If you say yes:
She’ll become insecure and start to not be attracted to you (why is he still with me if im fat? He must not be able to attract anyone else)
If you say no:
He’s either blind or he really is attracted to my “curves” < yea right, curves
You’re better off lying and feigning fat blindedness let her friends and family harp on her whaledom. -
Yes he should be. As a plus size girl who has lost a lot of weight and is still losing he should be honest. I hate being told I look fat, but I hate being lied to more. If he loves me enough not to let me go out in public looking like a stupid jackass he’ll tell me
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Now that is a loaded question. Telling her she's getting fat is going to hurt her ego, but then lying and saying no she's not while making her feel that you love her no matter what is nice to know. My opinion is to tell her she looks beautiful no matter what.
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I say yes. If she doesn’t want to hear the truth then she shouldn’t ask. I prefer the truth over a lie.
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Go to your nearest bomb shelter and tell her the truth over phone.
It was good to know you, sir. - 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
When she asks, it will be too late.
Because:
1 - she will already have missed the point of asking by several pounds (which is female nature)
2 - she will already have heard my comments several pounds earlier (which is MY nature)
Sure: some borderline (and also post-borderline) equalitarians will not like to hear that.
Downvote me, then.
Personally, I don't want to … SEE … … both of that. -
I would be surprised that someone can't keep track of their own weight gain, but had to ask - you should be able to notice this yourself. If the scale shows a gain or clothes are getting tighter, then you're getting fatter. Of course you will then also look fatter. I wouldn't even need to ask, but if I did then yes he can be honest. I would most likely already know the answer anyway.
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Honestly is your best option. But be careful how you word it.
This typically can be a double edged sword. Where you think you said something nice. But all she heard was “yes you are getting fat”. - 346 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Absolutely not. When they say, "Tell me the truth, do I look fat?" They don't mean for you to tell them ther truth. If she too fat, divorse her because you can do better than a fat women. Your wedding vows were "for better or worse,;" you didn't promise "through thick or thin."
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Truth but be nice about it
"You are big as a cow"
"You may have grown a little"
May both be true but one is nicer then the other (if you think the first... I wish you best of luck) - 390 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Yes... 100%. If I want to be a man worthy of respect I need to respect her enough to be honest. I know how to be tactful about it or avoid being unkind in saying she's putting on weight, it doesn't have to be a nasty thing.
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Unless you want to die honesty will put you in the grave.
Its a no win situation for the guy.
Sadly women dont listen to the honesty. They think your lying or think you are in love with someone else. -
Thing is my partner has always wanted me to be 100% honest but she wanted it in that way that I imagine a lot of women mean as "Be honest about only the stuff that I care about"... except I am still 100% honest all of the time.
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Saying yes or no she’s gonna be mad at you.
Saying yes, she’ll be mad at you
Saying no, she’ll think you are lying -
He she cannot handle the truth forget about her... what kind of relationship you build with someone you have to lie too?
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Now, He should be honest, but not to tell Her directly. (It's a thing that honestly should'nt be addressed) He should tell Her in a Complimentary way! (Not exactly dodging the question)
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If she can’t handle the truth she shouldn’t be asking.
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Whenever a girl ask me it's either you're not fat at all or your chubby or yea your fat. But I usually tell them I can help them lose fat. Besides everyone that knows me personally knows I'm brutally honest and dont give a shit
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