Have you ever settled on a mediocre partner to avoid being single?

[ghostqueen]

I have

I have not

[lernulo]

I always have defended the good and strong points of a healthy relation.
About your question, if you see your partner as mediocre, then you aren't able to make a healthy relation with him/her.
I don't think there are mediocre people, I believe there are unfocused people, and if you as his/her partner aren't able to see his/her strong points assuming you love him/her then you are the one who is failing.
Point is, may be your partner has a mediocre life, but if you love him/her you can see his/her better self better that anyone, and that vision is magical.
If you don't have it with your partner you must stop and study why (don't cut, just think about it but with you as the responsible of the fact that you aren't seeing your partner possibilities)
I did it with my ex, and discovered that she had a lot of potential but as a jar on a table, that it's what she wanted to do, and that I wasn't useful on that dream.
So I decided to cut, I loved her, and I had to respect her dreams no matter what I thought about them.
Many times the problem to see their possibilities is that those are incompatible with yours, but other times is jus a blind spot, so make sure it isn't a blind spot talk about the dreams with your partner, about objectives in life about how does he/she think going to there.
You may surprise that the love which was there, it's still there waiting for a blow of life.

[Shamalien]

never, and I'm betting I'm the only straight man in the world who's had the opportunities I've had and can still say that. Several girls wanted my dick in highschool, some of them wanted to date me, I thought about it and decided that if they wanted to make some moves I would go with the flow but I wasn't gunna assert myself onto a woman I didn't really want. Sometimes I wonder if I shouldda just let my cock do the thinkin... people would respect me more instead of calling me incel.

Oh wait they'd still call me incel because I'm not a raging leftist and my opinions are 'mean and schwary' . So next time you decide to try and respect women, be honest with em, tell em the truth, THINK TWICE, that shit really ain't worth it. It's the right thing to do, I still stand by that, but dudes, if you find yourself in my position, really consider what you are doing. Life would be a lottt easier if I settled for the nightly blowjob and the crazy bitch, at least people would think im a little more normal and stop treating me like an alien

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Unfortunately, when I was young, yes, and it was a huge mistake. It was not 100% just because I was single and wanted a boyfriend, but it was also because he had been begging for me to give him a chance and I liked his personality, so I decided to give him a chance despite not really being interested in him and having already rejected him once (and I felt terrible about that).

Of course, this just eventually led to an unhappy relationship that was never going to work out because something was just missing. You just can't force feelings. I feel I made an even bigger mistake by giving him the chance, because I felt that in a way, I had led him on. That was not my intention at all, as I had naively believed that I might develop feelings for him over time and thought we could at least give it a try, but it just ended up in more hurt feelings than I think it would have if I would've maintained that I just wasn't interested.

Now, I won't settle. It's unfair to both parties and will only result in unhappiness.

[Cynicaldreamer]

One time. When I was younger and stupider (in my early 20s), the last guy I dated I pretty much dated a guy I knew I had nothing in common with just because he loved me and was the only guy giving me any attention. Yet I knew he wasn't the right guy for me. But I gave him a chance anyway!

Ironically, over time I did fall for him and become attached to him, yet he cheated on me! :|
Never again. I realized I settled with an ass just because I thought no one else wanted me or found me attractive, but it wasn't worth it. I raised my standards and self confidence enough to know never to do that nonsense again.

[razelove]

The real trick isn't in whether your partner is mediocre or not. It is making them feel special so they feel mediocre in everyone else's eyes ;) Of course this strategy backfires when you're gone for more than a few weeks lol

[SpacedCharr]

Yes and it was a HORRID decision that wasted years of my life.

[Lightning8]

I've not done and wouldn't do that

My view is, if I can in some way see myself giving her a peck on the lips or forehead in the morning to say "have a good day", then she is good enough. Therefore, I believe it would disrespectful and entitled of me to think of a partner I've had as mediocre in a way that is substantially consequential to my essential commitment to her. This is how I select people to date, and what I think is respectful and responsible towards future dating prospects.

What I think of a partner based on whether she engaged in abuse or infidelity is a different subject.

[Anoniemus]

I did it once and I was miserable. I wouldn't do it again. The only thing "mediocre" about him was his appearance. I understand that personality is important but I want to have sex. I can't have sex if I'm not aroused. I'm not aroused if I'm not attracted.

Many have said that you have to get to know the personality to increase your attraction to the person. I did that. It didn't work.

[Jonny_]

No but I can't say I haven't been tempted to, being lonely sucks but i'm not the kind of person who is willing to fake a relationship to get something else out of it. I'd be lying to myself, like damn what's wrong with wanting someone attractive with a good personality?

[Melshmallow046]

I was happy being single until I met someone I felt it was worth changing that for. My boyfriend and I were each other's first dates/relationships despite having had opportunities to date other people over the years, and we've been together nine months and are still going strong.

[Avicenna]

No; however with my last girlfriend, I knew she had some serious issues which I thought we could fix (I didn't know she had BPD and was actually a danger to me). I thought once we fixed them I'd have an outstanding partner.

[Kida317]

Thought about it, but I'm a kind of person who's really mean to people I think to be unworthy of my attention. Settling with them goes against my nature

[ClosetHoe]

I would never in my life do that. If I have to pause and think about whether or not my partner makes me happy it's not a good relationship. I should be able to say "yes he makes me happy" without thinking about it.

[Daisy007]

B) I have NOT
I don't mind being "single" soo i see know reason to settle for below average or just be with someone unappealing (to me) i'll wait :)

[Eagle_93]

Good for you.
I'm 26 and still single.
No point in being with someone you don't really care about.

[collegestudent96]

I’ve done it twice, I knew that I had nothing in common with either nor did I find either of them that attractive so I was in it for the personaility. It turns on that was bad so it ended.

[Dreku]

Negative to that, fuck buddies with a pleb sure but I'd rather be single than be with someone that I'm not enamoured with

[FreyaRed]

I don't think in categories media core and super attractive. I'm too good in finding weak spots in someones personality

[User_Friendly]

I thought i was settling for less with this chick i only saw one pic of. Come to find she's really fun and chatty, a complete horn dog and not bad looking at all! Christmas came a little early for me guys 😝

[Browneye57]

Yes. Married ten years.
She thought cooking cleaning and fucking were three cities in china. She's history. :)

[Liam_Hayden]

No. I am happy whether single or in a good relationship. Why would I give up my happiness just to be with "someone?"

[Ripper_E]

That's really sad and fucked up to waste the other person's time.

[DiscomfortZone]

I believe everyone has, at least once, only it's usually guys that settle (contrary to popular belief as presented in that picture).

[CuriousMufuxka]

I have, but it didn't start out that way. I just eventually thought fuck it. Towards the end she tried in different ways to get me to end our 3 year thankfully not marriage. Success!

[Nikki1989]

Nope. I haven't had many boyfriends, but they have all been special in their own way.