Guys, My boyfriend is really hurt over something I said?

[Anonymous]

It all started when i told him “everything i say i mean it” and he told me “So i’m the smallest you have seen” (He was talking about his penis size) and i was clearing up that i never said that so he said “But u never said i was the biggest either” and i started avoiding the question and telling him how i only care about him and he’s the one who makes me feel all these stuff when we’re in bed and blah blah (I was a virgin before i was with him) which made him be more curious about it and i ended up telling him that he wasn’t (BIG MISTAKE, i know it) after that he told me to leave him alone and i kept on being stubborn and not understanding why was he so mad. He called me really mad that he started crying and told me he was about to break up with me and explaining why it hurt him so much that i finally understood and i felt super guilty. I just wish i lied to him about it because when i told him that i really didn’t see it as a big deal since my mentality was just telling me that i never cared about the other guys sizes because i think my boyfriends size is perfect and i tried to explain that to him. I just don’t know what to do and i feel really guilty knowing my boyfriend is having a bad time because of me.

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He also said what got him more pissed off is the fact i kept rubbing it on his face...

[Unit1]

Blues - Downvote me for this but whatever...

'he said “But u never said i was the biggest either”'
'I just wish i lied to him about it because when i told him that i really didn’t see it as a big deal since my mentality was just telling me that i never cared about the other guys sizes because i think my boyfriends size is perfect and i tried to explain that to him.'

What is he? a weakling or a loser? Or both?
Seriously, I recommend finding someone more stable/serious than him. Penis or the size of it is not everything in a relationship. 😒😒😒🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
This is really not a big deal. There are many more important factors than penis size in a relationship. Of all the things a relationship could be valued for (affections, time spent together, memories shared, struggles shared, problems solved, adventures involving both, common interests, goal similarities, personality matches, intersecting preferences) it is their penis size.
In the end, guys like him will ruin perfectly normal relationships with their obsession over penis size the same way women ruin perfectly normal relationships with the answer to their question "Do you think I am fat?".
Yes/a little bit = Asshole
No/not really = Liar
I don't know/can I not answer please? = He never listens and never talks to me

To all the downvoters now - y'all insecure about your penis size too? I'm not surprised. Here's something for ya:

[AlmondSoup]

That is a terrible tightrope to walk. 2 problems here... he definitely has been insecure about his dick, so any comments talking about size are a minefield, but you honestly wouldn't have known that until it came up, and 2nd, you should still be able to put him at ease more by your actions and commitment to the relationship. His insecurity should only affect him if it's reinforced by you not be sexuality pleased and satisfied with him, but if you guys are still both very sexually satisfied together, then just tell him to shut up about it and that if you didn't like it, you wouldn't be with him, and stop worrying about what other guys got. If he cannot get over that insecurity even after you have told him you are completely happy and satisfied with him and your actions match that, then he's always gonna be like that and you will have to decide if it's worth dealing with these episodes.

[Asker]

Thank you so much! I definitely tried on telling him that because it’s the truth but im willing on trying to keep the relationship in good terms

[AlmondSoup]

You can only do so much before he has to either realize you like him and it doesn't matter, or if he's just never gonna get over it, but like I said, just make sure your actions do the talking.👍

[Coloradomtnman2]

Oh man I soo feel for guys like this. Ultimately I feel guilty and at the same time I worry they get mental scars from it

[steve4u2]

Tell him that you would have dumped him long ago if he didn't pleasure you.
If that doesn't work, tell him your dumping him for a sex toy.