Kid before marriage?

[Anonymous]

If a guy you're dating would want you to carry his kid, would you do it even if you're not married? What do you think about this conversation? He says he is willing to support the kid. He said he will marry me once I needed to move with him to Canada. I'm living in the Philippines. I can't live with him if we're not married. Also, when he called me, the area code was +44 which is UK. While he said he's in Canada. He's been voice and video calling me. Sometimes he wants to see me naked and doing stuff. All our conversation revolves around sex. Guys, help me figure this one out.

[abc3643]

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[Asker]

care to explain? haha

[abc3643]

Don't have kids out of marriage!

To understand why I say this, all you have to do is watch this website for a year. You will see dozens, if not hundreds, of questions from women who complain having fucked-up their lives by having kids before being married.

Marriage serves a purpose in society because it forces people to put their money where their mouth is. And, because of that public commitment, society is willing to commit to you - to treat you more like an adult that just some dating teenager - and thus, with marriage, there come lots of benefits... the #1 benefit for a woman being stability: that her husband, as father of her kids, can't just casually break-up and sire babies with the next baby-mamma. Society is going to force him to be a dad and not just a teen-boy in a man's body squirting all over God's creation willy-nilly.

Dating = teen behavior
Marriage = adult behavior

[Alex89527]

I would want to get to know this person more beyond just talking about sex before even talking about having kids because that’s a huge commitment. But that’s just me.

[R_Cakes91]

Sounds like he’s catfishing you. He’s trying to convince you to do things you’re uncomfortable with which is a huge no no. Just block him and move on.

[Mimi93]

Not worth risking! You should get to know someone face to face if you are going to do such a big step :)

[Just_a_human]

It kind of sounds like you barely know him

[saeyamazaki]

Personally, I wouldn't

[Jmmmfi4]

Yeah very bad idea