What should you do if your significant other doesn't turn you on anymore?

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Is there anything to be done? If attraction is fading way too soon?

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Attraction can fade away for so many reasons, and be brought back in so many ways that I truly believe there is no one answer for everybody.

You could try something new/different in bed. Anything that feels like you have never had an experience like this before. Or separate temporarily in case it helps you to miss your partner. Or doing something exciting together, like riding a rollercoaster. That should work too.

If it is happening because of things like changes in appearance or something else troubling you, you NEED to talk it out and be open and honest about what exactly is keeping you from being turned on anymore. Maybe just solving that issue would help.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You cheat.

Desire-for-Greatness · Accepted Answer

I'm assuming she gained weight or something.

If that's the case then you can take her to a dietitian and a gym (in a nice way).

Both of you go so it's not offensive to her and you'll have fun too.

Diet is 90% exercise is 10%.

Ban dessert from the house in one way or the other and limit carbohydrate consumption.

If weight isn't the issue then try to solve that issue whatever it is.

I assume you liked her when you got married so it's not impossible to bring back the attraction.

kamalravi25 · Accepted Answer

If she is gaining weight, then show her how to lose it. I think u both should exercise everyday together ateast for an hour.

alex202020 · Answer

have you ever heard the saying: show me a picture of a hot woman and I'll show you a picture of a guy who is bored of fucking her.
There is nothing you can do and I'm almost convinced it is like nature a way and that's why I will never get in a real relationship ever again. No I don't lie to women I just tell them straight up, they can take it or leave it. just get a few dogs so you understand what true love is, and go out being an honest guy and bring home a straggler every once in a while.

ikEVERYTHING · Answer

Leave or find a way to fix it or give it time I dont know man. I would say leave, sexual attraction is a huge I mean huge factor and important thing so honestly they can be the nicest person with the best personality but if you dont want to fuck em.. what you gonna do? Fuck their personality?

Anonymous · Answer

attraction fading and comming back and fading again is normal, especialy in long term relationships. if however when the attraction fades and u also dont feel the love anymore... then it may be time to have a serious think. my partner used to be a brick layer and so was fucking hot! we fell in love and then he became a truck driver and has a gut and no longer has as much hair. he's still the man i fell in love with. yes when he puts on a little extra weight sometimes its hard to be attracted but as long as there is still love there is nothing to worry about. he's not exactly going to be attracted to me when i get fat from having babies. but he will love me.

loveslongnails · Answer

Maybe you just have a wandering heart and she was never really that "significant" to you in the first place, but rather, she was convenient. Maybe she was really your "C. O.", your convenient other?

TacocaT6969 · Answer

Either learn to find them attractive again or move on.

Appearances change. Personality is forever.

If love begins to fade because of lack of physical attractiveness, then there wasn’t really any love there to begin with, just the basic release of chemicals in the brain designed to encourage reproduction.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

Try spicing things up, watch porn together, role play, new move you want to try, new location to have sex? But if it fizzled out, it fizzled out. It happens. If you don't see it coming back, have an honest conversation about it with your partner about it.

mattmanyah2 · Answer

After going through your responses I can see you don't care about her it's 30lbs at most. Either she has a personality you want to be around and you're willing to put the effort in to encourage her to loss weight ( I don't think you are) or you can dump her and save her time.

sheildagent · Answer

Perhaps try to attempt to offer new sexual things to the table. Talk about how the sparks are fading and what you can two together can do to spice things up.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

It’s bound to happen no matter who you are with. That is what science calls the end of the honeymoon phase. When that happens you need to decide if the relationship you are in is enough of a practical benefit for you to stay or you can leave but that won’t leave your ex in a very good place. If you stick with it though it will come back but it will be a hard couple months. Trust me it will be very rewarding.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

Say something cliché “it’s not you it’s me. I don’t think we should be together anymore.” Then break up. Why is this so hard for people to do? I suppose people want more drama than necessary.

_gigi18 · Answer

Be honest with them see if you can work it out. If you can't asses your relationship see how you actually feel and let them down easy. Move on after a while and hopefully the next person is a better fit

DanaeAdam5 · Answer

Break up with him/her. Unless ur asexual being in a relationship with someone that doesn't turn you on is not only wrong for you and your partner but also a waste of time.

Harleigh90 · Answer

Take things back to dating again and rekindle the original passion.

claryy · Answer

I would talk to him, telling him what is going on and then we will try something to solve this problem, if it can't be solved I would talk with him to te him it is over

R_ūshī · Answer

Talk to her and try to make things work. Try your best.  If nothing works, it's better to end everything and move on.

Torari · Answer

Dump them. If i wanted to spend a lot of my time with someone i'm not attracted too, i'd get more friends. I i don't get a boner looking at her, i'm not interested in a relationship with her.

perfectnastywife · Answer

Have a nice civil conversation discuss your needs and agree on how many and how often you can have sex with other people and if existing friends or family members are ok or not. Oh and where is best locate home or away.

JimboGB · Answer

It is impossible if I'm in control. Id have to bore myself. If you having bad sex, look in the mirror.

Anonymous · Answer

We opened the relationship on her side. She gets some from her friend when she needs it. I actually get excited about it and the attraction is intensified and we have fun.

Richard-Tilburg · Answer

Try to find out what is wrong and try to work together on it. 😇

MountAverage · Answer

That would depend on the reasons for why the attraction is fading away, wouldn't it?

Romeocuck · Answer

Let her have sex with another guy in front of you.. you'll be reminded real good how much you love her

colin77 · Answer

Yea change yr style of things... everyday remind her why u love her... give her th affection, conversation, attention she minds...

Anonymous · Answer

For me I would just suck it up because I chose them in the first place and would hate to upset them. I don’t believe in breaking up with someone.

amy_michelle · Answer

See if there’s anything at all you can go do to fix it, and if not... it’s time to move on.

emilyj64 · Answer

I would say to try to do something new

Anonymous · Answer

Break it off but I guess don’t tel them why. A girl Deserves a man that’s attracted to her, don’t waste their time.

Agem123 · Answer

It's not meant to be, next😂

Iamanintrovert · Answer

Then they are not the significant other

elly91 · Answer

Leave and end it.

BlackWidow93 · Answer

Date someone new.

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