Do guys find it annoying when their girlfriends ask to meet them like once a week? Am I being needy or annoying?

[Anonymous]

Do guys find it annoying when their girlfriends ask to meet them like once a week? Me and my boyfriend can't see each other much because school, work and just life on general but I feel like I'm being annoying by asking :(

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Right this isn't him being an asshole and making me insecure. he's doing everything right, I'm a very anxious person and I tend to overthink a lot and this question was something to try and put my mind at ease. I know realistically that once a week ain't gonna fuck a relationship up but I can be pretty irrational. He's a star and I'm just anxious 😂

[NearlyNapping]

Wanting to meet once a week is not too much. That's actually too little for a good relationship in my opinion.

If school and work get in the way, that's something you have to work around, but it's not ideal. In my opinion you should be seeing each other more often than that.

You are not being needy. You are being completely reasonable. So put your mind at ease for that part. Things in life like school and work can mean you don't get together as often as you'd like, but it's not needy to "want" to get together more often.

[Lliam]

What you are describing is more like a friend or acquaintance. I don't see how someone can be considered a girlfriend or boyfriend if they don't want to get together as often as possible.
I mean, do you guys have a sexual relationship? Does he only come over to fuck when he feels like it? Does he care at all about your needs or feelings?
Frankly, it doesn't sound like the guy is into you. Why do you bother with him at all? Find someone who wants to be with you.

[Asker]

Uh, we're literally together? I never said anything about him not wanting to be with me it's me overthinking. Like how tf did you come to that conclusion mate 😂😂

[DorkVader]

Yes. Why would you ever want to see your boyfriend?
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Girl, what? If he doesn't want to see you at least once a week or MORE you may as well dump him.

[Asker]

Ah I didn't mean he doesn't want to see me, I'm just really anxious about being annoying so I overthink shit haha

[DorkVader]

Don't worry about annoying him, asking to see him. He should be glad someone wants to be his girlfriend and see him. Now, that isn't to say, don't nag him to shit lol. Be reasonable, but once a week is really low. If I'm with someone, I want to spend more time than that

[Asker]

Thank you, that helped a lot actually:)

[DorkVader]

Thanks for MHO

[AimeeEllenn]

Once a week really isn't an issue, if it was me I'd be wanting at least 2-3 times a week 😂😂 try not to overthink it, you're all good :)

[Asker]

We would like to but our scheds are shite 😂 I was having a bit of a panic, I've talked to him about it and im fine now :)

[AimeeEllenn]

😂😂 at least you guys still make the effort! Good I'm glad you're feeling better :)

[meesegoMoo]

Once a week is in no way being needy. In fact, it's about the least amount of time a guy could expect to commit to a relationship.

[Asker]

Thank you:)

[slatyb]

Once a week? That's not much at all. You shouldn't have to feel like you are asking. It should be sorry if mutual tugging that you see each other when you are both free. If you are always the one asking for his time then maybe he's not all that into you.

[giv11]

Well personally when in a relationship, I like spending time with my girlfriend. It beats texting, calling. You get to share your time with a person you really like and get to know them closer. In my opinion, you should probably see him even more often if you have the possibility.

[Asker]

We would like to! We try to see each as much as we can, once a week is kind of a minimum because we have clashing schedules 😂

[giv11]

You shouldn't be ashamed of wanting to meet him. If he didn't want to see you, he probably wouldn't. 😂 Spending time with him is the best thing you can do if you want to get to know him even more and you don't have to hide that. 😁

[Asker]

I know that but I'm irrational 😂 thank you, you really helped me feel better :)

[giv11]

Anytime 😁 just follow your guts and heart, be spontaneous and don't think about it too much. You already know he likes you. 😝

[Asker]

Thank you, I've been trying to be a bit more relaxed and it's been a lot better. I still have my moments 😂

[boggboss]

Once a week is reasonable stop putting yourself down

[Asker]

Okay thank you:)

[termanator]

If I love her I’m going to want to see her most of the time she shouldn’t even need to ask , you know sometimes things come up and you can’t always be together but if she’s my girlfriend that means I think she may be my wife one day. And who else would I want to spend more time with

[BCA6010]

Once a week seems perfectly reasonable to me. Most girlfriends are more needy than that. If once a week is too much for him, then you may need to reevaluate his own commitment.

[Asker]

I'm not saying HE'S the problem. It's a question stemming from me overthinking because I've been real clingy before. I've told him how I felt and he's fine with it I'm just a really anxious person haha

[Avicenna]

No, a boyfriend should want to spend quality time with you

[moststrangestguy]

Hey if you wannn hang once a week that completely fine.. But just check with your boyfriend for me am happy seeing my girl everyday until i get dumped usually very quickly but that's me some guys like 6 weeks apart

[SomeoneBlue]

Once a week seems low. I see my girlfriend as much as I can. I see her at school but we hang out after school at least 1 time a week if not 2-3 times.

[Nikola99]

Depends on the distance as well.

[Asker]

We live close but he works full time, I'm a full time student with a part time job and i often don't have enough money to see him so we do try to see each as much as we can

[Nikola99]

Well to me if you try you best to see each other as much as you can is what counts. also you could move in together

[Asker]

Not been dating long enough to move in together and I've only just turned 18 haga

[SomeoneBlue]

Im assuming you are a UNI or college student then? Is he your age or older? Cause if older he could probably has more disposable income and possible can drive to you or meet you close to ur campus.

[Asker]

College, he doesn't drive. I'm currently learning to drive, it's more our schedules dont line up well and I kind of have an overprotective dad which doesn't help the matter 😂

[SomeoneBlue]

At 18 are you not legally an adult? Dad can not really stop you. Also, if your boyfriend doesn't like hanging out or u think he doesn't, just talk to him. I think when u asked the question u were thinking he doesn't want to see you or u think ur asking of too much. And if he thinks ur asking of too much, end things with him, cause u dont want the same things

[Asker]

That's exactly it, I've spoken to him haha. I was having a bit of a panic at the time and this was to try and ease it. And yeah I may be 18 but ultimately it's his house so his rules. I can't move out yet because school and I don't earn enough but I'm planning on it.

[SomeoneBlue]

Maybe you and your boyfriend are not good for each other then? Because you want to see him more and he doesn't feel the same.

[Unit1]

WTF, I was lucky if I had a woman spend time with me once a week (which was the maximum). I need more! more! more!

[Asker]

I'm sure you'll find someone! I can be very clingy I guess so I worry that I'm getting on his nerves even though he legit tells me I'm not 😂

[Unit1]

I'd love myself a clingy girlfriend, who keeps huggling me because I love hugs and kisses from sweet women!

Not many like that but I dead certainly do!

[SongBird3]

Once a week should be the bare minimum. Not needy at all

[Pejtu]

I see my girlfriend 2,3 times a week for like 10,12 hours each time
And we also work
I think u should see the person u love at least twice a week

[pleasestopthis]

Once a week is fine and a reasonable option if you're busy.

[RHK36]

Once a week isn't enough. Y'all can't be that busy.

[Halo1662]

To a degree it can get annoying, but it's really how you ask. Just sit him down and explain your needs and he should understand, he's with you after all; of course he'd be there for you.

[soleil2666]

Once per week is far too infrequent for someone you actually like.

[ashleykoll]

Com on ask me every day!! It doesn't have to be for an hour all the time but sure I want to meet

[Agem123]

Once a week is not even enough tho.

[dman2796]

I think once a week is reasonable

[JermalTheBlackDog]

Both