Huh funny, the exact same thing actually happened to me with my ex. Except I wasn't getting back from work but from a work travel...
I'll tell you exactly how it went.
We were in a relationship for 5 years, living together for 2. My work travel ended a day sooner and I didn't tell my boyfriend because I wanted to surprise him for coming back a day earlier for our anniversary, he was sad I couldn't make it.
I approach the door and hear unexpectedly loud music. Wasn't that surprised, it was funny actually I though he was just playing video games, smoking weed and listening to loud dnb music (the things he stopped doing when I moved in). Just using his free-from-me time.
Nevertheless, I get in, ready to jump on him and kiss him and hug him and tell how much I missed him, just to see him banging his coworker on our kitchen table.
All I could see is his naked ass and her feet.
I froze. I literally couldn't move a muscle in my body. I was just starring at the scene, for like 2 minutes. Then the first instinct that hit me was to run as I was never there. And so I did. I went back to the train station. When I got to the train station I finally came to my senses rather then my instincts and realized what just happened. That my loving partner is a liar and a cheater. And that this shit will kill me.
I went to my brother and took it from there. Was sick for few days, told my ex over text that work travel got prolonged and won't be back for a week, he had no idea I caught him.
Then when I finally got a little better, I went there with my brother, told him what happened and broke up with him. That I came just for my stuff and that I never want to hear from him again. And so it was.
It took me 1 year of serious therapy and 1 year of getting back into normal life. It's been 4 years now, and I'll tell you one thing: trust issues never go away.
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Well I consider myself a very reasonable, understanding woman-
Who am I kidding? I'd kick his ass out of what is now MY house. Start a bonfire in the front yard, and throw ALL of his stuff on it, along with the sheets him and that whore slept on.
Sit back and enjoy the show with the neighbors, possibly make s'mores after to cheer myself up.
I'd like to say I would be calm but chances are I would probably get exceedingly violent. the fact is this is the one person who is suppose to love you and care about you and here they are exploiting you for their own gain and stabbing you in the back. If the person who loves you cannot bother to care about you then what does that say about you? Obviously the one being cheated on isn't to blame for their partners betrayel but that doesn't change how they feel. I'd want to destroy them in every way possible honestly because while I can forgive most things, betrayal is the one thing that is unforgivable for me.
I'd assume the worst which he's an intruder and call police, maybe it isn't by her own will? (don't make quick assumptions when my job is to protect...)
After it's all under control and "it" is gone, I'd listen to what she had to say, to be sure she is actually ok. understand her view.
She ends up locked out if she's cheating.
if it isn't my place, then I leave.
Why is cheating so awful? It just is... it's trust violation at the deepest level, but in reality, it is the other persons frailties, it isn't about us...
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Tell whoever he's with he's yours now. Ask them to get dressed. Ask the other person to leave so you can help the SO pack up his stuff or call a moving company. There is no reason to fume and fight. Just end it quickly without much drama. I don't have a SO right now so it would be my future SO.
Not gonna lie I'd say these exact words "bitch I cannot believe you didn't invite me to join in on this, you know I've always wanted a three way" then probably leave the house cuz I was so offended
Well I would hope I would not do any of the above but love makes you do crazy things. but honestly everything happens for a reason and it's probably best that you found out and to break up with that person and find somebody better. Yes you have to go through the pain of healing from that break up and eventually be open again to finding love. But I would most likely leave the apartments and get away for some time to process what I was experiencing emotionally
I may just leave and go straight to the divorce lawyers office.
I may record it for evidence.
If i have kids i may just stay in a loveless marriage for them.
Id wonder if it was better to be alone or what amounts to alone with my SO.Something like that happened...
Not that I found out them in bed... but just as bad with lying and cheating.
I was devastated. He wasn't home. I wanted to kill myself.
The relationship ended.I would just leave. Last time he’ll ever see or hear from me too. I’ll collect my stuff when he isn’t there and deposit my key. Crying would certainly be involved but I wouldn’t do it in his presence.
I'd turn around, drive to Home Depot, buy several new locks and some boxes, pack up her shit, throw it on the lawn, and change the locks.
Furious, but I would calmly walk out. I would probably take myself to a friend's house and then message my SO to arrange a talk.
I would remain calm, say something passive aggressive, and walk off knowing I had the moral high ground and her goose was cooked.
I'd tell her she has 24 hours to get her crap out of my house. I'm not eating bologna sandwiches for the rest of my life because I felt the need to rectify that situation.
Dangerous situation. I would think about wasting both of them, but would probably tell the guy to GTFO (he's a guy, of course he is gonna fuck some strange, so I don't blame him). Than I would tell my partner to pack her shit up and GTFO.
Walk out and have divorce papers issued as soon as possible.
I tell her to change the sheets then get out. I'm tired. Because she's a woman. It was only a matter of time before she did this anyhow.
I would introduce myself to Denzel Washington and ask for a role in REMEMBER THE TITANS 2.
Grab a beer and get undress and join themI might cry for betrayal, but the result would be instant divorce and dumping; she would become like garbage in my eyes.
Since I live alone I have them arrested for trespassing.
I’d probably cry. I’d pack my stuff and leave. Let whoever they’re with have them now. It’ll happen to them, too, I’m sure.
I would be ecstatic! I would watch til theyre finished, and hope they go longer.
Tell them to GTFO and have a nice life.
Tell him to get the hell out of my crib
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