Boyfriend wants to hide from me from his ex? What should I do? (Page 2)

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I have just found out my boyfriend is hiding me from his ex. They dated for a short time last year and they remained friends after they broke up. Three of us were in the same social circle so we all know each other. We broke up at the 6th month and got back together 2 months later after being friends with benefits. They are close, they contact with each other almost everyday, he picked her up at her house at night with his car, they go to bars just the two of them, she calls him names, I saw pictures of them cheek to cheek on my boyfriend's phone. I'm very uncomfortable with them being too close, if she is just a friend there should be boundaries. Whenever I talked my boyfriend about her he defended her and said there's nothing to worry about. The last time I opened the topic he admitted that he keeps our relationship secret from her. He said It would be disrespectful to her since she is his ex and it would be weird since we know each other and spent time. First he said he would tell her soon but now he says stupid sh*t like ”she will know when we get married”. I don't ask him to yell at her face that we are dating I just want him to not act like he is single when he is around her. he disrespects my feelings just to not ”hurt” her, if they are just friends she should be okay with that too. He also blocks her when he posts our picture together on Instagram, when she calls when we are together he either says he is alone or he is with a family member. I dont think he is cheating but this is stupid. I feel like the 3rd person when three of us sit together. She sometimes acts like I don't exist and doesn't response to my questions. She will keep asking him going out at nights since she doesn't know about me. I'm so not okay with that. When you love someone you want to show them off, you are proud, you don't hide them. he hided her from me when they were dating and we were friends too. We have been on and off maybe they talked behind my back and he is ashamed.

Nooooovaaaaa · Answer

This just my personal opinion and for reference only, if it's make you feel bad. Sorry about that.
I think maybe he just enjoy the feeling of irresponsibility relationship or he just need sexual life before he get back together with his ex.
If I were you, I wanna know the truth and why. If he keeping doing this way, the answer is there is a lot cute guys out there, don't waste your time on somebody who doesn't deserve you.

MackToday · Answer

This is fucked up to the point I wonder if its fixable. We need the ethnic state where we raise children to act right and to understand things like this at an early age so things like "friends with benefits" don't happen to people.

panther0008 · Answer

Wow. : How does someone even stand to be this disrespected and this trampled on! RUN! How are you with this guy? Aren’t there normal people around? He is awful...

DictumVeritas · Answer

Confront him, let him explain this action and if the explanation is just a bit off, drop him like a hot potato. Life is to short to be on the short end of someone else's game.

SongBird3 · Answer

he's either cheating or just a dumbass. I would not stand for that kind of shit. You should break up with him and tell the “friend” yourself

Thieuphunglam · Answer

You should forget him and block him, rule one of a relationship is lose contact with the ex completely but clearly he's not willing to do that.

pajamasam · Answer

Yeah tell him you want some boundaries and if can't respect that then maybe you need to leave him.

PineappleCrop · Answer

Tell him how that makes you feel, if you're his girlfriend he should care about you feeling happy, if he dismisses you I think you should dump him.

Kejaco · Answer

That's not acceptable for him to act in such a way is disrespectful to you. Tell him you feel uncomfortable.

FatherJack · Answer

Does not appear that you are Priority No 1 , and he still is with her in his own mind , I would bin him if in your position.

kangy · Answer

why are you still with him? I feel he is enjoying attention from both girls. and it isn't fair to you. a relationship cannot continue if parties are trying to hide from each other

Yuup123456 · Answer

Dump him. He wants to be able to go back if u don’t work out. You’re just a tool for making her jealous. Dump him

zagor · Answer

How does he explain it when the 3 of you sit together? Pass you off as a cousin?

jersos1 · Answer

I think something weird is going on. If he doesn't have feelings for her, why is he hiding her from you? It's unacceptable!
Really weird shit. I'm sorry that you're going through all these. You deserve a better guy.

ivbnlknfru · Answer

He is playing both of you... the only difference is you know about her... If he can't be with you in front of her then you shouldn't be with him at all... just saying

msc545 · Answer

This is really terrible. You absolutely need a new boyfriend. Leave this guy!

maidkiran · Answer

He actually is disrespecting u by trying not to hurt, well obviously telling her won't be easy but it dosent means that it shiuldnt be done. At some point he has to tell her to move on and that he is with u now... Must aknowledge u

spartan55 · Answer

He is running you both  under the cover of daylight and getting away with it. He is playing both of you for fools.

MuffinBoi · Answer

I think you have to set a boundary, like you said and that if he isn't willing to follow them, he should just go and outright date his ex. Basically, if you give him an ultimatum, I think it'll take a lot off of your mind, regardless of the outcome.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

I don't know what to say. I can kinda see it from his perspective but I agree it's kinda weird for you. I don't know what to advise you to do really. Sorry.

Canberraisboring · Answer

He wants to get back with his ex and is trying to fuck her, if they aren't already having sex. You are being used. Sorry :/

alance99 · Answer

Just tell him clearly you dont like her closeness with you and just tell her you have girlfriend and will be getting married soon and if he doesn't respect your feelings then there is no point in dating him

benaroundafewtimes · Answer

He's playing both of you. You should have a talk privately with the other girl and see what he is telling her. Since he says he's your boyfriend he should not have a problem showing some affection for you in anyones company. If he has to hide you your the other women. Straight out tell her what he is telling you I will bet it's the same he is telling her.

Secret6620 · Answer

I wouldn't put up with this nonsense. But that's just me. 🤓✌️💜

sersss · Answer

no, he's cheating on you AND he's cheating her WITH you. He needs some serious thinking to do, after you leave him.

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

this guy is a dumbass... get rid of him... he shouldn't make his supposed relationship intrest... feel like a 3rd wheel, he should distance himself from that... other woman

padreflint · Answer

I'm thinking he's playing both of you. Seek her out and talk to her. Whether he is or not, he's being a disrespectful jerk and you should leave the relationship.

I_Got_Answers21 · Answer

I agree with cohenrique you definitely deserve way better than that!! you need to find a man that is going to make sure everyone knows that you're his Girlfriend!! Any man that wants to cater to his ex over you and act single means that he still isn't over her! I'm hoping that you left this guy because he doesn't deserve you💯💯

COMMODOREII · Answer

Why is he treating her with more respect than you. It should be the other way around.

Knuxx · Answer

Tell him how you feel and if that doesn't change anything leave. An ultimatum will just send him to her at the end of the day to complain if she knows or hide and be comforted.

coolhandroo · Answer

Sounds like he's making a fool out of you. I would be say over that situation and I'm not a jealous person at all. You deserve self respect and part of that is demanding respect from others

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds dodgy. A huge red flag. He seems to be playing both of you.

Laozi · Answer

Leave him. Don't waste your time for someone who wants you just for the sex. You're nothing but a sex toy for him. He doesn't care about you or your feelings.

Countrywildmangirl · Answer

That seems like he still likes her. Communication with him

Daniela1982 · Answer

How do you know she is an "ex" and that they are still married and he just wants a little on the side?

Konabeana · Answer

You should hide in the bottom compartment of your sink... that’s the best place. No, don’t take his bs.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Do you have ANY self respect?

LexyIsSexy23 · Answer

100$ he's still sleeping with her. You're smarter then this I hope. That's ridiculous I'd laugh and say bye

the_sinner · Answer

You need to take the matter into your own hands now before it's too late.

Anonymous · Answer

You are much better than that!!! Get out of the situation girl x

kiara234 · Answer

Maube he isn't over her.. if he is so close and doen't want to hurt her.. he is just not over the girl.. if he really loved you he wouldn't act the way he does.. you deserve better then that

Socalminx1987 · Answer

There should be boundaries when it comes to each othets feelings. If you dont like it then he needs to put a stop to it or make u apart of it on everyway

outside_Toronto · Answer

Yeah this is weird. You should have a conversation about this with him

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Tell him to deal with it cuz till handle it never goes away

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Remove yourself from the equation and let them fuck, this is obviously what they both want.

sonu789 · Answer

I advise , you do confidentially whatever you do in this case.. if you live with him , trust him without doubt , because doubtful love is so painful

brandito1st · Answer

Thats shifty. Ask him why he's hiding you from her and mabye tell her your self.

adonisinchicoca · Answer

Girl he's cheating on you I'm sorry

Mahesh_1987 · Answer

Make sure what you are upto. It might hurt you in future

thegreatestscott22 · Answer

Find out why he is not telling his ex about you. The reason is the answer

Clara_ · Answer

How can you still don't think that he is cheating while he is clearly shown you that much?

mattl338 · Answer

Tell him to stop being an immature child.

Twalli · Answer

If he hid her from you, why are you surprised he is hiding you from her?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Total red flag. Smells shady a f.

crapperDArappah · Answer

have sex with him in front of his ex.. that will break the ice and make her more comfortable in both of y'all presence

sledge1111 · Answer

Something is up for sure. Just move on or tell her

WhiteShoulder · Answer

That’s awful! Tell him you won’t put up with that.

lailison · Answer

Confront him! It's a bit sus not gonna lie.

peachyknees · Answer

Honey, I doubt this is your boyfriend.

navyP · Answer

Call him a pussy and tell him to man the fuck up

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