Instead you may focus on improving your career and hobbies and taking care of your parents and siblings. For many people physical appearance is much too difficult to change and the return on investment in attempting to change your appearance seems very low. One might say that you can find a partner who will look beyond your appearance but that's like searching for a needle in a haystack if you are very much below average in looks. Again the return on investment in spending so much time looking for a partner is low for someone who has to work so hard to earn a living.
I feel that way. I'm in a relationship right now but if it doesn't work out I won't bother again. Being ugly in a relationship means knowing you're the last option but pretend it doesn't matter, someone out there is always prettier than you right? (Cope) never being complimented or seduced, doing all the work and tolerate it or leave and much more things... You can't voice anything because it's not like in a "normal" relationship where you can say you don't feel loved enough or something. You don't actually have value so it doesn't matter. It's I already have to accept your ugliness, take what I will give you or leave. It is the price to pay for a crumb of love and company. As pathetic as it sounds most ugly people will choose that over loneliness because a lonely and loveless life is that hard. But personally if I get single again I might choose the lonely life because being in a relationship while being ugly stings more in the end, for not that much benefit. If you can manage to make peace with how your world is when you are ugly you find some things to enjoy without the love of others. It's really hard but I'm sure it can be worth it in the end
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You can see unattractive people in a relationship basically everywhere you look. If someone has great personality, hard working, isn't a bum, honest, smart, kind, family oriented, it isn’t impossible for them to find someone even if they think they’re unattractive. Now if they only want supermodel looking partners then thats a different story. Not saying they should look for an ugly partner, but dont be delusional either.
I have felt like that my whole life. But trust me when I say this, it is highly likely that you will unexpectedly find someone when you stop looking.
I had pretty much given up on finding someone, and was carrying on with my life - focusing on career, Hobbies, workouts etc. just like you mentioned. Although I was 'sort of' enjoying my life, there was always this void deep within.
But then, I accidentally happened to meet someone who I didn't even think of as a potential partner because back then, she was way above my league at least physically (maybe she still is, but I don't think of her that way anymore because we consider ourselves equal). One thing led to another, and we have been happily married for over 2 years now. Looks don't matter anymore, and when I think of how hopelessly unattractive I 'thought' I was back then, I just laugh it off. I still don't know how on earth I managed to land someone like my wife, but then again I am living proof that physical attractiveness doesn't matter as much as we 'think' they do in the grander scheme of things (although they do matter to some extent). Also, we are usually our biggest critics anyway.
My good man, I think your focus is a bit misdirected, and that everyone can and will find a romantic partner. You must understand that many, many persons, men and women alike feel the same as what you expressed. @Nikki1989 below, put it in a nutshell for you in her single line: "Nope. You can beat any challenge with the right amount of confidence" No one is ever just 'not attractive' Everyone has some attractive features.
Remember that, and try to focus on you attractive features, and your physique, and don't dwell on the negative.
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Feeling like i'm much too attractive? Can't say I've ever been saddled with that problem. 🤣
But yes I have at times come to the conclusion that what is out there simply isn't worth dating. I honestly believe most women today do not want relationships. They want tribute. They want what they want when they want it and if they don't get that you can f*** off, and they'll try on another guy. What guy would sign on for that? Relationships are give and take. Not "just give and she takes". 🤣
Feeling? I never waste my time on feelings.
No, I know I am very attractive and I know my personality is very good too. Hence both the aspects of mine are very good.
However, the fact is I have always been single and wish to single for life so I never want a romantic partner.
Never felt that way nor had any problems with women either way everyone is attractive to be honest all you need is a lot of water like a gallon a skin care routine workout at least 3 times a week or at least stat in decent shape and other basic hygiene like oral and stuff also just finding a clothing style that looks best on you
no i don't... even if let's say i'm ugly i can still find a partner
Loll yup.. but despite being ugly I've had men show intresst in me so I think its easier to be ugly as a woman
Yea or just not good enough. The problem is not the mirror… its the one looking at the mirror
Nope. You can beat any challenge with the right amount of confidence.
Appearance
Charisma
Personality
Sense of Humor
is how you easily get a girlfriend, appearance is only one partNo I am just too stupid.
I'm cute AF
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