I have body confidence issues and feel like my boyfriend is attracted to bigger women now, what can I do?

[Anonymous]

I’m 5’3 and 122 pounds. I have a hyperactive thyroid and anemia, plus I’m in the Army so keeping on weight is really hard me to do.

I’ve been skinny shamed my whole life, but really I don’t think I’m skinny or flat at all! So I’ve always told myself when other girls make mean comments on my weight like saying I’m anorexic when I’m not is just those girls being insecure about their own bodies and trying to make themselves feel better.

My boyfriend and I broke up and got back together, but during the time we were apart he slept with a bigger girl. I asked a lot of intimate questions out of jealousy and I’m ashamed for behaving so rudely when it was none of my business and we were broken up anyway, but I’m afraid he likes bigger women now.
He tells me he loves my body, but I feel like he’s just being nice. He hangs out with guy friends who love big butts. Even if their girlfriends don’t have nice butts, just big. Filled with cellulite and saggy. I’m not nagging on their preferences or their gfs, but I’ve slept with a bigger girl before who had large breasts and a large butt. I just didn’t see the appeal in it because of the sagging and cellulite. I have large breasts. I’m a 32 D, and I have an hour glass figure, but my butt just doesn’t poke out or jiggle a lot. I feel like this is what my boyfriend likes and I’m just not that. He does grab my butt and says he loves it, but how do I know he didn’t like this bigger girl’s butt better and that he doesn’t wish I had that? Even though he said she had flabby, saggy butt and saggy boobs.

I started the Depo shot to help gain weight and I’ve been strength training to build up my lower body. But I feel like this is more of a mental thing and it’s hard when society is more supportive of girls with big butts and big boobs now, even if they do have a little chub more than petite girls who appear thin but still have curves like I do. I really never thought I was flat at all, but now I feel like I’m just not enough.

[Anonymous]

So you’re saying you want to gain weight to be nicely chubby? Wouldn’t he want your lower body to be nice and soft though? You don’t need to do that training stuff for the lower stuff. Just increase your body fat percentage and he’d like that. Plan out the best ways to get as much calories as you wish to into each day, in easy ways but also ways you think are good for what you want. You can try getting used to bigger portion sizes too, to feel full later and get more calories in before feeling like you can’t. It can’t be bad to try to eat all the calories you are aiming for in a meal as fast as you can, so you’ll get it all in before you can feel full. Tell me your goal weight too, if you want. If you need, I can tell you more about how to be both bigger and still technically healthy, because that is definitely possible.

[razelove]

Umm, you're skinny, have large breasts, and are active duty. Let your boyfriend go after someone with an ass like cottage cheese, get a PCS out by Vegas girl, I'll do everything in my power to make you feel sexy every damned day. Unless you played sword fighting with shovels to the face as a kid or something, I'm not hearing any problems on your end.

Besides that, on base you're hot shit in a hand bag, like you're literally in a sea of dicks to choose from. What does he make you feel that's so special, with an on again off again relationship, and not even being satisfied with you physically, much less the company when you have it, that someone else couldn't provide?

[Chanel1981]

Everyone likes something different the key here is being happy with yourself :)

[Chanel1981]

Thanks for the MHO :)

[Daniela1982]

Get a fat suit and you will be fine.

[Asker]

This is actually the only reply I have actually liked lmfao

[MasterLove]

You don't have the self esteem, and you want to attract your boyfriend because you love him in some level, well I am not going to say I am an expert at dating that you might want to listen to but...

I will tell you that if you want to attract him, you might start to realise that the way you look is nothing in the dating world...

Because what truly matters, is you to understand how much more more importan5 is human psychology then level of attractiveness...

What you might want to do as you are reading this, wondering where this is heading is to easily search up mindful attraction 2.0...

Because he teaches women the dark human nature and how to attract man, without looks but psychology.

Now you might start to realise that love is psychology, because its a psychological game, now it's up to you to see what I am truly talking about...

[adidas0169]

Sounds like you have trust issues also. im not trying to be mean by saying that but it does. if he wanted a bigger girl then you guys wouldn't be together again. there's body shaming across the board from bigger girls about skinnier girls and visa versa. in the end you need to be comfortable with your own self and what others think that you should. if your always comparing yourself to others that will drive someone away the fastest bc he or anyone else can say that they love how you look or you look great and turn around and say no i dont etc etc thats telling us that you dont believe us telling you that you look great and they love how you are thats also telling us that our opinion doesn't matter.

[dipeshb]

I understand your situation. Firstly, nothing is wrong with you. Secondly, people change and as they change (mentally/physically) their needs change. Lastly, if you are in some serious relationship with that person, even if he gets attracted to someone, will he ditch you? Do you trust him? Every guy gets attracted to someone but they never admit it to anyone. If he loves you, he won't sleep around with any other women. Remember, beauty will fade one day, body can get out it's shape but no one can change feelings for someone. Whatever you are, however you look, nothing is wrong with you, you are special in your own way and if your boyfriend fails to recognize this then you know what he is going to loose 😉

[Sharknado88]

Im attracted to smaller women and im sure there are many guys out there that are as well! I dont usually here about body confidence issues with skinnier girls but I would agree the girls that were body shamming you for that most likely are insecure about themselves in some way. If you find out that your boyfriend is in fact attracted to larger women, then break up with him and find you another guy that will truly appreciate you!

[Hoss1981]

First thank you for your service. Second with being 5"3 122 pounds is a good weight. You don't need a big ass and boobs to be sexy. There's plenty of men that love small women.

[Massageman]

Check with your doc before changing any eating or exercise plans.
Do lots of thigh and glute work for your rear.
Drink protein shakes to develop more muscle mass.
Eat dried fruit, protein ice cream and some healthy fats to add just a few pounds.

Do note that muscle has more mass per unit of volume, so you still may not add a significant amount of inches to your rear, but what is there will be SOLID! And there are always pads for your panties - just sayin',

[Shamalien]

you guys broke up and he slept with another girl

look, we could get into breaking down these insecurities in depth and solving these problems one at a time... or, you could just acknowledge that it's over and not deal with this bullshit. This insecurity isn't going away, it's native to the situation you are in.

If u break up with someone and they sleep with someone else, GOOD GAME, it's over for good

[Nik1hil]

You are over thinking.
If something was wrong with you..
You boyfriend choose you as his girlfriend over those girls.. For him you are better..
So stop thinking and start enjoying

[MissDawn7961]

first stop lying about your great figure because if it was so great then your man would have not been with other woman ! you two deserve each other ! Thanks

[Harmseygrace]

You're rude mate

[Anonymous]

Learn to love yourself and your body. You have what a lot of women wish they had a nice rack. I know some women who are really flat chested and it's hard to be turned on sexually by them. Think about what you do have and be grateful for it and stop focusing on what you don't

[DiscomfortZone]

So basically your point is to make sure everyone here know you're skinny with big breasts, but you like to shame women who aren't as skinny as you. How lovely of you, I can't imagine why anyone would break up with you.

[Anonymous]

as someone with hypothrodism, the opposite to you, I suggest you dont put on weight because my weight fluctuates and I have been overweight my whole life. Moreover, you shouldn't make yourself unhealthy just for a guy

[Asker]

I don’t think a couple of more pounds would necessarily make me unhealthy and I think I’d be happier with myself

[Anonymous]

You’re looking way too deeply into his preferences instead of focusing on why you feel so threatened by how other women look

[Jamie05rhs]

Why are you trying to change your body to impress someone else? If he doesn't appreciate you the way you are, then dump him.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thank you for your service, by the way.

[Anonymous]

Honey--32Ds are ASTOUNDING--especially on a petite, fit bod!

[Anonymous]

Stop attention seeking

[Anonymous]

I bet he had to be the Hunter

[JamesF93]

Sounds like ur fine