Would you break up with your partner if you found out they lied about their age?

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robske · Accepted Answer

It really comes down to it

I'm a psychologist when it comes to relationships, i want to figure out the why's behind everything.

I would first look at the difference in age, if its a year or two off, its whatever to me, but lets say she turns out to be 5 or 6 years older than she first said i would have doubts

Now in both cases i would want to know why she lied about it, what made her feel like she couldnt be up front with me in the first place
I would seriously doubt how well that relationship would go seeing she already lied about such a irellevant point

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

If they lie about the things that I can test and verify or discredit, how can I trust them on the things where I must simply accept their word as the truth?

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

I'd demand a valid explanation when I find out. If he can't offer even that, it'd be safe to believe he was a liar.

SydneySentinel · Accepted Answer

Not sure... seems like a lame thing to lie about. I'm not sure I'd be able to trust anything else afterwards.

sejla · Answer

No probably not but I'd want some explanation why he lied. I know some people look younger than their age when they are old and if they put their real age on the dating app they might get passed over even if they are healthier than people younger than them.

shimmeryns · Answer

That picture is funny!! Most likely yes. I can't live my life constantly wonder if he is lying.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I met a few ladies who 'subtracted' a couple of years from their actual age when we met first.
I see it more as 'tactics' than being a lie.
But 'the moment of truth' should be early - for fairness.
There had been one girl who 'forgot' 5 years of her past and she -emm- did not make it. But for other reasons than 'telling a lie': she lacked these 5 years of individual evolution and so was too distant to mine.

DizzyDesii · Answer

When i was 15 my ex told me his was 15 14 16 18. I was so dang confused. I didn't break up with him. I just did my research and found out we were same age. So i dont believe anyones age initially. If it turns out theyre more than the age range i go for, id prob leave

markscott · Answer

I don't take very well to be lied to. Honestly is important. I understand that sometimes someone is put under a lot of pressure, and may lie. It's human nature, though not the best part of human nature. However, there is no "great pressure" pushing someone to lie about their age. That is a deliberate, calculated, deceptive act.

Anonymous · Answer

It would probably depend on why, and if they had a habit of lying about other things as well. I wouldn't appreciate it, but I would give them a chance to at least explain why they thought it was necessary.

Anonymous · Answer

Something that's pointless to lie about. I'm an overly cautious person. With an overly cautious family. I'm going run a background check on you for my own safety. I'd I don't I know my family will.
So gonna find out regardless no pointing lying. But I definitely wouldn't speak to a person who does.

Also - lol at the picture. That actually happens a lot on dating sites. Which is why I steer clear of them.

Charlie_King · Answer

The man in the picture is at LEAST 23! What a liar!

humanearth · Answer

You think after 25 years of marriage and she lied about her age. I guess I just have to keep her than.

mattdzz · Answer

I guess it depends on how they lied about their age and why. For instance, a lot of people have inaccurate ages on dating apps, girls usually a little older than their actual age, guys a little younger. As long as she was legal I'd be fine, just would like an explanation.

WinterAurelia · Answer

If it was more than a year, then I'd want a valid explanation like, I could be drafted for war (I know, not likely), and not something like, "I knew you wouldn't love me.". No Carl, not since you lied to me *EXAMPLE* well that's my two cents, someone come disagree with me

AndrewHeavey · Answer

Depends in the age range, anything above 6 years my age age or you know... it being illegal is kinda out of bounds. Ah who am I kidding if she’s younger I’m all ears.

Dali-chan · Answer

Yes. But I don’t understand why the heck peoples lie about their age when dating someone. Especially that today with our current technology anyone can know about you

jthillman · Answer

Age is irreverent. The lie is not. If it's so easy to lie about something so minor, how easy will it be for her lie about other things?

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Yes! What if she were a minor in a hurry to grow up? Why would I want such a burden on my shoulders?

Lyndaloo45 · Answer

You should never start a new relationship with a lie. You won't be able to trust them with anything else

alc24 · Answer

Yeah, because if they lied about something so small and simple; who knows what else they lied about.

Sicko_Modeo · Answer

Yes, I don’t want a guy whose older than me by 2 years, nor younger than me by 2 years.

Daisy007 · Answer

Hmm I'm sure honestly. If they lied by a HUGE years gap thennn yeah

Annie12234 · Answer

Yeah. I would break up if they lied about their age! 💯

Secret6620 · Answer

Only if his age was illegal and I could go to jail.  🌸💜🌸

keepitr3al · Answer

Yup I would because if someone's gonna lie about something like that. Then what else could they be willing to lie about. there's no room for lies in a relationship.

Avicenna · Answer

Probably not, but it would be one of the stupidest lies imaginable since I date a person not an age and am open to dating women withon a wide range of ages.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

If the foundation of the relationship was a lie, how do you expect it to build up?

ChiTown33 · Answer

Not sure. I mean it's such a silly thing to lie about. But that's the point if she's willing to lie about something so silly it might means she lies constantly. And you can't be with someone you can't trust.

Davis04 · Answer

Definitely!! I mean that’s one small lie... imagine what else they’ll be able to lie about😒

MecheD · Answer

Depends on the age of them first off... but If they were mature to make you feel some way to make up for the difference mentally.

Kayla45 · Answer

If he lied about it the first time, how do I know he won't lie about something else? No, no... Too many red flags.

Anonymous · Answer

I have an aunt who lied to her now husband about her age. He told her a lie too, so I guess it balanced out with them. They seem happy.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I learned from R. Kelley back in '94. Too bad he didn't..

Aethereal · Answer

Yes. Not because of the age, but because of the dishonesty.

R_ūshī · Answer

I've had a major change of attitude so I probably wouldn't.

R_Cakes91 · Answer

If he’s lied about his age, he’s probably lied about other things.

Philyouup · Answer

Depends. If it were two kids and the one was self conscience about their age, I will call it youthful indiscretion  As adults, their is no excuse not to tell the truth.

Dav1ss · Answer

It depends why he lied etc but it might be hard to trust someone who lied to you like that

Anonymous · Answer

Depends I never lied about my age they never asked until the next day. I probably wouldn’t.

DeviloftheValleys · Answer

definitely. At my age, exact age is important for legal reasons.

KristenKT · Answer

No I wouldn't. I don't look at that at all. That said I'm sure my parents would mind haha :P

Hamsteroids · Answer

If it’s by a few years, nah

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

Yes because dishonesty is vile and shows a lack of respect.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

depends if they're like 4-6 years older or younger than they really are

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Im pretty sure lots of girls have lied about their age to me at first...

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah. I don’t abide liars

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I dated a girl who turned out to 15 for a year. She said she was 20 and at college. It was hard.

Ultrainstinctman · Answer

If she willing to lie about her age what's to stop her from lying about everything else  So yes break up

damaster · Answer

It depends on her current age but other than that yes

seantaylor · Answer

A relationship should be equal the same way any partnership should be.

Blain20 · Answer

It depends on the reason why, but that's generally a major red flag.

JadeOFluorite99 · Answer

Yes. I don't tolerate dishonesty.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess it would depend on the age they actually were and there reason for lying about there age.

Mollynotgemma · Answer

To lie about something like that just says it all

Ace318 · Answer

I would want to ask why they lied.

Liadon · Answer

Depends on the gap between the provided ages.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

It wouldn't be a big deal

hansukota · Answer

No, but would definitely be a big fight

Tomriss · Answer

Trust is number one thing for me.

JKingOff · Answer

Maybe he was born on leap year?

oofypoofy · Answer

As long as he is just 1 - 2 years older

Unsure_A · Answer

Well, I’m a minor. I certainly would

hicks56 · Answer

Depends. On true age.

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