Is it okay to have a crush on a fictional character if you’re in a committed relationship?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I don't see the issue. There's a reason they're called a "fictional character": they aren't real. If he wants to fantasize about a woman he can't have, by all means, let him! What's he going to do: leave me for a girl that isn't real? LOL

Now if he expects me to start dressing up like her, acting like her, or trying to change me to be like a fictional character? Then I would have an issue.

... also, if you're bringing the Spicy Doritos, I got the guacamole and salsa~

DorkVader · Accepted Answer

The best fictional characters have some basis in reality. They represent the best and worst of humanity, and if they are well realized, they have a distinctive personality. So to crush on a fictional character is normal, which is why literature is so important. We learn how to view our world through the shared experiences of other people. I know I'm speaking about books, but every character you've seen portrayed was written first, and the good ones were well written.

Ice_knight · Accepted Answer

I kinda think it odd to have a crush on a fictional character after a certain age. Physically attracted to, yeah maybe but then again you are attracted to the actor/actress or the artists rendition of the character. I don't know maybe it has to do with how I separate fiction from reality. Not saying I am mightier than thou or anything just I don't get it.

serious · Accepted Answer

If it is confirmed that it is indeed a fictional character then it is absolutely fine. However just remember that don't flaunt about this fictional character when you are with your partner, don't keep talking about that character and its qualities as that would be a morally wrong thing to do.

It can possibly make your partner insecure. Just maybe.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Why wouldn't it be? It's not wrong to admire on TV, movie, hell even notice in person. You in a relationship, you ain't blind or dead lol
It's when you take it to 'real" interaction with 'real" people where the potential is there for something to "really"happen, that it's a problem.
Me and my hubby always openly said what stars we thought were hot. Patrick Swayze's muscles back in the day ❤️ 😍

SydneySentinel · Answer

Sure, I don't see anything wrong with that.

Bbfbfaiaoalwmdncncxk · Answer

I dont know how to respond, because I feel like my answer will be very unfair since Im a guy, buttttt It would depend whether my partner likes a totally fictitious character (like a game or comicbook etc. with no one IRL acting/portraying as said character) or a played fictional character (with someone IRL either voicing or full on acting as them). I guess fictional characters with voice actors can get a pass as long as you guys communicate and make sure its not serious/problematic but played fictional characters could be problematic and make sure with your partner than there's no hidden intention, safe to play or rp with because for example my girlfriend could like green lantern and would want me to RP as him and I would just to have fun but as long as its only for that, Im not roleplaying as the Actor just the fictional part. Vise Versa with me, I would like if my girlfriend wanted to RP with me because I dont see myself salivating over people who Play or VA fictional characters. And of course is she dosent like it then too bad, I guess she only wants us in the room. And by RP I mean Sex ofc.

Randomawkwardness · Answer

I think it depends on the extent of the crush. If it's just some simple little thing where they find the character cute and whatnot then that's fine; however, if they start going out of their way to meet the actor or constantly connects everything to them then it would be too much.

EleanorRigby · Answer

Gotta love all the people who say they wouldn't be botherer because they can't cheat with a fictional character... and if it suddenly was real they would but hey, they can't...
Personally, I am just fine with my boyfriend finding other women attractive, he doesn't go blind once he gets into relationship. If he had actual crush on a real person, like he daydreams about her and such, it would bother the hell out of me.
If he has that sort of a crush on a fictional character, he must be not so healthy in his head so that's quite concerning.

Bribree18 · Answer

It’s not like you could ever cheat with the fictional character so I don’t really see the problem. If you feel that liking the fictional character makes you like your S/O less and you no longer have feelings for them, then you should break up with them.

Creepazoid · Answer

I don't know if it's ok but I sure did with Jordan Baker from Great Gatsby

Aethereal · Answer

Wow! almost no one thinks it's not okay. That's dismaying.

BlackRoseFairy · Answer

Crush, fantasy, maybe admiration is OK, as long as they still understand that this is a fictional character who doesn't exist.
If it becomes an idea stucked in his mind or even an obsession I'd be worried...

BlueAura227 · Answer

I voted it's ok. Since when can you cheat or have a real relationship with something that doesn't exist.

designer1 · Answer

I voted for wrong thing but of course it would be okay. It’s fictional. Unless they are a psychopath that dresses dolls up like them and does crazy stuff than I don’t see why that would be a problem. Only thing is, they should not expect their partner in any way to act like that character/ this is where problems are made.

loveslongnails · Answer

Like ………. a real crush? Coach buddy, how many edibles have you had?

NightFlirt · Answer

As long as you don't actually try to have sex with that actor/actress then yeah go for it.

Prof_Don · Answer

You can crush on and fantasize about whoever you want, relationship or not! Your thoughts are your own safe happy place where ANYTHING is possible.

KieranByrne · Answer

Motoko Kusanagi! And yea this is ok to have a crush when in a relationship!

rievious · Answer

The only way I could see this being a no is if you or your partner then tries to act like that character. Like they ate trying to be someone their not to appease you... but that's ridiculous bc no one would do that to the point its unhealthy.

perislav85 · Answer

They just fictional characters like porno stars 😉 It's okay to have a crush on somebody who even doesn't exist. We all have our own fantasies. Aren't we 😇

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm a pretty conservative guy, but my answer to this is yes. And it's okay for her, too. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. You can even incorporate it into your fantasy roleplay activities. You can dress up like the characters and then have sex with each other.

Jjpayne · Answer

Yes course :) it's even fun to play marry date or dump

Liam_Hayden · Answer

If someone has a crush on a fictional character there are far deeper issues than worrying about whether the person is in a relationship or not.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Crush as in fantasy? If it's a harmless fantasy i see nothing wrong with it. Beyond that though it's not healthy. For you or your relationships.

whywhywhywhwy · Answer

I don’t think you have control over who you have a crush on.

Slim57 · Answer

I don't think it's alright if you're in a relationship or not, it's a fictional character...

pigoat · Answer

If my partner has a problem with that she can fuck on

Anonymous · Answer

In general, it is safe and harmless. However, it could possibly lead to serious weirdness depending on how far you take it. If I found out that my girlfriend had constructed a room full of some fictional male character's posters and constructed an altar or exhibited really crazy obsessive behavior like that... then, I would immediately be trying to figure out how to get out of there...

Synikal · Answer

Depends... the idea of what that character represents or legit infatuation with the character are two different things lol.

Snickermarstwix · Answer

It's not like you could cheat on your partner with said character.

Manuel2 · Answer

Why not? Most people are thinking of someone else while having sex with the person they are with

WarningWarning · Answer

I have been in love with han solo since i was 3

ACupOfFrosting · Answer

Look you'll like other people when you are with someone for sureee. Relationships are about trust.  If anything you should joke about it together.

peachy13_xo · Answer

Wtf is the problem with it. not like you’ll ever meet or date them but in your dreams.

Joonieswifeu · Answer

I have crushes on many fictional characters some are human but others are anime characters

Anna0125 · Answer

No problem and Halloween good for that dress as their crushes. I was sleeping beauty my friends with benefits she be “evil step mother” or I be Snow White she be The Queen.

Unit1 · Answer

Please, no more thought policing.

the_sinner · Answer

Yeah it is but only if you're not extremely obsessed with it and you should see to it that your partner is not feeling uncomfortable with you having that kinda crush.

Anonymous · Answer

Contrary to popular female belief, it is possible to find other people attractive while not being so attracted it's in any way a threat

Testaccount65754 · Answer

It's a little weird, that's for sure. Attraction is one thing, a crush is a bit different.

Mr_MG_903 · Answer

I couldn't tell ya. I don't have crushes on fictional characters

TheDud3 · Answer

Yes, nothing wrong with that unless you go to the extent of Stan mode.

Avicenna · Answer

That's just silly.

moonpie89 · Answer

Ofcourse. They're fictional

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Whoever that chick is would get the business.

Msgaïj · Answer

How could you date him/her, after all?

Shiver · Answer

They're fictional, so yes.

Ripper_E · Answer

that's really stupid, but okay

bdwantme · Answer

We are only human everyone crushes on someone

Games_ · Answer

It's fine but it's a bit immature if you ask me

13IsALuckyNumber · Answer

Sure, but it is odd given that they aren’t real.

Jupiter1 · Answer

It’s supposed to be just a harmless crush.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

I don't know what to say about it

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Another easy one..

Joker_ · Answer

lol..

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