Please don’t be one of those women who overlook odd male behavior for the sake of “love”. It’s extremely weird that he hugged her from behind AND doesn’t know why he did it. Your little sister told her parents and not YOU because she was more comfortable going to them about an uncomfortable situation.
If it’s the first time I’d just tell him he’s not allowed to be alone with her anymore. If he fights it, something is up. If he agrees and goes with it, he’s level headed. If your child is a girl, I’d keep a close eye on how he interacts with her. Especially when he thinks he’s alone.
Absolutely don’t “sweep it under the rug” and ignore it. That’s how sexual abuse starts. The kids come first. Keep an eye on him.
This is what I would do ☝️
Remember. He could have said “I hugged her because I care about her. I wasn’t thinking. I’m sorry.” But he said “I don’t know.”
That’s the worst answer possible. It’s either a lie or stupidity.
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Yikes, at the very least your boyfriend showed extremely poor judgement. It would be one thing if he was consoling if she was crying or something like that. This just sounds like an unsolicited hug that is completely out of bounds. I wouldn't accept his 'I don't know why I did it' crap. (wtf kind of answer is that?)
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I find him doing that disturbing regardless of his intentions. Or even if he had none it's not acceptable to touch someone yet alone hug someone without their consent / situation be fitting for it. ESPECIALLY if that person is a young child. If possible don't let him be near your sister, some people can't help themselves to give into their impulses and in some cases temptations.
I'd be on high alert babe, this seems very sketchy. Make sure your little sister feels comfortable speaking to you or your parents about this don't unconsciously dismiss what she says. This seems like a shit situation to be in for you and her and even him💛💛
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First off, that's not sexual harassment. Sexual harassment would be touching her breast or vulva. It's sounds like just a hug, might've been awkward, but it's just a hug. Teach your sister that it's sexual harassment, she'll feel weird whenever any guy touches her. Touching is normal and is healthy for human beings. Your boyfriend probably just wanted to show his affection towards her and now probably feels weird and wrong about it because of what people might be saying or thinking. Don't overthink. Educate and communicate.
I am sure it is nothing, but make it very clear that it will not happen again and keep a close eye on him. Make sure that your sister tells you if anything does happen. What was she wearing when he did that? Was it something that showed more skin or shape?
Why are you even made him, for showing your little sister some affection. It sounds like Jelious to me
Let's be clear here, hugging is not sexual harassment. But a 23 yr old man should not be hugging an 11 yr old girl from behind, that's what the problem is here.
Since your parents are now hostile against him, just keep him away from your sister and family. As you learn more about him, you'll be able to better judge his character and whether or not you can trust him.
But if you choose to stay with him, you'll need time for it to blow over and see him for who he really is.Its a hug. get over it. did he whisper in her eye or brush her hair out of her face touched her chest or try to kiss her? if not let it go. did your parents say anything? your just going to make him pissed off for blowing it up more then it is or scared that if he talks or hugs someone that your thinking he wants them. if your that type of person then he needs to suck it up and leave you then.
I would be concerned that it was in a small room like that behind closed doors. What were they both doing in there anyway? I'm sorry, but that raises my suspicions. And especially the fact that it was from behind.
Wtf are you on about? He hugged your little sister because he cares about her too. There’s nothing wrongvwith hugging a little girl? Or is your dad hugging her 11 year old daughter inappropriate too.
I dont put nothing past anybody. I say keep an eye on that. It's the things we least worry about that be going on right under your nose. And let's not sit here and act like this is not common. Check that shit now before you regret it later.
does your boyfriend have a little sibling like you... maybe he got reminded of his own brother abd sister or he felt your sister cute in a way like how we all find chubby little babies cute...
i wouldn't care if i were youSounds very innocent to me.
I don't hug girls ever because people get the wrong idea no matter how innocent it would be. . If they hug me its fine but only side on. Your parents overreacted.While you're making love to your girlfriend, bring up the subject, she'll tell you your true feelings...
Maybe he just feels that she's like family?
The poor guy was only trying to be nice 😆
could be a brotherly hug
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